u/TazP27

Hi everyone,

This is a strange post for me to make, and honestly I'm not sure where else to ask this. I'm trying to keep an open mind, and I'd really appreciate hearing from people who have experience with Wicca or witchcraft.

I'm a 31 year old man, and I've started wondering whether I may have been cursed by someone I used to know.

Years ago, I went to school with a girl who had a pretty big crush on me. She told me I was her first crush and that I'd always be special to her. She asked me out, but I didn't feel the same way, so I turned her down. We stayed on good terms though and would chat every now and then over the years.

She identified as a Wiccan and was very interested in the occult and witchcraft. During one conversation, she jokingly told me that she'd put a curse on me so I'd never end up in a relationship with anyone except her. At the time I laughed and assumed she was kidding.

A few years later we caught up again. By then she had a boyfriend, and she asked how my love life was going. I mentioned I was still single and jokingly brought up the "curse." She laughed and said she had only been joking, and I believed her.

Fast forward to today. I'm now 31 and I've never had a girlfriend.

It's not that I've never met women or had romantic connections. I've had several situations where things started off really well. There would be chemistry, mutual interest, regular communication, even sexual intimacy, and it genuinely felt like things were heading towards a relationship. But every single time, as soon as I tried to make things more serious, everything would suddenly fall apart.

The reason I'm posting this now is because it's just happened again.

For the last three months I'd been talking to someone I genuinely thought I could build a future with. We talked every day, flirted, made several plans together, and everything seemed to be moving in a positive direction. Then, as soon as things started becoming more serious, she disappeared, ignored my messages, and blocked me on social media without any explanation or warning.

This is now the 7th woman I've developed genuine feelings for where things seemed to be progressing towards a relationship before suddenly ending in a way that felt completely out of the blue.

At this point I'm exhausted. I'm tired of short-lived connections, tired of flings, and tired of never being able to get beyond that stage. I just want to build a loving, committed relationship with someone, but after so many similar experiences I'm beginning to wonder if there's something more going on.

So I wanted to ask people who genuinely practise Wicca or have experience with witchcraft:

Does this sound like anything you've ever heard of? Is it possible that someone could have placed a curse like the one she described, even if she later claimed she was joking? Or does this simply sound like an unfortunate series of coincidences?

I'm genuinely looking for honest opinions rather than being told what I want to hear.

Thank you for reading.

I, (31m) have been talking to (29f) for 3 months now, we actually knew each other from when we were teens but never spoke before until now. So she reached out to me on instagram and we've been talking everyday for 3 months, long messages full of shared interests, questions about each other lives and aspirations, flirts, sexual banter and plans for future dates.

Now I've been left on delivered for over 3 days, and nothing about her last message suggested that she was losing interest, it was just as engaged as all the others, paragraph long and full of questions that keep the convo going, so im a little shocked at the abrupt disappearance.

We unfortunately haven't been able to actually meet up in person yet as she reached out to me right at the beginning of my 6 month trip around Asia, really bad timing I know... so I can't exactly blame her if the pen pal thing got old or if she met a guy who is actually able to see her in person and physically be with her, that being said, it still hurts as I would have thought she respected me enough to at least tell me she's no longer interested or if she met someone else rather than pretending I don't matter at all.

Now my question is this, should I send a follow up message or not? I'm in 2 minds about it, on the one hand I don't want to, she already made it clear what she thinks of me by dropping me like a used tissue, so I want to keep my dignity by accepting it and moving on. On the other hand I wonder if I'll regret this later by not fighting for her and letting my pride stop me.

Let me know your thoughts, i'm leaning towards not messaging her at all but would like to hear some opinions from people who have been in similar situations.

I'm a 31M and Ive been taking to a 29F over text for 2 months now.

We started chatting online and have talked every day since. The messages have been long (sometimes multiple paragraphs each), she's sent me photos from her day, reels, talked about life, movies, video games, etc. There has also been some light flirting and plans about doing things together in the future. For example, we've talked about playing games together, going to the cinema, me lifting her up on my shoulders and taking pictures together, that sort of thing.

One big complication though is that i'm not currently in the country, We both live in England but i'm currently doing some work/travelling in Asia and won't be back until September which is why we haven't met in person yet.

After sending long messages to each other everyday now, she has now stopped replying altogether, her last message was 4 full days ago despite being online, however nothing in our recent conversation suggests to me that she was angry or bored, it was just as long and engaged as all her other ones (we were talking about a video game she wants me to buy so we can play together) so i'm surprised and confused at the sudden silence.

Is the whole dynamic over now? interested to hear some opinions on this or if anyone has gone through something similar.