The keyboard, headphones, and mouse are all 50% off!!! In stores only and stock is likely limited. It was about $35 for the mouse, $60 for the keyboard, and $55 for the headphones.
I wanted this so bad when it was released but there was no way I could afford it. Now it’s mine! Now if only I could find a way to get my hands on the chair… haha
Her current name is Bonnie and her original name was Beauty. We currently have a male dog named Fig/Figment. Our front runners right now are Honey or Daisy, but I’d love to hear what ya’ll think!
I say this with all the love in my heart but our 3 y.o. adopted havanese Fig is A HANDFUL. If dogs had love languages, his would be play. There is apparently no amount of fetch, walks, tug of war, and puzzles that will wear him out. Or… at least not that my wife and I, both full time WFH, have been able to reach.
He’s smarter than I knew a dog could be, but he uses that intelligence to get exactly what he wants when he wants it. We have hired professional trainers and while he can learn any trick instantly and do it on command in perpetuity… for a treat. He has no interest whatsoever in following our instructions if there isn’t actively a bribe in our hands. We have been consistent with reinforcement, but after a year and a half he still has no recall and no ability to relax.
Yes, we have talked to the vet about this, but we think our groomer said it best when she called him “opinionated rather than anxious.” We haven’t done doggy daycare because frankly I don’t think he’d pass their behavior checks on intake… plus I’ve heard enough horror stories about daycare facilities to be hesitant to go that route. Similar problem with dog parks, plus there’s not a good one close and he hates car rides.
The only other thing we haven’t tried is getting him a playmate. We have a house with a fenced in side yard and room to run around in. He loves meeting dogs on walks and at least on a leash he’s decent with dog boundaries. We haven’t been able to see what he’s like with another dog in our space, but he’s not generally reactive as far as we have seen, even with food or toys.
I guess I’m looking for others to share how adding a second dog to their family went when the circumstances were a little dicey. Or maybe advice on how much of this we should share with the shelter in hopes of getting us connected with the right fit for our situation. Any thoughts are welcome, really.
This is a low stakes vent because I love the person I’m talking about very, very much and I understand why he feels the way he does. But it’s still bothering me and I need to get it out.
My best friend and I were both abused through our childhoods. His abuse included a physical component while mine did not, but otherwise what we experienced was very similar.
Even so, he can’t really see why I am so damaged by my childhood because it didn’t include physical abuse. If I were to ask him if I had a good childhood, he’d easily and confidently say no, but if I talk about how I react to a trigger or some of the ways my CPTSD has manifested, he pushes back or implies that I’m wrong.
I’ve tried to point out the ways in which our upbringings were similar, but he sort of brushes those similarities off in favor of highlighting the parts he went through that I didn’t. He tells me how lucky I am for a myriad of reasons, glossing over the fact that the first 18 years of my life were absolute torture.
I didn’t know I was being abused or that the adults around me knew it too. School wasn’t safe because I was bullied mercilessly. Home obviously wasn’t safe. I didn’t have any other relatives who cared. Many of my friends at the time weren’t safe people. I got into relationships that also weren’t safe.
I never did experience physical abuse… but it’s really not unreasonable that steeping in that environment for so long left me with scars. I know why it’s hard for him to see that… but it is still disappointing that the person I can relate to more than anyone else…. doesn’t seem to believe that we relate on that level at all.