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Hoping to get some solace or feed into my anxiety even more. Sold a house a few months ago. No covenants and restrictions per MLS and title did not find any. I knew the buyer works on vehicles and wanted to build a shop at some point to store them and work on them. Buyer calls today and says neighbors are complaining that he is breaking neighborhood covenants by having the vehicles there that he works on. He contacts closing attorney and pulls deed, it doesn’t reflect any covenants for that home. Some of the neighboring homes do however have covenants and restrictions. He is essentially operating a mechanic business in the backyard and they are complaining. It is not in the city and each property sits on 1-3 acre lots. Well- he calls and says “don’t you remember telling me that I could have a business here and there were no restrictions?” I never said this because I know I didn’t research it. I would never say something like that without researching. He is meeting with an attorney to investigate more about the covenant discrepancy. I am in a caveat emptor state. Just panicking a little. I HAVE TALKED TO MT BROKER!

Finally got an offer!! I’ve been trying to sell this house for a while. Initially priced too high, but now right around where I feel is reasonable. Sellers bought the home while out of state, knew nothing of the area and flipped it. Issue is that it’s a historical district and people move there for character, not LVP and black fixtures with millennial grey walls. Nonetheless, I just knew it would take a specific buyer. Seller has been patient! We got an offer asking for $18k in closing costs. I asked the agent what all these costs were for and she said that it was the max (6%) that FHA would allow. She had no idea what the buyer would use it for (his costs were only $10k). With a slew of other things they were asking for, home warranty, new appliances, removal of exterior shed, PLUS a contingency for an unlisted home. The seller opted to not counter, it was truthfully a hard offer. Weeks go by and the agent stays in touch and their home finally lists. It’s in a very similar area that has a high DOM. I knew it wouldn’t be a fast sell. They resubmit their offer, asking for $10k in closing costs, appliances, warranty, removal of sheds, + contingency.

I encouraged the seller to counter with a first right of refusal, $7500 in closing, appliances, broker comp, and to not remove the sheds.

Agent told me the buyers no longer wanted to proceed because the seller is being “difficult” for a house with this many DOM. I guess I’m just ranting here. The buyers home could just as easily sit for extended period of time because of average DOM, and my seller will lose 60 days of market time for no reason if your home doesn’t sell? But we are unreasonable?

When I told her the risk it would pose for the seller to accept, she told me “I didn’t ask for your feedback” 🙁

She has only ever sold two homes. EVER!

I’m struggling here. We are a younger couple with a baby under 2. Been married for the last 5 years. My husbands friends do not have kids and half are married. He took a bachelor weekend for one of his friends and they all went to a strip club. I only found out because of his location, which he had thought he turned off. We explicitly had a conversation about this before he left and he said he wouldn’t. Then tried to hide when he did. I am furious. He is slightly apologetic, and on the other hand is saying “if I want to divorce him, then do it.” I’m pretty amazed about this. He is in the wrong, and then fires back by telling me to go through with it? He has a halfway apology which isn’t good enough and he doesn’t seem very remorseful. I don’t want to divorce him, but I don’t think he considers this a big deal and is telling me I’m overreacting. I feel like I have to follow through with my word or he won’t take me seriously and this will trickle into other areas of our life.

This trip has been planned for some time and it is tomorrow. His friend is getting married so he is going to the bachelor trip. Of course it flies out tomorrow and doesn’t return until Sunday, Mother’s Day. As the hours pass by, I grow increasingly anxious. I have a 14 month old at home and we both work from home. We normally pass child duties between each other. When she was younger he took a trip and I don’t remember being this nervous. I am so nervous and selfishly do not want him to go. I am just imagining how hard working and juggling the baby for several days alone is going to be. When I asked when the flight returns, I found that they won’t be home until after 8pm… on Mother’s Day. I just want to cry. Of course no one had the forethought to say they should arrive home earlier on Mother’s Day while I’ve been with the baby alone for 4 days.