u/TALKINGTOHARVEY

Just got into psychosophy, and it's so fascinating but lowkey confusing when you're typing yourself. Can you help me determine if my answers to these questions suggest 1E or 2E more? (or certain subtypes) I'm an so7 in enneagram if that helps anything.

EMOTIONS:

Does self-expression come naturally to you? What emotions do you find easier or harder to express? What goals do you have when dealing with your levels of emotional expression, if any?

Self-expression in the form of cheerfulness comes naturally to me! I do have a little bit of a temper but you wouldn’t be able to tell unless you’re close to me. It's difficult to express negative emotions openly or talk about them but it DOES help when I get around to it. I wouldn't say I have any goals concerning my emotional expression; I just want to come across as someone who's accepting and kind!!

Are you someone who is in touch with their inner emotional world? Are you good at understanding how you feel about something and why? Do you find others’ insight into how you are/should be feeling beneficial?

Uhhh it depends. For some reason this fluctuates quite easily; some days I do, others I have no idea what I’m feeling most of the day. I don't talk to other people about my inner emotions often but when I do, I do so to clear my head and often find their advice helpful! Then I move on; I hate dwelling on negative emotions and prefer to feel happy/content most of the time. I suppress negative emotions until I can’t anymore. 

How good are you at balancing your focus between your own emotions and the emotions of others? Are you more naturally attuned to others’ feelings and reactions, or to your own? 

Honestly, I can’t tell? I can tell if someone’s feeling down even if they pretend to be fine, and I’ll ask them about it if it's the right time. I like cheering people up by being silly or having them vent or talk about things they enjoy; anything to get their mind off of things. As for my own emotions, I’m often optimistic and don't waver from that much, unless something really bothers me. I like laughing and making jokes out of things usually!! I don’t have problems reining in my emotions at all when I need to. 

How easily caught up on specific feelings do you become? Do you value being able to detach yourself from your emotions? (And is this something you’re good at?)

I do a decent job at detaching from my emotions, I guess, but I can get caught up on feelings of frustration or jealousy. 

How do you normally react when someone shares their emotions with you? Do you enjoy handling situations like these?

I don't mind it at all, but it can feel a little awkward to me at times. Still, I want people to come to me with their emotions if they need to and I’m always willing to listen! I enjoy giving my own insights if they want advice or anything.  
 
When others are speaking on topics regarding emotion, are you more inclined to express, engage, or pull away? Do you adjust to emotional atmospheres, or do you feel more separate from them? How comfortable are you with conversations focused on emotional vulnerability?

I struggle to take my own emotions seriously most of the time, which everyone around me seems to find concerning, but I’m doing fine so far. I’m very artistic and enjoy engaging with emotional implications in music, literature, and other artistic mediums. I do not enjoy being emotionally vulnerable verbally, though, but I’ll listen to people who are around me if they wanna be!!

Hii!! Need help figuring out my type again; feel free to suggest anything! So far, I've typed myself as 7w6 793 so/sx but I'm not sure anymore.

1.What are your views on the good things in life? Do they happen naturally, or do you have to create them yourself？How do they manifest into reality?

Probably a mixture of both! I think one’s mindset and outlook on life matter most of all. If you’re always looking for positive/good things in life, you’ll find them, even if they’re really small or minor (like a cup of tea in the morning or just clean water, little things people take for granted). The same applies to people with negative/cynical outlooks on life. If you want to live a good life overall though, you must create it for yourself. 

2. What are your views on the bad things in life? What are the reasons they happen? How much control do you really have over such matters?

I’d like to think that we have more control over our lives than we may realize, but of course many things happen that we can't control. How we approach bad things that happen to us matters most I guess (like the last answer). 

3. How attached are you to your emotions? How often do you express them to others? What even is the purpose of such feelings? And what are the biases that impede your judgements?

Decently, there are some days when I have no idea what I’m truly feeling, and then suppressed feelings bubble up randomly in the form of anger or frustration. All feelings have their purposes and ways of teaching us things about ourselves, including sadness. However, I’d really prefer to feel happy/content all of the time and I hate going through negative emotions myself. I suppress them if I don't have a logical enough reason to feel that way. I usually act very cheerful around people, though I have a bit of a temper. When I do feel down, I isolate myself to fix how I feel. 

4. What do you want in life? Is it achievable? If people and obstacles are in your way, what would you do then? With resources being limited, is it ok to acquire essential needs by denying them to someone else?

I just wanna be competent and good at things that I set out to do. For me, those things would be my hobbies and being good at talking and socializing! I think those things would give me the most freedom/peace of mind. They’re definitely achievable in my opinion, especially if other people can do so. I also strive to have as much fun (which makes me impulsive because I want to be satisfied NOW) as I can while I’m here and achieve the ideal of myself I have in my head. Professionally, I want a career that I enjoy and I can make a lot of money so I can do whatever I want (ex.travelling). To the last question, it depends, in my opinion. 

5. Are people inherently good or bad? Or is it neither? What do you believe when it comes to moral goodness? What duties do we all have as individuals?

I’d say that most people are neutral good because of societal expectations that we are pressured to adhere to survive, but we all have darker sides to us. As individuals, we should be kind to each other.  

6. What are the biggest disappointments you have? It doesn't even have to be something that happened to you personally. What is something you expected more from, but it somehow managed to fall short?

The biggest disappointments I have would be when events or people, and maybe even my own performance, don't align with the ideal I had in my head. Like, if I don't perform well in social situations as I would’ve liked to in my head, I leave very disappointed and frustrated at myself. Looking back and saying “damn i could’ve been funnier.” 

7. What do you expect from others? Are you entitled to anything? Be it love or materialistic things. How easy is it to rely on others? To depend on something else outside of your control?

I don't expect much from people at all, I just want them to be nice to me lmaoo. Kindness and basic respect is all I want from people. I don't mind relying on other people but I’d rather not if I can do it myself. 

8. Do you ever catch yourself agreeing with others just to appease them and keep the conversation going? How often? Why?

Yes. I try not to because no one wants to talk to a yes-man all the time, and sharing conflicting opinions makes for good conversation. But I do tend to appease people, even if it goes against what I personally think, just to see where it goes OR to make them like me more. 

9. What are you as a person? How do you see yourself? How do others see you? How do you want others to see you? How do you want to see yourself?

Who I am as a person is something I couldn't really answer, but I’d describe myself as optimistic and fun-loving. I want people to see me as someone who is accepting, safe, and really funny/socicable. I never want to force my will on people or be judgy/overbearing. I want to be someone who people see in a positive light and be excited to hang out/talk to me. I often idolize people who are more like the way I wanna be and then try to be like them in little ways. 

10. How do you organize your thoughts? What are concepts and ideas to you? How do you navigate through such a hazy frightening future? What do you believe are the most important questions one can ask?

I don't organize my thoughts much to my detriment, which leads me to be very impulsive and undisciplined usually. I have a very idealized version of the future I want to achieve. I’m lazy about it though, I’m not adamant on climbing the corporate ladder, having a 4.5 GPA, or anything specific. I have a very “fake it until ya make it” mindset.

11. What do you hope to avoid doing or being? What values are important to you?

I want to avoid being someone who’s very negative all the time. I also want to avoid being unhappy while living a stagnant life and believing I have no control over it.  

12. What are your biggest fears (not including phobias)? Why?

My biggest fear is somehow being “locked” out of happiness or trapped in misery forever. I also fear being a forever spectator in my life and never doing anything fun or worthwhile again. Especially if everyone else is happy and accomplished around me, just not being able to achieve that would be hell, unless I was very happy with my life at that moment.

13. How important is efficiency and productivity to you?

Hate to say it, but they’re not important to me at all really, unless it's something specific I want to succeed in. But by then, I've probably spent too much time in the planning stage.

14.What is the ideal life, in your opinion?

Being charismatic as hell and being able to talk to anyone, having lots of friends to hang out with and doing something new everyday. Writing this, I realize that I’m no doubt a social first LOL (unless…)

Hello!! I've typed myself as a so/sx 7w6 79x so far, but as the title says, I'm having a very hard time deciphering my heart fix! I've oscillated between 793 and 794 recently, but I'm still not sure. Any feedback would be very helpful!! However, a 2-fix seems most unlikely IMO.

I tend to put successful/cool people I admire on a pedestal and "steal" traits I like to integrate into my personality. I do this consciously or at times unconsciously with just about anything I like, or I get a strong urge to do so that I've gotta resist. This could be 3 or 4, but I ruled out 4 because I also despise negative emotions (most of which I attribute to my 7 core), and I try to avoid them through any means, unlike a 4 fixer who may not mind them as much. I feel like I've lost some kind of battle when I admit that I'm feeling bad. I also don't tend to envy others either or pride myself in being particularly unique (not saying that envying people is solely a 4 thing though). I'd rather adopt the traits that make them successful or unique in something I'm interested in than envy them. I do desire to be accomplished in some way, but not greatly. I want to fulfill a certain positive role in people's lives, which may suggest 2, but I'm not very drawn towards others in an outright helpful way. I really enjoy hanging out with people and can feel a little empty when I don't.

Not sure if I gave enough info to determine it properly, but I'm happy to answer questions! Thanks!

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Hey!! So, I've been debating between ENTP and ENFP for some time now. Recently, I've settled on ENTP, because it seems as though I use more Fe than Fi, but I COULD be an Fi user who values maintaining social harmony above personal values (?). Plus, I'm certain that I'm a Ne dom with inferior Si.

My simplified understanding of Ti users is that they value internal validity over external information and prefer to understand the steps taken to a logical conclusion over "oh well, it works, so who cares how we got here!" Meanwhile, Te values efficiency and will often trust a consensus of external logical ideas before choosing the most efficient one, regardless of the steps it took to get there. I might be wrong, so please correct me if so!!

So now I'm debating between Te and Ti, so any help based on the information I'm about to share would be very appreciated!

I love learning for learning's sake. I get excited over new concepts and ideas to stuff into my brain to use later if need be, before I move on to the next thing. Due to this, I'm decently knowledgeable on a wide range of subjects, but my understanding can lack depth, so when people ask further questions, I'm just like🧍‍♂️as I stare dumbly at them. I wouldn't consider myself a debater, but I do enjoy bouncing ideas off the people close to me (big fan of thinking out loud). I also tend to question concrete assertions, and I can feel a little uncomfortable speaking on topics I'm not well-versed in. I don't consider myself highly logical or anything, if that helps? I avoid using checklists until I absolutely need to, and then whatever I need to work on is like 2 days overdue...

Hope I gave enough information. Thanks for reading, lemme know what you think!! 😭🙏