Avoidant Attachment Style
Does anyone have an Avoidant Attachment Style?
I feel like how I was raised by my independent mother, where my emotions were dismissed, led me to become an INTJ. I'm not sure if people on here feel the same way I do, but it would explain mostly why I'm considered an INTJ.
Since, I'm not that close with my family like at all. A few talks and there, but nothing special. They're mostly just absent. Basically strangers. I have a few friends that I'm close with, which I can feel safe with. So, I'll become energetic and happy, but with my family it's the complete opposite. It's cold and uncaring. I feel nothing for them and I would even say I could live without them.
When it comes to meeting people I suck completely at it. I'm only able to talk easily with new people though friends. That's where i'm more sociable. When i'm alone with a stranger, I become this cold person and it just makes me seem depressing. I guess those times isolated really impacted me. I rarely express myself in a new setting and become quiet. I just hate how awkward it gets when I have to start a conversation, so I never engage.
I use logic when it comes to literally everything too. I dismiss my emotions completely, because it's just chaotic. It's not simple and understanding. When someone else expresses their emotions, I attempt to understand them. Even though I can't feel the weight they're feeling. Since, they can be way more emotional than me. Logic saves my life in most cases. Also, I don't really care about other people's opinion. For example, they could tell me to change as a person or something ridiculous, but I always reject it. I've accepted myself and learned that it's who I am.