


35F SAHM, looking for others with a similar brain/life situation
Hoping to find a few people whose profile is similar to mine and might be in a similar situation.
Life:
SAHM since I was 19, professional gigging musician since 17. I’m 35 now. Diagnosed ADHD (combined but mostly inattentive).
Four neurodivergent kids, all AuDHD. Was a gigging musician for years which I enjoyed but had to scale back for the kids’ health stuff. Husband’s moving to a 4 day week soon so I’m about to have a bit of breathing room for the first time in honestly forever, and I’m trying to figure out what to do with it.
Where I’m at:
I love my kids, and I do genuinely believe parenting is valuable work. But I can’t shake the feeling that I’m unfulfilled and a bit wasted at home. The boredom is constant. I feel like I’m losing time I won’t get back, and it doesn’t seem to matter how much I rationally know that raising four ND kids matters, the feeling of something’s not right here for me just doesn’t go away.
My brain just generates full ideas constantly. Love problem solving and fixing things. World builds for fun. Makes things, music, flower arrangements, full on art installations for family parties. Picks up most skills fast which sounds great but makes it really hard to know what to actually focus on. Reads people quickly. Hates repetition. Suffocates in the sameness of domestic life even though I love being there for the kids.
I struggle socially - because I sound like I’m jumping about a topic when I’m talking and I struggle to articulate what I can see in my head. I’m Not sure how to get any of these ideas from my head into a format that I can share with others, unless I just go ahead and build/make the thing I can see. Which is fine if it’s something tangible I can physically make, but harder if it’s a business idea or a story. I can’t seem to get the whole “thing” into a sequential set of steps or fine where to begin at anything.
I took this to try and understand what I’m good at a bit better and where I might be able to go from here in terms of strengths/weaknesses. I feel a bit on the older side to just be starting out career wise as well
And have kids to think about. Just not really sure where to begin!
Any advice from anyone in a similar situation would be great.