u/Suitable-Passage-582

I'm. 19F Hey! I'm looking to make some friends and hopefully find people I actually click with.

A little about me: I like reading, writing, journaling, drawing, games, anime, movies, true crime, puzzles/Sudoku, and randomly researching things that catch my interest. I’m also interested in languages and literature, so I can talk about those for way too long sometimes.

I'm mainly looking for friendship, nothing romantic. I’d prefer people who are okay with actually getting to know each other rather than just exchanging a few messages and disappearing.

If we have some interests in common, feel free to say hi and tell me a little about yourself :)✨

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Hey ! I'm 19 yeara old I'm looking to make some friends and hopefully find people I actually click with.

A little about me: I like reading, writing, journaling, drawing, games, anime, movies, true crime, puzzles/Sudoku, and randomly researching things that catch my interest. I’m also interested in languages and literature, so I can talk about those for way too long sometimes.

I'm mainly looking for friendship, nothing romantic. I’d prefer people who are okay with actually getting to know each other rather than just exchanging a few messages and disappearing.

If we have some interests in common, feel free to say hi and tell me a little about yourself :)✨

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I’m trying to find a game I played on a computer when I was a kid don't remember exactly when .and . I don’t remember the name, but here’s what I remember:

- It was a 2D game.

- There were several raccoon characters: blue, yellow, green, and pink.

- The pink raccoon was female.

- The main character I remember was dark blue.

- You could move left and right and jump.

- There were obstacles/hazards, and I remember having to avoid things like trains and water.

- I think the gameplay involved moving forward and jumping over/around obstacles.

- I played it on a PC/computer

That’s unfortunately all I remember. Does anyone recognize it?

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I’ve recently started researching random topics just because I get curious about them. For example, I’m currently researching owls and collecting information from different sources.

But I’m not really sure how to structure everything. Do you start with a specific question? Do you take notes from each source separately, compare the information, write a conclusion, keep track of sources, etc.?

I’d like to make my research feel more organized instead of just collecting random facts.

So, if you also research things for fun, what does your process look like?

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I’m starting to realize that my problem isn’t really about one specific hobby. I think I have a perfectionism problem, and it’s starting to affect a lot of things I enjoy.

For example, when I’m drawing, I can enjoy it until I make a mistake or something looks uneven. Then I start focusing on what’s wrong with the whole drawing, and sometimes I just want to throw it away.

The same thing happens with journaling. I want the handwriting, colors, spacing, and everything to look good. If I make a small mistake, I can lose the motivation to continue because now the page doesn’t look “right” anymore.

It also happens with reading. If I come across too many words I don’t know, I start feeling like I’m not understanding enough, and I can lose the motivation to read.

Even with things like Sudoku, puzzles, and games, I sometimes get frustrated when I can’t figure something out quickly. Instead of seeing it as part of the process, I start feeling like I’m failing at it.

And with English, I want to improve my writing, but I’m scared of making grammar or vocabulary mistakes, so I can spend too much time thinking about whether what I wrote is good enough instead of just writing.

Movies and books can even be affected by this mindset because sometimes I feel like I need to experience them “properly” or get everything immediately.

The weird part is that I genuinely want to do these things. Drawing, reading, journaling, puzzles, learning languages, etc. are things I actually enjoy. But I keep turning them into tests where I have to perform well.

I know “just stop being a perfectionist” isn’t realistic, so I’m looking for actual advice.

For anyone who has dealt with something similar: How did you learn to tolerate being bad at something, making mistakes, or creating something imperfect without immediately wanting to quit?

I’d especially like practical things that helped you change this mindset rather than just “don’t worry about it.”

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I’m starting to realize that my problem isn’t really about one specific hobby. I think I have a perfectionism problem, and it’s starting to affect a lot of things I enjoy.

For example, when I’m drawing, I can enjoy it until I make a mistake or something looks uneven. Then I start focusing on what’s wrong with the whole drawing, and sometimes I just want to throw it away.

The same thing happens with journaling. I want the handwriting, colors, spacing, and everything to look good. If I make a small mistake, I can lose the motivation to continue because now the page doesn’t look “right” anymore.

It also happens with reading. If I come across too many words I don’t know, I start feeling like I’m not understanding enough, and I can lose the motivation to read.

Even with things like Sudoku, puzzles, and games, I sometimes get frustrated when I can’t figure something out quickly. Instead of seeing it as part of the process, I start feeling like I’m failing at it.

And with English, I want to improve my writing, but I’m scared of making grammar or vocabulary mistakes, so I can spend too much time thinking about whether what I wrote is good enough instead of just writing.

Movies and books can even be affected by this mindset because sometimes I feel like I need to experience them “properly” or get everything immediately.

The weird part is that I genuinely want to do these things. Drawing, reading, journaling, puzzles, learning languages, etc. are things I actually enjoy. But I keep turning them into tests where I have to perform well.

I know “just stop being a perfectionist” isn’t realistic, so I’m looking for actual advice.

For anyone who has dealt with something similar: How did you learn to tolerate being bad at something, making mistakes, or creating something imperfect without immediately wanting to quit?

I’d especially like practical things that helped you change this mindset rather than just “don’t worry about it.”

Many might say it's nothing but it hurts really.

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I study English at university, and I can understand most things I read or hear, but I struggle when I have to actually use the language.

My biggest problems are writing naturally, finding the right words, avoiding repetitive vocabulary, and expressing my thoughts without constantly worrying about grammar or spelling mistakes.

I've been trying to write regularly, read books, learn new vocabulary, and practice expressing my opinions in English. But sometimes I overthink every sentence so much that I end up avoiding writing altogether.

I'm looking for advice from people who have improved their English significantly, especially if you were already at an intermediate/advanced level but still felt stuck.

What actually helped you improve your writing and become more natural and confident in English?

I'd also appreciate recommendations for ways to get regular feedback on my writing. Even short pieces would be useful.

Thanks to anyone who takes the time to answer.