u/Sufficient-Raln

We have been trying for 2 years, and today we have been informed the second IU has failed, which makes me feel very defeated. I’m 31 with a good ovarian reserve. My husband is 45, and his results are mostly good, but his age is a factor that puts lots of pressure on the matter, because we don’t want to delay starting our family any longer.

I left the Dr. office very confused and helpless. He recommended starting IVF as a next step, which is ok and if I could do it next month I would. We have to wait until December so it gets covered by our insurance.

I can’t help but think that this two IU rounds have been a waste of money and emotional energy. We are drained. I guess we should have done IVF in first place, but now is easy to say and also, we did what was recommended to us…

The explanation given by our Dr is that the zona pellucida of my eggs is too thick so the sperm can’t penetrate. I have never heard this and I don’t find anything in internet. Can someone give me some info related to this?

Another question I have, since I’m looking for culprits here, is my weight really an important factor to get pregnant? I’m 5’5 and 92 lbs. I know I am very skinny, but I am healthy or that is what the doctor have been telling me all my life. For what it is worth, I feel healthy. I have always be like this and it is very hard for me to gain weight. I’m at the moment, mostly sedentary. But just the fact that I have no fat in my body could make me infertile?

TLDR: is a zona pellucida too thick a thing? Can I improve this in any way? Being underweight but healthy is really an issue?

Please, be kind, I feel very low and lonely in this journey, particularly today. Thank you