u/Superb_Outside_1651

I have a pretty hard time at my office job, My company is quite small, so everyone knows everyone, and I’m a young girl so I guess people expect me to be cheerful and outgoing, but I’m really the opposite of that

Socializing drains me a lot, especially small talk just for being polite because I honestly don’t really see the point of it. I always try to be very polite and friendly because I know I have to make an effort so I don’t come across as rude

The truth is that every time they invite me to have lunch with them I make up some excuse, because that’s my break and if I have to socialize I don’t really rest at all. Same if they ask me to go for breakfast or go down to the supermarket with them

I don’t want to be rude, I just get really tired from sitting around chatting with my coworkers

I don’t know if anyone else feels like this, but every time I have to go to the office I end up really, really drained 😅

Buenas estoy empezando a vender artículos caros en vinted y tengo miedo de que lleguen y se inventen que han llegado rotos, mal o directamente que no han llegado.

Ya me grabo envolviendo pero no sé qué más hacer.

Algún consejo?

Buenas! Actualmente tengo 19 años este año acabe el grado medio de SMR y tuve la suerte de que me cogieran en las prácticas.

Ahora en septiembre empiezo DAM de forma online para compaginarlo con mi trabajo. Yo tenía pensado dejar este trabajo más o menos en octubre del año que viene para empezar a prepararme matemáticas II y biología para meterme en una ingeniería de inteligencia artificial que se acerca más a lo que a mí me gusta.

Pero ahora empiezo a dudar si salirme o no de este trabajo el año que viene y en caso de no salirme hacer ingeniera de inteligencia artificial por la UNED aunque me lleve muchos más años.

No sé si priorizar la carrera o la experiencia aunque sea una experiencia que no esté relacionada con la IA.

Por un lado me da miedo dejar de trabajar porque pienso que volver a entrar al mundo laboral después de unos 5 años estudiando me va a costar pero por otro lado pienso que me gustaría sacarme la carrera en el menor tiempo posible y disfrutar de ella.

¿Qué me recomendáis?

Two weeks ago, I took the WAIS-IV IQ test, if I remember correctly, because I had always felt like I was intellectually below average. To my surprise, I got a Full Scale IQ of 113.

The reason for the title of this post is that my verbal score was 137, while Block Design, which was my lowest score, was 92. On one of the verbal subtests, I scored in the 99.9th percentile, meaning the test couldn't measure exactly where I was because I reached the ceiling. My psychologist explained that my verbal score could potentially be even higher than 137.

My IQ report says that my profile is unusual because there is such a large difference between my highest and lowest scores. Does anyone know why this can happen and what it actually means?

Hi! I wanted to share a situation I’ve been dealing with at work because I’m not sure whether I’m reading too much into it or if there really is a strange dynamic going on.

This is one of my first proper jobs, and I work in a small team where I’m by far the youngest. My coworkers are considerably older than me. I’m fine with the job itself, but the social side is becoming exhausting because our meetings are quite informal, tend to drag on, and often involve a lot of personal conversation.

I’ve always been a serious and reserved person. I’m polite, but not particularly expressive, and I tend to be quite direct

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The main issue is with a much older coworker, who I’ll call Javier. He tends to dominate conversations, and with me specifically he can be quite paternalistic. I completely understand that he has a lot to teach me professionally, but he also tries to tell me how I should behave in my personal life or how I should interpret things. When we disagree, he has even used our age difference as an argument — basically saying that because he’s almost 30 years older than me, he knows better.

He also constantly analyzes and labels me: that I’m too serious, that my tone of voice is blunt, that I behave a certain way because of my age, etc. Some of those observations may even be true; what bothers me is how persistent he is about it.

Recently, I’ve also noticed a kind of competitiveness that I don’t really understand. For example, another coworker asked about my partner’s intelligence, and I mentioned that his IQ is 143 (I’ve seen the actual reports). Javier immediately replied, “Well, mine is 148.” A few hours later, while discussing something completely different, he brought up my partner again and sarcastically said, “Well, ask your super-boyfriend to help you.”

On another occasion, he started comparing me to someone from his past who, according to him, used to call him a “loser,” implying that I was similar to her. He has also randomly said in front of the rest of the team that he’s convinced I don’t like him.

That particularly confuses me because I don’t dislike him. I’m mostly indifferent towards him, and I simply have more affinity with and professional admiration for some of my other coworkers.

There was also an occasion when we were alone and he asked whether I wanted him to come into the office on a day when I was going to be there, even though he apparently had no reason to come in. I avoided answering directly because I found the question a bit odd.

None of these things would seem particularly significant to me on their own. What’s starting to bother me is the accumulation of everything: constantly being put into boxes, the comparisons, the comments about my partner, and his insistence on interpreting what I supposedly think about him.

I also recognize my part in this: I’m very direct, and when something seems inconsistent to me, I can respond quite bluntly, although I try not to be disrespectful.

Do you think this is simply a generational/personality clash, or does the dynamic seem unusual to you? How would you create some distance without causing tension in such a small team?

Hi! I wanted to share a situation I’ve been dealing with at work because I’m not sure whether I’m reading too much into it or if there really is a strange dynamic going on.

This is one of my first proper jobs, and I work in a small team where I’m by far the youngest. My coworkers are considerably older than me. I’m fine with the job itself, but the social side is becoming exhausting because our meetings are quite informal, tend to drag on, and often involve a lot of personal conversation.

I’ve always been a serious and reserved person. I’m polite, but not particularly expressive, and I tend to be quite direct.

The main issue is with a much older coworker, who I’ll call Javier. He tends to dominate conversations, and with me specifically he can be quite paternalistic. I completely understand that he has a lot to teach me professionally, but he also tries to tell me how I should behave in my personal life or how I should interpret things. When we disagree, he has even used our age difference as an argument — basically saying that because he’s almost 30 years older than me, he knows better.

He also constantly analyzes and labels me: that I’m too serious, that my tone of voice is blunt, that I behave a certain way because of my age, etc. Some of those observations may even be true; what bothers me is how persistent he is about it.

Recently, I’ve also noticed a kind of competitiveness that I don’t really understand. For example, another coworker asked about my partner’s intelligence, and I mentioned that his IQ is 143 (I’ve seen the actual reports). Javier immediately replied, “Well, mine is 148.” A few hours later, while discussing something completely different, he brought up my partner again and sarcastically said, “Well, ask your super-boyfriend to help you.”

On another occasion, he started comparing me to someone from his past who, according to him, used to call him a “loser,” implying that I was similar to her. He has also randomly said in front of the rest of the team that he’s convinced I don’t like him.

That particularly confuses me because I don’t dislike him. I’m mostly indifferent towards him, and I simply have more affinity with and professional admiration for some of my other coworkers.

There was also an occasion when we were alone and he asked whether I wanted him to come into the office on a day when I was going to be there, even though he apparently had no reason to come in. I avoided answering directly because I found the question a bit odd.

None of these things would seem particularly significant to me on their own. What’s starting to bother me is the accumulation of everything: constantly being put into boxes, the comparisons, the comments about my partner, and his insistence on interpreting what I supposedly think about him.

I also recognize my part in this: I’m very direct, and when something seems inconsistent to me, I can respond quite bluntly, although I try not to be disrespectful.

Do you think this is simply a generational/personality clash, or does the dynamic seem unusual to you? How would you create some distance without causing tension in such a small team?