u/Strawberryryyyyy

throwaway for obvious reasons NSFW, sorry in advance

me and my husband have known each other for years before marriage. never dated, but as we hit our 20s it was just kindof understood between us, and our families were happy with it too. we hung out a lot and attraction was always there. he wanted to date before nikkah but I said no. after nikkah he tried again, i said let's just wait for rukhsati

anyway few months in now and everything is great. no major arguments or issues except one thing which has been bothering me and i can't talk about this stuff with anyone tbh

our sex life is pretty active already, multiple times a week sometimes multiple times a day even, so it's not like I have low drive or an attraction issue or anytjing like that. im also not restrictive, im up for trying new stuff sometimes

but he wants more. he wants it to go on for longer, wants to switch things up multiple times even after I'm done, always wants to try something new, and he just doesn't get tired at all. but I feel sore after a point and it's physically uncomfortable afterwards

he's never said anything bad about it or made me feel bad because he’s a nice guy but its kinda obvious uska mood off hai lately. hes not angry or rude but just unsatisfied or frustrated I guess. and its nerve wracking because i dont have anything to address but i know its causing him discomfort

we never discussed any of this before marriage obviously. so we weren't aware of this issue. I didn't even think there would be one

ive heard of so many cases of dead bedrooms or guys ending up looking elsewhere because they're not satisfied, and that men are sexual creatures, their sexual needs are important and they can do stuff if unfulfilled (i know this is more an individual or cultural thing but, hes a guy of our culture so) I fully trust my husband and know he's not like that, but the anxiety still eats me up sometimes.

for context we both come from fairly liberal and educated backgrounds so it's not like we're shy or naive about this stuff but i still feel awkward in asking him upfront and idk if this is normal and perfectly okay or if it can raise concern

Ig im asking if anyone dealt with a drive difference like this? How is it handled.. does it end up becoming a long term issue or is it just something you live with? wld appreciate any insight

throwaway for obvious reasons NSFW, sorry in advance

me and my husband have known each other for years before marriage. never dated, but as we hit our 20s it was just kindof understood between us, and our families were happy with it too. we hung out a lot and attraction was always there. he wanted to date before nikkah but I said no. after nikkah he tried again, i said let's just wait for rukhsati

anyway few months in now and everything is great. no major arguments or issues except one thing which has been bothering me and i can't talk about this stuff with anyone tbh

our sex life is pretty active already, multiple times a week sometimes multiple times a day even, so it's not like I have low drive or an attraction issue or anytjing like that. im also not restrictive, im up for trying new stuff sometimes

but he wants more. he wants it to go on for longer, wants to switch things up multiple times even after I'm done, always wants to try something new, and he just doesn't get tired at all. but I feel sore after a point and it's physically uncomfortable afterwards

he's never said anything bad about it or made me feel bad because he’s a nice guy but its kinda obvious uska mood off hai lately. hes not angry or rude but just unsatisfied or frustrated I guess. and its nerve wracking because i dont have anything to address but i know its causing him discomfort

we never discussed any of this before marriage obviously. so we weren't aware of this issue. I didn't even think there would be one

ive heard of so many cases of dead bedrooms or guys ending up looking elsewhere because they're not satisfied, and that men are sexual creatures, their sexual needs are important and they can do stuff if unfulfilled (i know this is more an individual or cultural thing but, hes a guy of our culture so) I fully trust my husband and know he's not like that, but the anxiety still eats me up sometimes.

for context we both come from fairly liberal and educated backgrounds so it's not like we're shy or naive about this stuff but i still feel awkward in asking him upfront and idk if this is normal and perfectly okay or if it can raise concern

Ig im asking if anyone dealt with a drive difference like this? How is it handled.. does it end up becoming a long term issue or is it just something you live with? wld appreciate any insight

throwaway for obvious reasons

NSFW, sorry in advance

me and my husband have known each other for years before marriage. never dated, but as we hit our 20s it was just kindof understood between us, and our families were happy with it too. we hung out a lot and attraction was always there.

he wanted to date before nikkah but I said no. after nikkah he tried again, i said let's just wait for rukhsati

anyway few months in now and everything is great. no major arguments or issues

except one thing which has been bothering me and i can't talk about this stuff with anyone tbh

our sex life is pretty active already, multiple times a week sometimes multiple times a day even, so it's not like I have low drive or an attraction issue or anytjing like that. im also not restrictive, im up for trying new stuff sometimes

but he wants more. he wants it to go on for longer, wants to switch things up multiple times even after I'm done, always wants to try something new, and he just doesn't get tired at all.

but I feel sore after a point and it's physically uncomfortable afterwards

he's never said anything bad about it or made me feel bad because he’s a nice guy but its kinda obvious uska mood off hai lately. hes not angry or rude but just unsatisfied or frustrated I guess. and its nerve wracking because i dont have anything to address but i know its causing him discomfort

we never discussed any of this before marriage obviously. so we weren't aware of this issue. I didn't even think there would be one

ive heard of so many cases of dead bedrooms or guys ending up looking elsewhere because they're not satisfied, and that men are sexual creatures, their sexual needs are important and they can do stuff if unfulfilled (i know this is more an individual or cultural thing but, hes a guy of our culture so)

I fully trust my husband and know he's not like that, but the anxiety still eats me up sometimes.

for context we both come from fairly liberal and educated backgrounds so it's not like we're shy or naive about this stuff but i still feel awkward in asking him upfront and idk if this is normal and perfectly okay or if it can raise concern

Ig im asking if anyone dealt with a drive difference like this? How is it handled.. does it end up becoming a long term issue or is it just something you live with? wld appreciate any insight