My partner relapsed. I need help
I’m utterly gutted and in despair for some words of encouragement, advice, or hope. My partner has relapsed after 8+ years of sobriety… the worst part is she won’t come clean to me even after confrontation including concrete proof. The worst part is this woman helped me get into recovery. We got together when she had a few years sober, and I wasn’t. I didn’t know I had a problem at the time. I’m still sober after rehab (6 months) and things seemed to be going absolutely amazing. Had a suspicion as she’s been ‘off’ the last few weeks. Found out she’s asking for/leaving the house while I’m gone to get high. I’ve never known this person not sober. I tried talking with her and get her to open a week ago. She acts like everything is great and her excuse for being off is that she’s just trying to recover from the last few months of the hell I put her through. I had enough and told them I knew. She said I don’t understand and she’d explain things when there was a better time to discuss. Left for hours and no clue where she went (we can assume) and is adamant everything is fine. When she feels too cornered she immediately goes off about me and everything I’ve done wrong. I don’t know what to do. Her family doesn’t have a clue. I don’t know how to support them without enabling them. PLEASE HELP ME