u/Substantial_Cry2421

For example what things should I never do with a toddler lest I end up having to do it 50 million times a day forever more?

I’m newly a parent to 2 under 2. My older boy is 21 months and recently we walked past one of those amusement arcade type cars at the shopping centre and let him go in it. Well one go (£2 btw) was not enough apparently and he had an absolute meltdown when we left it and now screams whenever we go past one. I’m sort of new to toddler mentality and I’m now realising once is never enough for any fun activity for a toddler and starting to wonder if there’s any other seemingly innocent things you should avoid doing with a toddler.

I’ve discovered we should also never leave the park and never clip anything together like a rucksack without help from our toddler or we will be punished

I had a baby via c section just under a week ago and she went to nicu and therefore have hardly been able to hold her at all. I didn’t start pumping as I have been totally traumatised and still am.

The consultant said once my baby is off her wires etc I could try breastfeeding for some bonding.

I wasn’t necessarily planning to breastfeed - I was open to trying it but was ok with formula if that was how it ended up, but now that I’ve seen her with nothing but needles and plastic and wires, I do wish I could give her something more human and comforting than all of that and so now and second guessing myself.

I won’t be able to hold her to try feeding until maybe the next couple of days but I wasn’t sure if there was even any point. My breast became engorged 3 days ago and I haven’t touched them at all so I’m guessing the window of starting breast feed successfully is closing and might not even be possible anymore.

I’m reluctant at this stage to get one the “3 hourly pumping” train as I just don’t know if it’s going to just add a whole other stress to the mix of what I’m already dealing with, but if that’s the only option then will consider it. Ideally I’d just be able to do a bit of breastfeeding and a bit of formula feeding - I never expect to be fully breastfeeding at any time so my expectations are quite low for supply and really just hoping to maybe be able to do it once or twice a day.

Any advice would be appreciated

My full term baby has been in the nicu for 3 days now after having a period of stopping breathing and turning blue. Now they’ve had 10 episodes of it. They’ve not been able to find any cause for it and it keeps randomly happening and now they’re going to start brain scans and a brain ecg. This is worrying me so much that they’re going to find some awful neurological disorder causing it but they keep saying “it might just be the baby getting used to being out of the womb and will grow out of it” but from what I have read it’s normal in premature babies but it’s really not normal in full term babies and signals something underlying going on.

Has anyone had a full term baby have breathing issues and everything turn out ok?

Wondering if anyone has had this happen in a baby that 38.5 weeks or more? Baby 2 days old stopped breathing and was rushed to nicu where they had 8 more episodes of it over 24 hours. No cause at all can be found from any tests they’ve done. It’s terrifying and obviously it can’t be classed as apnea of prematurity as it’s a full term baby. Otherwise there is a lot of sleepiness in general and feeding is a bit hit and miss, sometimes guzzling a lot and sometimes hardly anything. Don’t know if any of that is related at all. Just looking for some advice or anything about why it would be happening and once the episodes stop what do we do? I can’t imagine just going home and hoping it doesn’t happen again when the terror of it happening the first time means I’ll never be able to sleep again

I feel like an absolutely shit mum right now because my 18m old is having the most boring lonely time of his life. I had to stop work early because of so many issues this pregnancy including really bad pelvic girdle pain, which stops me going anywhere and can barely lift my toddler. My husband works all the time so I have had to baby gate me and my toddler into the living room (which isn’t even very big) and lie on the couch all day doing nothing. He brings books to me and I read them to him whenever he does but he’s just completely bored out of his mind that I’ve started letting him have hours of screen time a day. Never mind how bad that is, it’s also destroying my own brain having to listen to absolute brain dead songs for hours on end. He gets the bare minimum like cereal then pasta and chicken nuggets for lunch. I just feel so guilty when he brings random toys or bits of torn paper over to me and is trying to interact but I am in pain and so exhausted that I can barely muster up fake enthusiasm. Like is this really his life now - playing with bits of torn paper by himself while I lie there like a sack of potatoes?It’s making me worry that I am going to be like this when the baby is born, like maybe I’m mentally destroyed and depressed and will just be as useless when there’s two of them to care for. Sorry for the massive rant I just feel like a depressed bored shit mum who is losing my sanity listening to kids songs on repeat all day long.

Just curious - did you think it was going to be terrible but it turned out better than expected? Or did you think you had it all under control but it blew your world apart more than you could have ever imagined?