It's so insanely melodramatic and over wrought. I hate it so much and I'm sick of seeing it in the zillions of dramatic edits that appear on my fyp.
Just from my experience coming from both a poor, white trash family and working in SPED.
Majority of autists aren't idiot savants. They're mostly alcoholics working minimum wage jobs until they croak because they'd burn out of academia or any white-collar job. Or don't have the social skills to make it in the real world and just live out their life through maladaptive daydreams. A lot of the time, their parents flat out ignore their child's increasing NEET life. Or they don't mind because they're on the spectrum themselves and believe that their 22 year old son who watches shows/movies meant for children is going to harness that "creativity" into becoming a director or something.
The more I get exposed to it, the more eternally depressing it is. I'm not exactly exempt from this, so I'm not trying to sound condescending. But I kind wish there could be something done about.
We've been broken up for over 8 months. We agreed to be "friends" after he broke no contact and kept giving me little breadcrumbs of hope of us getting back together. He told me he was codependent on me and was "platonically obsessed" with me. For one week we were actually back together before he reneged the next week. Lately, he's just stopped initiating, and it's just been me texting him, calling him. He takes hours to responds and they're usually just polite replies.
I blocked him because I can't keep living like this. I have to grow up. I'm seeking therapy to combat my obsessive thoughts on him. It genuinely hurts; I feel like an addict in remission. I miss our bond, but I guess I was overstated it.
I'm 23 and I'm getting tired/too old to keep up my uncanny, anti-social girl schtick. I recently left a "friend" group after it became clear I was the punching bag of the group. So, I'm just kind of back to rotting inside my house doing nothing. My only friend right now is a guy who randomly checks in on me every other week.
I'm pretty sure a part of it is autism. But a lot of my weirdness comes from being homeschooled and then being a suicidal NEET for four years afterwards. I didn't really reenter society until I was 21. I'm "in between jobs" right now and willing to try out any hobby that will get me out of the house. I have this visceral hatred for other people right now I'm trying to stamp out. I'm also taking SSRI's rn and waiting for those to finally work.
Currently unemployed and back to living with my parents. I hate my life and am struggling against a shitty job market. Anyone got any ideas for trips? I already went on an underwhelming vacation to DC and New York last week. I am open to going outside of the country. Nothing too extravagant.
$30,00 of it was because of Disneyworld. The other $14,000 was because he hadn't paid off his car yet. He told me you can always make more money, and that making memories are more important.
I guess he also fell in love with me because after a half a month of knowing me, he tried to make plans for us to move in together. I barely talked to this dude outside of having casual conversation in the park. He was in the military and had a reputation for being pretty desperate for love. Last I heard, he got SAPRD and separated from the military.
Just goes to show there's another type of human out there.
I've been told on 3 different occasions I act younger than I should. Some of this is partially to blame on being homeschooled for most of my teenagehood. I was extremely isolated with no outlet into the real world. This extreme isolation turned into agoraphobia and from the ages of 18-21, I was so scared of the outside world I rarely went outside. It wasn't until I got first job at 21, almost 22, that I was forced out of my agoraphobia. I don't have a bachelor's, and I've dropped out community college multiple times.
The most obvious way it manifested is that I often vied for male attention as a means to feel good about myself. And I get insanely attached to the men I dated. To the point where when we broke up, even if it was a relatively short relationship, I felt like I lost my identity. I've done very stupid, very impulsive things for men I really shouldn't have. Most recently I quit a job because I thought an ex and I were getting back together to be closer with him. Only for him a week later to say that he probably shouldn't have said we should get back together and we "broke up" again.
A few weeks ago, a 38 year old man whom I somewhat consider a friend said I acted like a 16 year old. He raked me over the coals because I told him hooked up with a guy out of boredom and I didn't really like the guy's personality. Called me a faux intellectual and said I'm figuring out stuff most people realize as a teenager. I've been called immature in the past but this one stung the most and has made me realize I need to change.
I'm currently at rock bottom. I'm unemployed and forced to move back in with my parents. I'm the loneliest I've ever felt in my life. I'm struggling to get references to go back to the military. And I've realized I'm not going to plug up the hole by hanging around men, drinking or do stupid shit.
I wish I could act more mature. Where do I start?
We dated for a fairly brief period of time-6 months. Long distance to boot. He broke up with me because he didn't like long distance. He broke no contact after a month, and we've been in communication as "friends" ever since. We both acknowledge that we were codependent on each other and decided to just swirl around each other in this
I held out hope we'd get back together and we did-for a week. And then the next week he told me that he thought we agreed on just being friends. He told me he shouldn't have said we were back together. I chewed him out for two hours and he did seem to feel relatively guilty. He begged to just stay in my life, even as just friends. I couldn't completely cast him out and two days later I did call him again and told him I "didn't care"
Ever since then, communication has died down. It's mostly me initiating. Even then, he always sounds bored as hell on the phone. I went a week without talking to him and finally called him again yesterday.
I acknowledge that I've outgrown whatever we have and he's overall an immature, kind of poisonous person. He has a lot of issues regarding intimacy and his views on women. We've been broken up for nearly 9 months at this point, longer than we were together. And I feel like we're just stringing along whatever residual feelings we have.
I wish I could ice him out already.