u/Sufficient_Corgi_147

I wanted to share something that really changed my perspective in this struggle.

I recently learned about the five stages of how thoughts develop before they become actions, a concept discussed in the Islamic spiritual tradition and taught by many contemporary teachers. It made me realize something important that not every thought that enters our minds is who we are. A lot of us think we’ve already failed the moment a sexual thought appears. But that’s not true. The first thought can simply be waswasa.

We aren’t sinful for a passing whisper. The real danger is when we keep entertaining it until it grows into desire and eventually becomes an action. That changed how I deal with urges.

Now, when a thought comes, I try not to argue with it or analyze it. I recognize it for what it is and let it pass. The earlier I ignore it, the less power it has over me.

For anyone struggling with PMO, I highly recommend learning about the five stages of thoughts in the Islamic spiritual tradition. It helped me understand that there’s a point where we still have a choice before a thought becomes an action.

May Allah protect us from waswasa, purify our hearts, and grant us the strength to lower our gaze and remain steadfast. Ameen.

So I had absolutely no idea Islamic psychology was even a thing. I was born Muslim, but I grew up in a pretty non- practicing family. Alhamdulillah, I’ve managed to learn a lot of things on my own lately. But I used to have this major problem with my own overthinking, and I just realized how to fix it. I'm sure some of you guys know about the books written by Imam Al-Ghazali. He basically breaks down human psychology into different layers like your physical body, your Nafs, your Qalb, your Ruh, and your Aql which is the intellect.

Most people either haven’t heard of this, or if they have, they don’t actually apply it or understand how it operates.

So your intellect is the part of you that monitors your thoughts. So when a shocking thought or random anxiety comes to your mind randomly, you actually have a choice in how to react like you can literally just choose to observe the thought instead.

The brain is a physical organ that generates automatic biological signals from the Nafs, but your conscious soul is a completely separate layer that is aware of those signals. Knowing this fact stops the waswas because you realize your conscious self did not create that thought. Your brain generates the physical signal, and you just choose to stay steady. That way, you can also clearly observe what your heart and desires actually want, which shows you exactly how to save them from the bad nafs in this dunya. which i find it interesting as you are acting as soul outside of your body thinking how it would move and think. (sorry for my english)

I wanted to learn more interesting facts about it, I would love to read your comments.

Jazakallah.

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Assalamu alaikum. (19M) I’m just posting this here because I need to vent and honestly didn't know where else to go.
Alhamdulillah, I do my best to follow the deen. I lower my gaze, I try to avoid girls, and I stay far away from zina. But It’s getting so hard and it’s just pissing me off lately. It haunts me that I’ve never felt loved by a woman. I just really crave that feeling of being loved, cared for, and admired. Seeing my relatives get married, look happy, and start families makes it worse. I want that so bad. I’m trying to get married, but financially I'm just not there yet. I’m putting in the effort.. praying, studying, trying to learn new skills to build my future but i feel like waiting is exhausting. Sometimes the loneliness just hits me out of nowhere and it completely haunts me to the point where I just cry. I’m trying to do everything right and stay halal, but the emotional toll is heavy. Does anyone else ever feel this way?

Everytime she hears words from random ppl suggesting her their experiences with this and that, she just immediately starts to believe it and she thinks that it’s gonna be that easy to achieve, while me as her son hardly studying for these subjects that i think the right fit for me. Also i’ve always wanted to balance my studies in secular and ismalic education, but it seems like they ignore what i just wanted, also i wanted to be more practing and knowledgeable about islam, they think this and that would’ve been better for me if i did it. and it stressed me out when they only think about the worldy education, how it’s gonna help me. but I really care about my deen asn akhirah while paying attention to my goal in life. It is actually sad. For how many times i’m telling them politely that I just don’t want that degree. How do i deal with this kind of parents? Should i just ignore my mom?

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