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Salaaam everyone !

Girls - on a serious note, how do you reset your brain to LOVE studying again? I have this deep desire to get lost into wanting to study the creations of Allah as I am a STEM postgrad but I’ve literally numbed my brain from using excessive AI. i can’t even type a paragraph without making it sound perfect through chatgpt. i feel incredibly guilty and upset that why have i lost my spark in studying and i find not using AI to be so laborious now (astaghfurillah believe me i hate feeling so lethargic this way)

any tips on how to get my brain back from the trenches of this dystopian mess? i so want to get back into real learning than depending on AI for everything. i hate it with my heart but i can’t stop myself! i want to learn, make mistakes but get lost into getting the concepts right a million times before running to sheikh chatgpt 😭😭 help a girl out. i have been getting back into reading fiction. that always seems to wake the writer in me but i’m not doing enough wallahh

Alsoo i do use chatgpt as an assistant than a maid to do all my work. but i don’t want to do that either. i want to be a scholar of life!

Hey guys.
So a month ago I had missed a lecture for one of my classes - mind you I’m an international student so on visa currently. I had missed due to some personal health issues and I completely forgot about it. A few weeks later I get a warning that one of my attendances for a module is really low.

Now I did file an extenuating request immediately for missing that lecture in hopes for a compensation. I had applied it before for the same reason and got it approved. But this time - its been over a month and I received no response. Ive emailed the dept admin for an update but just wonderingggg if one warning is anything to worry about? My courses all depend on assignment submissions but obviously there were lectures too that I missed sometimes. But none of the lectures are recorded into our total marks. But ee humans tend to worry about the smallest things lol.
Is it a big deal? Will my marks be affected by it because they’re going to come out in mid July.

hiya. i was recently in London because i am wrapping up my Masters in a smaller town (Colchester) and wanting to move into the main city to get some networking experience (alongside a training i’ve signed up for) and my God was i in so much disbelief when i went to viewing a property in Redbridge today. the house was decent enough to house two people but the rent was massively crazy especially with no bills included. i came back home with such a heavy heart, i’m thinking i’ll have to adjust in Chelmsford or something but are there rents really that high in even these outer London areas like Ilford, Woodford etc? I am seeing Bedford but I am planning on moving with my friend and its hard to commute for her. My rental budget i had literally pushed to 1.6K (before i was planning it for me and my brother but now its just me and my friend instead of my brother) but even that feels like i am just giving out pennies. Any good advice on where to look for? i’d go to facebook to inquire but im so sick and tired of the scammers over there they never sound genuine enough to help.

Sincere advice for someone struggling to regain her purpose

Assalamualikum girlies. Need some serious girl to girl advice from you.
I am a 24F currently finishing my Masters in Biotech and the slow realizations of job life, qualifications, future, finance everything is starting to dawn on me. i’ve been feeling under the weather for a while because i don’t know why but i’ve gotten so negative and gloomy with my life and my life decisions. I’ve tried so many things to motivate myself - even letting AI help me in creating action plans for my future or getting my life together but everything just feels so overwhelming and I keep thinking the worse. I feel this partially because I don’t also have anyone to talk to about these things. I have best friends but i know the advices they’ll give. I’ve heard them a million times. This other friend I have is someone who is going through her own struggles and I’m always the one trying to push some motivation but I fail to listen to that same advice. I am actually so worried about my future - thinking what if I never get hired to do what I want. And I’ve been feeling so lethargic and demotivated to do anything I love. I know you will recommend “you should have a routine” but that’s not helping. I’ve tried everything under “Atomic Habits” and i just don’t know what am I doing with my life anymore. Even with Allah - I find myself being so far away. I don’t know anymore. The world itself is so depressing - with influencers and marketing and whatnot it’s just all looks so fake and i keep thinking what will i do - where will i end up. I don’t know. I honestly don’t know. I feel like I’ve overstimulated myself and I don’t know how to hit reset and just try to live life without overthinking about everything. I also keep thinking about other people in my life and how well settled they are (may Allah protect them) while im here stressing about where will i end up the next month.

Anyone know of some good and affordable air coolers to buy for this heat? Something under £50 but worth the price. Amazon recommended Honeywell Turbo but it has mixed reviews so I ignored it. Any other suggestions would greatly help.

[EDITED] 24F - UNMARRIED - Assalamualikum sisters ! i had previously made a post where I said that my period was a week late well two weeks later it's now three weeks late and i'm so bumped out about it because i thought maybe it's low iron or something. I checked in with my GP yesterday and he reassured me that my body is just under high stress because he checked my blood pressure, my oxygen levels and everything came back within the range. even my BMI was normal he said. He just instructed me to do some exercise to bring back some happy hormones and said my periods will come around in a while. He said I didnt need a blood test because it's just stress that's leading to fatigue in my body nothing else. But girls - I've never been this late. The last time I was six months ago and i remember i was stressed cuz i was switching continents but then I got regular the next month and have been till March. I don't know what high amount of stress my body has ingested this time but i'm spiraling. lowkey overanalyzing and self-diagnosing myself with the worst. Any tips? Anything to help me calm myself down? A friend of mine told me hers came super late once too but I don't know it didnt help. All I remember is that the week I was supposed to get my period, I got severe anxious breakdowns and shut myself off and then the week later I got cold and flu and fever and I was hoping of getting them by now but nothing till now. I am quite worried.

Assalamualikum. I'm writing this with a heavy heart. it's strange isn't it? when your close ones are unable to help you - you run to strangers for help. and that's why i'm here. before i begin, i've heard all of the ordinary advices that you've heard on Youtube or read in "Best sellers". i've even tried them but they're clearly not working hence i'm here. i've been feeling this way since the past six months. i moved continents to study for postgrad and am halfway done but i don't feel worthy or competent enough to continue on. continue as in search for opportunities or work or anything. I don't feel motivated to do anything. i don't feel i have it in me. to learn, to study, to do something fun or new. or even go back to my hobbies which include creative writing, baking, learning smth new about myself. i can't. if i do try baking i hear my flatmate who is a good friend of mine comment on how i shouldn't be eating too much processed sugar and i should try and be more healthy and that turns me down. so i don't even bake now. i've tried to be happy in other ways but ive noticed i only remain happy on rare occasions in a month. very rare. the last time i truly felt myself living was celebrating eid when i had left the country. truly truly that's the last time i remember myself feeling litres of joy. but i seriously think i'm in a dark place. i used to be such a bright person a year ago in undergrad and i was seriously so happy and i want to be like her again. but i can't be. i am also a spiritual person and consider my relationship with Allah to be everything but i don't know because of these feelings, i feel so so so far away from Allah too. i repent, turn myself away but then fall again and again and again. so much so that i feel i've gotten numb. all my friends just tell me "OH YOU STRESS TOO MUCH! RELAX RELAX!" but i know it's not that. i feel angry and unheard and sad at the same time. i keep having breakdowns whenever i try to speak out about my problems and sometimes these breakdowns just happen spontaneously. like a tight feeling in my chest and i burst out crying. i feel im not working hard enough for my future as i used to - hell i'm not even serious. if i think about marriage even in that regard i feel i won't be good enough or i'll marry the wrong person out of sympathy because i am sympathetic. but all of this is breaking me. i sometimes feel i need to talk to someone but i can't do that because i'm not an extreme case - ive been told by my university's wellbeing assessor i have situational anxiety and my physical feelings can be sorted out by visitng my GP. but i don't know. i don't know what has happened to me or why have i become this way. i was excited to start a new chapter, excel in it even - i had full belief i'd do that but six months have passed by and i feel i've become no one better but worse.

Hiya. I've been in a reading slump since January. Can't get my hands to read anything interesting these days. I'm not a fan of present-day fiction because the stories just feel so predictive and the titles are boring. Like I knowww this book will become a Netflix show next year. I prefer reading good ol classics and want some recommendations if you have any. I am interested in reading something similar to the Good Earth by Pearl S Buck. I've become such a fan of that trilogy I've read it three-four times. But I haven't come across anything similar. I did read Memoirs of a Geisha but then after the author's shitty behavior I never looked at it again. So please. Help me out. I can't understand tooo old classics - the literature is so hard to decipher. Something that has morals in it but also has a story that is gripping.

Assalamualikum girliesss ~ so i’ve finally taken up the courage to start taking better care of my health and I want to start with working out. I live in the UK but in a small county where female only gyms are not really available. My flatmate has pretty much all of the equipment and she has told me to use it as I please. She has different weights of dumbells and that stretch thing I can’t really recall. She has started her fitness journey and I am leaving her alone in that because I solely want to focus on mine without wanting anyone else to bother with mine. And my needs are different. I want to lift up my chest since its heavy and work on my shoulders and thighs. I do also want to take it slow and not be totally crazy with everything. Like maybe start working out 30 mins three-four times a week. I am trying to cut down sugar but can’t live without my coffee / matcha so I am thinking of replacing the sugar with honey. Milk is fine for me it’s not a big deal as long as i am having it after a meal (like an hour has passed) and not during it. I can do intermittent fasting because I tend to go for a late breakfast as in lol really late when its lunch time. And im trying not to consume anything after dinner because thanks to daylight - i need to switch my meals an hour late so it doesnt trick me into thinking im having a late lunch.

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Any specific chest exercises you girls have for girls like me? I do love walking also but I don’t think that’ll be feasible enough to just start taking care. Maybe like 30 mins walking - 30 mins exercising? I don’t know you girls are the experts. Would appreciate the advice! ❤️

salaam girlies. so im overly frustrated right now. i don’t know what’s going on with my body this time because it decided to delay my period for more than a week. i usually have regular periods alhamdulillah even though back in September, i didnt get my period that month because i was severely stressed (i was moving continents like from MENA to UK to study) so i understood and didnt think much of it. thought its just stress and my routine changing and diet changing. then things went okay for the next six months alhamdulillah like i had that stress going but it didn’t throw my period off the hook. i was getting them on time and then now after I had them in March, i haven’t gotten them 🥹🥹. I am trying to point it to the fact that maybe its because i was in another country during eid and i was walking alot and tiring myself like crazy so maybe coming back from that and my routine changing again due to Ramadan and I had assignments and other life stresses but I can’t remember them being so extreme that my period would not show up. Mind you, I have thought of other possibilities but it doesnt add up because my periods are normal, my skin is normal, my cramps are bearable. everything is normal for me. but im freaking out by why havent my periods come yet. plus i am currently sick due to the season changing like ive got flu and fever but im like okay then why isnt my period here yet. i did some research and Google told me that my body is more vulnerable to getting sick when im near my period but its been more than a week since it shouldve started. im experiencing like light abdominal to lower back pain like slightly not too much and am thinking maybe my period is coming but ive been feeling that for the past week 🥹🥹 im super worried. maybe its just muscle soreness from the constant coughing? i don’t know.