u/Striking_Use8614

Feel like I have been very supportive of my partner who had prostate removal surgery at the end of May. From buying him most of the post surgery care needs and avocating for him in the hospital to attending PT appointments to take notes.

This relationship that is less than a year old and he was already found out about his condition when we met.

There was a post in here from a women who partner had ED from prostate removal surgery and did not take any medications to possible help it. I discussed the post with him and said I would want you to do everything possible so we could have sex again. He agreed he would.

I understand that it takes time to heal but part of the issue is he is not doing his exercises. I have to remind him and even then he doesn't do them.

He has the summer off from work so he can not use that as an excuse.

Just told him he has month to fix this and that's it then I am leaving him.

Am I being too harsh?

Please help me understand why someone would not take 10 to 20 minutes to do some kegels to heal themselves after surgery?

Never found a good mascara at dollar tree. Even most beauty influencers say to skip the mascara but I see a few new brands.

Any of them worth buying?

Has anyone else had surgery recently Bergan Mercy? It really seems to really have gone downhill.

One concern was the machine that meassured blood oxygen levels. It kept beeping because it was low but was told the machine is so old that it doesn't meassure it correctly but it was 'probably fine'. Looked up the model it up and it was from 2008 had the old pixelated green letter screen.

What hospital would be better in the for surgery in the future?

My partner had surgery today and only the left side nerves were spared the surgeon went wide on the right. They said both sides would be spared before surgery.

What does this mean for recovery? How bad will his issues be in the future for incontinence and ED?

Also I think a resident did the surgery not the surgeon he has been seeing which I do not think my partner knew about. How do I find this information out? A very young doctor came in to speak to us I thought he was the PA at first. There was so much going on it with everything.

Super stressed because his post op care has not been great at all as from my previous post.

My partner had surgery this morning and is not getting great care in the hospital.

His family took him in this morning and I came in the afternoon to relieve them.

When I arrived he had only a small cup of water that was empty has not been seen by a nurse at all and in an uncomfortable bed and with gas distress. First hospital stay for him so he does not know what to expect. I come from a medical family so I know what to ask for. I immediately got him a large plastic water jug, an air mattress for his bed and asked if he needed an incentive spirometer.

The CNA accommodated most of it but he had has not orders to walk at all and he woke up from surgery at noon. He also has a lot of swelling in his right hand which is concerning.

What did everyone experience in the hospital post op? What should I ask for treatment wise? He is only 53 and relatively healthy.

What should I ask for treatment wise because you can have the best surgeon in the world but if you are neglected post surgery it could be fatal.