u/SuitNo35080

My (28m) girlfriend (26f) of 5 months is back home in the UK for work and visiting family.

Relationship has been going great and i definitely see her as a longtime partner at the very least.

She was been catching up with friends drinking and staying out late, which is fine with me, especially with world cup games making everything so festive back home for her.

Usually get a good night text from her which I wake up to due to the time difference. Woke up way before sunrise and needed to pee and sent her a message while she’d still be out - nothing.
Went back to bed and woke up a couple hours later, also nothing.

Nothing to really fret about as we’d missed messages all the time even when we’re in the same city, but this morning just gave me a kind of weird feeling which I can’t seem to shake off.

She finally calls me on her way to work and says she had a big night yada yada yada - all above board but then she mentions that a guy at the bar was hitting on her and that she said she had a boyfriend she’d be telling this to. (I’m now finding it weird she didn’t text me at the time that happened or that speaking about me didn’t trigger her to check my messages in the first place).

She’s also mentioned that male colleagues have been messaging her to catch up for a drink, which is also harmless. if someone was saying they’re anxious because of this I’d tell them to relax - but I guess all these things are adding up in my head and fuelling an insecurity.

we’ve both spoken about people we know getting cheated on and how we could both never do just that so I’m at odds whether or not to bring it up because I can see that I’m jumping to conclusions about her cheating. usually I feel like she adores me and so the possibility doesn’t even cross my mind, but I guess as a couple weeks have gone by, I’m starting to feel insecure.

Am I overthinking? Should I have a discussion about this or do I just leave it because I should trust her?

Thank you

tl;dr - girlfriend is overseas and is being hit on at bars, don’t know whether to worry about her acting on it or not and whether to have a discussion about it. ty.