u/Substantial_Lab4087

We’ve had our foster dog for 3 weeks and we’re at our wits end with his separation anxiety.

I work from home 4x a week, my partner fully in person. The one day I go into work we give him trazadone as prescribed by the vet to use when needed. A week after we got him we told the rescue and they got us a vet appointment that day to get it. He’s fine on trazadone, but insanely tired the rest of the day so we only try to use it when we are gone 3+ hours.

I only leave other times about an hour or two to workout, grocery shop, etc. and have had a lot of anxiety that’s grown over the last few weeks bc I feel super guilty for leaving him. Maybe I am a bad foster parent for having non negotiable for leaving for going on a run and going to the gym, but I have to leave to keep my mental health in check. Maybe our lifestyles don’t support having him as a foster and that’s okay, but we want to do what we can before giving up on him.

He usually cries a lot of the time we leave, but it’s not too loud and sometimes he will chill out for a few minutes, cry, then chill out. As long as he’s not barking it was fine. But, now he’s started aggressively biting his crate and it’s getting to the point where it’s extremely dangerous and he I’m going to seriously hurt himself. He drew blood today and we saw him going feral on the crate for the first time on camera. It was really scary. We know that when he’s alone without being crated he can be destructive too. We’ve only left him once for 45 minutes in our hallway, and he chewed a hole in the door. We thought it could be because he hadn’t been comfortable in the hallway and so that was our fault, but we think it’s just because he was alone. For the 20 minutes we’ve left him alone supervised with cameras he scratches at the doors and floor. We haven’t had a chance to leave him out of his kennel for more time, but he definitely cries and screams.

When we leave the room he is fine. He sits at the door, but he doesn’t (usually) cry and is comfortable with that, it’s just when we leave because he can hear our creaky doors. AND when we leave, he could not care less about food. He goes feral for the Kong when we are home but completely ignores it when he’s anxious, even with any other high value treat. He literally is the opposite of food motivated and I don’t think any type of food could distract him.

With his behavior with his kennel we are extremely distressed and don’t know what to do. We know we need to talk to the rescue, but we wanted to see if there’s any tips right now besides give him trazadone every single time we leave no matter how long. It’s honestly getting to a point where I’m anxious all the time and might need to give him back to the rescue. He’s so perfect besides this.

Got my resort restock today and let me say I am so disappointed. The cherry shorts are completely see through. Like even more than the light blue lux set sport shorts I bought. You can see my entire underwear line and a tattoo I have. I am so disappointed, I was so excited for these shorts. I cannot believe how expensive it can be for such quality.

Also- whatever the new sportsbody fabric is (and has been for like almost a year) it SUCKS. it’s so unflattering and does nothing to compress. My old sportsbody clothes from a year and a half ago are my go to biker shorts, for running, lifting, Pilates, etc. and I’ve been chasing that quality ever since. I need to finally learn my lesson. The new sportsbody fabric bunches up because it’s so loose and just not compressive. It also pills a ton after only wearing a few times. Disappointed but not surprised.

When will I finally learn my lesson and not become a victim to their drop method?! Will be returning everything asap. Except the tank it’s cute but the shorts are so so so ugly on me.

Me and my partner are first time fosters for the cutest pup (~2 year old boy mutt). We picked him up from the rescue on Sunday (5 days ago) and he’s been perfect, except for his attachment issues. I work from home 4 days a week (my partner is fully in person) and so I’ve spent a lot of time with him this whole week. However, he’s been left home alone 4 times this week. First time was for an hour while I went to a workout class on Tuesday morning. He wasn’t crying when I left or returned. We also kennel him up for context. Next, was an hour or so in the early evening on Tuesday, then for 45 minutes on Wednesday evening, each being around 6 pm. My partner and I heard him whining and barking on Tuesday when we left, but each time we’ve returned it’s been quiet. We don’t have AC, so we have to leave our windows open. Our windows are also extremely old and don’t do much to block out sound. When my partner returned Wednesday, we had a note from a neighbor on the door (crumpled up because my partner found it and was really frustrated). It was extremely discouraging and has been bothering my partner and I all week. I left him alone yesterday in our apartment hallway and closed all the windows, but the barks are still pretty loud.

I’m super stressed, because I want to resume living my life without fear of upsetting my neighbor who will then complain to the landlord. Our complex also has quiet hours before 7 am and after 10 pm, and we got the complaint after he’d been home alone at 7 am and 6 pm. Our foster is so brave I know he will learn, but it just will take some time. Our apartment complex is very small and walls are really thin btw, I can hear who we presume left the note with his old smokers cough two units down all the time.

He’s just a foster and is learning to be alone :( any tips encouraged with kenneling and leaving our dog, but especially tips for dealing with our grumpy neighbor and landlord (if it gets escalated)

EDIT He also doesn’t bark at any other time! Only when we aren’t home.