r/perfectionism

Title explains a lot:( I’ve been overthinking about my focus when went for a blood test and future eye test because of it .

If I play things or watch them in my unfocused state they feel ruined or tainted in my eyes so over the past nearly 6 months I put off a lot of stuff I wanted to do.

I think I can play games fine,. That’s the main issue of feeling ruined. I brought a used old unrelated console and played fine. I brought it since I didn’t care if it felt off or ruined. So I just don’t know but I miss my main consoles.

There’s a deadline for some of the projects I put off due to online services and so now I’m stuck between wanting to wait until I feel normal or missing out forever. I hate that my brain cares so much about if I’m focused and that hyper focus means I never play:(

Please help me change my mindset, I’m so miserable overthinking and being a slave to my arbitrary rules.

I’m trying to improve myself but I keep running into the same problem.

I analyze everything.

Before starting something new, I think about every possible outcome, every mistake I could make, and whether it’s the right choice.

Sometimes I feel like I’m waiting for the perfect moment that never comes.

I want to become someone who takes action instead of someone who only thinks about action.

Has anyone successfully changed this habit?

I’m figuring out that I have ‘analysis paralysis’. I research too much, over deliberate on both low stakes and high stakes decisions, and once the decision is made I second guess myself. I ask far too many people to weigh in (and mostly reject their advice). I return purchases fairly often, buy from stores based on return policy, read numerous reviews, etc. if this sounds like you, what has helped? What type of counseling is best to overcome this type of perfectionism? No jokes about overthinking my overthinking!

I maybe hoped that through exposing myself to challenging situations, learning that I am capable of doing the stuff I thought I could not do, that I would become more sure of myself. And while I did become more confident, the imposter syndrome always sneaks back on me.

I started a new job a few months ago, and while it’s going quite well, am learning a lot and have gotten positive feedback on my work, my fears ar exhausting me. I am paranoid of making mistakes, which leads me to triple checking my work, which makes me slower and makes me afraid of being too slow, which I already was. And the stupid thing is, even after all that I’m still not confident I did alright. This kind of thing is nothing new to me but it’s almost becoming like some sort of obsession? like I cannot help to extra check the small things I was already careful with. Does anyone have similar experiences? I know I probably should not allow myself to triple check my work, but It’s so hard to stop.