u/Tasty-Tangelo3702

There's this thing where people say that 20s are the best time to meet, hookup, date and have fun with women. Like it is supposed to be your prime. In a way it does make sense since you're young and full of energy and probably the best you'll ever look but what if you're not getting any interests or from any woman in your 20s? Considering I am 26 and have never kissed anyone and still a virgin, this saying has created a big FOMO for me. This sounds so outlandish and something that only happens in movies and shows. Is my experience uncommon or weird? or is it really the experience of most people? If it is then how far from common? I feel it could be a bit uncommon but not that far away.

I have never had any woman find me attractive. I know people say women don't show it explicitly or just give subtle hints but considering my life experience, I am pretty sure I have never had any woman find me attractive after seeing me/meeting me.

Also I do socialize whenever and however much I can and take care of myself and have hobbies. Saying this before anyone suggests that I am a recluse.

I have been preparing/grinding (whatever you guys call it) for past 3-4 year and I am still nowhere close to what I wanted to achieve. It seems that I would have to keep doing what I am doing for few more years before seeing the results, but lately I have been doubting myself. I have been questioning if it is really worth it to prepare for 2-3 hours minimum after office and then 4-5 hours at least on weekends? Not to mention other stuff like projects that needs to be done for some other companies. I don't do anything else and just keep grinding and preparing to get better salary and companies.

When I see my friends going on trips, partying and generally enjoying themselves while also having good careers/salary hurts a bit. Anyone else going through this? If you're then how are you going past this feeling and focusing on preparation?

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I hear people saying how men are oblivious and are just missing the signs but I have actually never had women show interests/signs towards me. How many men are actually missing the signs/interest from women? All my interactions with women has been platonic. Interactions with those I am interested in feels hard and one sided while the ones I am friendly with are just that , friendly in nature. I have never had woman show eagerness or try to make herself available in that way as people say women do as a sign of interest. Sometimes when they do it is always on friendly way. Sometimes I read or hear about stories where men was oblivious and realized it too late but that kind of thing never happened to me.

Are some men simply not attractive to women? Never felt that spark (from woman's end) ever. What should be way forward for person like me.

I hear people saying how men are oblivious and are just missing the signs but I have actually never had women show interests/signs towards me. How many men are actually missing the signs/interest from women? All my interactions with women has been platonic. Interactions with those I am interested in feels hard and one sided while the ones I am friendly with are just that , friendly in nature. I have never had woman show eagerness or try to make herself available in that way as people say women do as a sign of interest. Sometimes when they do it is always on friendly way. Sometimes I read or hear about stories where men was oblivious and realized it too late but that kind of thing never happened to me.

Are some men simply not attractive to women? Never felt that spark (from woman's end) ever. What should be way forward for person like me.

I have been preparing/grinding (whatever you guys call it) for past 3-4 year and I am still nowhere close to what I wanted to achieve. It seems that I would have to keep doing what I am doing for few more years before seeing the results, but lately I have been doubting myself. I have been questioning if it is really worth it to prepare for 2-3 hours minimum after office and then 4-5 hours at least on weekends? Not to mention other stuff like projects that needs to be done for some other companies. I don't do anything else and just keep grinding and preparing to get better salary and companies.

When I see my friends going on trips, partying and generally enjoying themselves while also having good careers/salary hurts a bit. Anyone else going through this? If you're then how are you going past this feeling and focusing on preparation?

So I've been preparing DSA since my 3rd year of college (4 years in total). Not continuously but for better part of it. I am still struggling to pass through them in interviews. I still struggle with unseen problems of High Medium to Hard categories even for known patterns. The issue for me has always been the logical reasoning/problem solving part of the problems. I know that every DSA/Leetcode problem ultimately reduces into some existing pattern or solved problem but the issue is in the logical reasoning part that comes before it. I usually struggle at the problem solving part where we do lots of analysis and observation and play around with given statement before we turn it into a known pattern. It is this logical reasoning/analysis/observation part that I am never able to get through. For a very simple example, lets take Two sum problem. The main idea/observation behind the solution is that we don't have to check each & every pair. If we're at a given number then all we have to check is if its complimentary number (target minus current) exists in the array or not. Now the problem turns into how quickly can we do this check. It is only after this observation or transformation of the problem that we think of using hashmap. It is this type of reasoning is what I am not able to do. This is a very simple example of course. In most interviews (especially at prestigious companies) they ask those DSA questions which are heavier on this particular part of the problem. So I am never able to get through it.

Anyone else struggling with logical reasoning and problem solving? How do you cope with it?

So I've been preparing DSA since my 3rd year of college (4 years in total). Not continuously but for better part of it. I am still struggling to pass through them in interviews. I still struggle with unseen problems of High Medium to Hard categories even for known patterns. The issue for me has always been the logical reasoning/problem solving part of the problems. I know that every DSA/Leetcode problem ultimately reduces into some existing pattern or solved problem but the issue is in the logical reasoning part that comes before it. I usually struggle at the problem solving part where we do lots of analysis and observation and play around with given statement before we turn it into a known pattern. It is this logical reasoning/analysis/observation part that I am never able to get through. For a very simple example, lets take Two sum problem. The main idea/observation behind the solution is that we don't have to check each & every pair. If we're at a given number then all we have to check is if its complimentary number (target minus current) exists in the array or not. Now the problem turns into how quickly can we do this check. It is only after this observation or transformation of the problem that we think of using hashmap. It is this type of reasoning is what I am not able to do. This is a very simple example of course. In most interviews (especially at prestigious companies) they ask those DSA questions which are heavier on this particular part of the problem. So I am never able to get through it.

Anyone else struggling with logical reasoning and problem solving? How do you cope with it?

I have been preparing/grinding (whatever you guys call it) for past 3-4 year and I am still nowhere close to what I wanted to achieve. It seems that I would have to keep doing what I am doing for few more years before seeing the results, but lately I have been doubting myself. I have been questioning if it is really worth it to prepare for 2-3 hours minimum after office and then 4-5 hours at least on weekends? Not to mention other stuff like projects that needs to be done for some other companies. I don't do anything else and just keep grinding and preparing to get better salary and companies.

When I see my friends going on trips, partying and generally enjoying themselves while also having good careers/salary hurts a bit. Anyone else going through this? If you're then how are you going past this feeling and focusing on preparation?

I have been preparing/grinding (whatever you guys call it) for past 3-4 year and I am still nowhere close to what I wanted to achieve. It seems that I would have to keep doing what I am doing for few more years before seeing the results, but lately I have been doubting myself. I have been questioning if it is really worth it to prepare for 2-3 hours minimum after office and then 4-5 hours at least on weekends? Not to mention other stuff like projects that needs to be done for some other companies. I don't do anything else and just keep grinding and preparing to get better salary and companies.

When I see my friends going on trips, partying and generally enjoying themselves while also having good careers/salary hurts a bit. Anyone else going through this? If you're then how are you going past this feeling and focusing on preparation?

I have been grinding leetcode/codefocres for past 3-4 year and I am still nowhere close to what I wanted to achieve. It seems I would have to keep doing what I am doing but recntly I have started to doubt myself. I keep thinking if it is really worth it to grind 2-3 hours after office and then 4-5 hours at least on weekends? Not to mention other stuff like system design and projects that needs to be done. i don't do anything else and just keep grinding and preparing to get better salary and companies (FAANG/FAANG level).

When I see my friends going on trips, partying and generally enjoying themselves while also having good careers/salary hurts a bit. Anyone else?