u/Sudden-Car-5742

I am considering relocating from the DMV to the Chester County area. I originally grew up in Bucks Co (don't want to move back there), and I have family that lives in the KoP and Phoenixville area.

I always liked the downtown Phoenixville area, but I have also been intrigued by Kennett Square and its surrounding areas. Was hoping someone could give advice on what area may be "best" for me to look at - open to many places and would like to hear thoughts (such as west chester, kennett, chadds ford, Phoenixville, etc.)

context: would be in my early-ish thirties when moving, would be looking to buy (most likely a townhome), don't have kids (but would put weight in the school district) - I would want a area where there is a lot going on in the town

Looking for any tips or advice on how to move on and let go of all this pain and hurt and anger I am feeling.

Background: my ex and I got together while he was going through a divorce. At the beginning of the relationship, he consistently reassured me that I never had to worry about him ever wanting to be back together with her, that it was a dead marriage filled with lies and infidelity. Eventually my anxieties subsided and I believed him.

Throughout our relationship, he would tell me how marrying her was a huge mistake and that they should have been divorced years ago and that it taught him a lesson.

We ended up dating for over a year and a half, and then spent 6 months “not dating” but basically dating as he kept saying he loves me, wants to be with me, and we spent every weekend together and were exclusive.

The timeline that really hurts: on may 14th, he told me he loved me multiple times. That following weekend we spent together, having sex multiple times and him saying he misses me and wants to be with me.
Then 3 days later, he tells me he is taking a trip to go visit his ex wife and her family. And he stopped speaking to me. My gut knew exactly what was happening.
This week I just found out that they slept together multiple times (basically a week after him and I did) and are now dating each other. I told him it hurts especially given how he said I never had to worry about her and that he just said he loves me.

I feel like I’ve been on an emotional rollercoaster and slapped in the face.
Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with all the pain and anger I’m feeling and also how to just move on?

How would you feel if your boyfriend was communicating with someone who he previously had an emotional (years long) and physical (few months) affair with? The affair happened while he was dating someone else- he told me about it cause he said he didn’t want to hide the friendship. I said i found it inappropriate to still keep this person in his life and she has also expressly said multiple times that she wants to marry him (he has said he doesn’t to her and only wants to be friends). He thinks because he wants a platonic friendship that it’s ok; i have said alone it also plays with this girls heart to keep her around knowing she has confessed multiple times to wanting to marry him and having romantic feelings towards him. Am i overthinking this for how i feel about this?

EDIT- we are exes. But he has said he wants me in his life and I have said I don’t support this “friendship” he has and therefore it’s hard for me to want to be in his life given this as I think it shows more of his character. I mentioned it from the “boyfriend” perspective because he has made me feel like I’m overthinking it