u/Tao_theFreak

I am not sure if this is the right subreddit, but relationship advice won allow minors to post, so I’m leaning on you guys. Also, title is the TL;DR

Anyway, here is the context. We are both fourteen, and I will refer to this girl as Day. Day moved to another county after third grade, we are now both going into high school. At one point in time, we did do long distance dating - which basically just meant going to places on FaceTime to pretend like we were on real dates and sending gifts across country lines. In the end, due to a very bad adult and long distances between us - we broke up.

So okay, that sounds like a typical middle school relationship, cool. But after we had broken up, she never stopped calling me her boyfriend. She would stop when I would be actively dating or talking to another person, but start it up again whenever I ended things with this other person. She would also get very angry and obsessive whenever something bad would happen in my relationships (Got cheated on, money trapped, and had a very toxic break up. If that gives a picture) Or even when I am in an okay relationship (I was talking to a girl who has a very similar name and appearance. Plus, how we met was also similar to me and Day’s start up. She got angry about that) Along side her giving me gifts still now, like necklaces and an expensive handkerchief for my academic competition.

I mean, I’ve asked her a few times if she just wanted to soft launch a relationship or even fully date again, but she always says no? She always says that she doesn’t want to get in my way of other relationships, which also makes no sense because I remind her all the time that I refuse to date again for a little while because of how scary my last relationship was. I am just so confused. I don’t dislike it, and I’m not uncomfortable with her actions so this is in no way a boundary issue. I just want to understand what is going on. Is she just holding onto me for later? She sometimes says she wishes she could date me long distance while also letting me be in relationships with other people, which I explained would be problematic and that I would just pick her and stay out of in person stuff’s. I think maybe that is why she doesn’t ever say yes when I ask, but I’m not sure.

Additionally, I want to ask if this is toxic in anyway. I can have the conversation with her, but I do not want to do anything that is baseless. Addition two, we have a language barrier because english is neither of our first languages (Her French, mine being a branch of mexico native) plus being in diff countries so sometimes we do understand the full weight of our words or the social norms around it.

First off, this is not the only subreddit I'll be posting this in, but I feel this is a great place to start.

To start, my SPED plan does state off the bat that I have PTSD. Normally, on a good day, it does not affect my school life in any way for my teachers. The only portion to it that has been discussed with every single teacher is that they should not be standing behind me during lectures, should not be shouting near or at me, and should not be teaching me (I also have a nerve damage around my body from that PTSD, so this one is really irking me)

Now that I have overshared, I feel that one of my teachers is constantly going against these requests. She has me at the back corner of her room, where she often stands against the counter directly behind me. I am also facing back front to her desk. The worst issue is, she is constantly touching me, and I mean constantly. My shoulders, back, HEAD, and my arm (where I have visible scars)

Just today alone I get kind of irritated with her, where she kept yelling right behind me and I directly spoke to her about my complaints. "Why are you yelling next to me? Y'know this is why my parents got a divorce!". That comment ticked her off a lot, but what else am I supposed to do? My next resort will be violence because she is genuinely making me feel unsafe in her classroom.

What am I even supposed to do at this point????

First off, this is not the only subreddit I'll be posting this in, but I feel this is a great place to start.

To start, my SPED plan does state off the bat that I have PTSD. Normally, on a good day, it does not affect my school life in any way for my teachers. The only portion to it that has been discussed with every single teacher is that they should not be standing behind me during lectures, should not be shouting near or at me, and should not be touching me (I also have a nerve damage around my body from that PTSD, so this one is really irking me)

Now that I have overshared, I feel that one of my teachers is constantly going against these requests. She has me at the back corner of her room, where she often stands against the counter directly behind me. I am also facing back front to her desk. The worst issue is, she is constantly touching me, and I mean constantly. My shoulders, back, HEAD, and my arm (where I have visible scars)

Just today alone I get kind of irritated with her, where she kept yelling right behind me and I directly spoke to her about my complaints. "Why are you yelling next to me? Y'know this is why my parents got a divorce!". That comment ticked her off a lot, but what else am I supposed to do? My next resort will be violence because she is genuinely making me feel unsafe in her classroom.

I feel that this post is more of a rant than an actua question, but I'll leave it with a real motive. What do I do? Why is my teacher doing this after being reminded of my SPED plan all year? Is she asking to get a rise out of me?

Edit: I have seen a few common comments and I want to clarify a little bit. Where she is standing is not a convenient spot for her or me. She is literally wedged between the cabinet and my chair, meaning I hit her with my chair legs every time I have to move my seat. It is also at a weird angle in the classroom, like I can't even see everyone from there (standing) and I'm taller than her. There is quite literally a carpet right next to my table that she can stand on, with cabinets to lean on, but rather she ends up right behind me. Also, I have no issue with yelling in general, and I understand that she has to yell every now and then because we are noisy middle schoolers. I do not understand, though, why she does it while standing right next to me constantly. It's just irritating. Not to say, that I also have very sensitive hearing (nothing due to my disability or sorts, my hearing has just always been quite good) so in a way it is actually abbit painful each time she yells right next to me.