u/Sunnysideup0504

My son (3) is speech delayed. His SLP says he is about 7 months delayed. He knows all his numbers, colors, songs, etc but is not fully conversational. He JUST started to be able to have some back and forth conversation. He also scripts sometimes. He has ARFID and only eats about 5 foods. My greatest concern is he has had a lot of issues with biting and hiting despite talks, books, social stories, OT, and everything else under the sun I can think of. He is also having a lot of trouble staying dry with potty training. We got him evaluated from an ABA center the other day and both the doctor and 3 BCBAs agreed he does not have ASD. They said they saw some rigidity but that he was social, made eye contact, had reciprocity, and no other unusual behaviors/stims. She said she doesn’t like to diagnose ADHD until 4, but to look out for it.

On one hand I am relived. I love a lot of my students with ASD, but there are challenges he could have faced. However, I was hoping the ABA therapy could help him with some of the behavioral issues like biting and hiting and now we don’t have that as an option and neurotypical preschool was not working out great for him.

Has anyone else been through this feeling of relief and also….well there’s still behavioral and language issues…so now what?

Hey all! This is my first Reddit post. So, I hope I’m doing it right. I’m looking for potty training advice for my neurodivergent toddler! We suspect he is ASD level 1, but his evaluation is not for two weeks. He is ADORBZ and 3.
We’ve made some progress, but I feel like we’re stuck on the next step and would love to hear from parents who have been through this.
We’re currently doing:

1. A potty watch that goes off every 30 minutes. This has honestly been our biggest game changer. He loves it and gets excited to try going potty when it goes off.

2. He wears underwear during the day (pull-ups only for sleep). He successfully uses the potty a lot of the time and is VERY proud of himself when he does. However, he's still having multiple accidents a day. The biggest challenge is that he doesn't seem to notice when he's wet and rarely asks to go potty on his own. Most of his successful potty trips happen because the timer goes off at the right moment, and we get lucky he’s sitting there. Not because he recognized that he needed to go.

I just, 5 minutes ago, made a simple "dry/wet" chart. I was thinking through the day I will check his underwear with him and say things like, "Yay, your undies are dry!" and point to the dry picture, or "Oops, they're wet. We'll try again next time," and point to the wet picture. I'm hoping this helps him become more aware of staying dry and noticing accidents.
Has anyone else had a child who didn't seem to notice when they were wet or didn't recognize potty signals? What helped them start connecting those body cues and eventually initiating potty trips on their own?