u/Substantial_Hold4597

Open Letter to Affair Partner

Everyone says to NOT blame the AP and that your partner is 100% Responsible. For sometime I had this same thought and as a project manager I can't help but think of the RACI chart. In that light, yes... the AP should be held accountable for thier actions.

I understand that in the land of AP's there are variables;

\- If they had no idea the person was married then I agree no accountability there.

\- If the AP knew about the marriage, regardless of how the WW portrayed you the betrayed, then they are partially at fault.

\- Some AP's purposefully look for married folks.

\- Some AP's even pride thier ability to wreck a home.

I've been producing music to process my feelings and express my emotions.

Money and fame are not my goals. Hell I've even told other musicians they can cover my work and I'll give them all royalties to it. My hope is that my music resonates with others and can help them through thier tough times.

With that said, I released a song last week and it is gaining traction. People tell me "it's a banger" and "this will be a chart topper". I believe them. It is catchy and universal enough that even those not in my situation enjoy the story in the song.

I'm on all streaming platforms. As well as promoting my music on Tik Tok.

Check out; Placeholder by K Phrost

Brutal feedback is welcome.

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u/Substantial_Hold4597 — 2 days ago

Open Letter to Affair Partners

Open letter to Affait Partners

Everyone says to NOT blame the AP and that your partner is 100% Responsible. For sometime I had this same thought and as a project manager I can't help but think of the RACI chart. In that light, yes... the AP should be held accountable for thier actions.

I understand that in the land of AP's there are variables;

\- If they had no idea the person was married then I agree no accountability there.

\- If the AP knew about the marriage, regardless of how the WW portrayed you the betrayed, then they are partially at fault.

\- Some AP's purposefully look for married folks.

\- Some AP's even pride thier ability to wreck a home.

For those lurking here for a while, you'll recognize that I'm often providing links to music im producing. This is my outlet to express my emotions and process my feelings.

Money and fame are not my goals. Hell I've even told other musicians they can cover my work and I'll give them all royalties to it. My hope is that my music resonates with others and can help them through thier tough times.

With that said, I released a song last week and it is gaining traction. People tell me "it's a banger" and "this will be a chart topper". I believe them. It is catchy and universal enough that even those not in our situation enjoy the story in the song.

I'm on all streaming platforms. As well as promoting my music on Tik Tok.

Check out; Placeholder by K Phrost

Brutal feedback is welcome.

reddit.com
u/Substantial_Hold4597 — 2 days ago

I was permabanned for basically explaining to the cheaters and AP's the damage they leave in thier wake. Not surprised that they don't care.

u/Substantial_Hold4597 — 17 days ago

DARVO (Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender) is a manipulation tactic used by abusers to evade accountability by denying wrongdoing, attacking the accuser, and flipping the script to portray themselves as the victim. Coined by Dr. Jennifer Freyd, it is a common, often systematic response in intimate partner abuse and workplace scenarios.

After learning about this, so many things clicked. Recognizing these unfurl in real time help to understand what is happening and formulate my responses to sit it down.

As a side project i wrote a song about it. Please give it a listen and let me know if i captured spirit lyrically and the mood instrumentally

https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=5H0JFXfbnzM&si=Xy5YTndwZ5j8RmH0

u/Substantial_Hold4597 — 18 days ago