u/TemporaryForsaken903

i’ve been talking to a girl (27 f) for about 5 months now exclusively. We have honestly gotten really close especially the past 2 months and i’ve grown to really like this girls. It’s been about 3 years since my last relationship but i’ve never really had a “bachelor phase” since that’s not really my thing. she has told me she has her secrets that she hasn’t been fully revealing to me since she doesn’t want me to see her differently, but sometimes still drops stories/bombs on me from her past seggual experiences that honestly doesn’t have me feeling super comfortable.

2 nights ago i found her old OF content that she had done many years ago. the time she had created OF content was during the period she was highly addicted to drugs and mentally unstable. I can see that she has grown significantly since then. I still do value the time spent together but Idk how to approach this fully. I know this will likely be in the back of my mind for a little bit since it’s constantly been on my find since i’ve discovered it. I know it’s not a big deal for some people but this hurts a bit for me. i don’t want to come off as judgemental and make her feel worse about her past but right now i don’t feel to well about it either

Should i end things? Should i have been told this instead of stumbling across it on the internet? Am i the asshole since finding something about her past is really affecting me this hard?

I really don’t know anymore but I will talk to her about it tonight

i’ve been talking to a girl (27 f) for about 5 months now exclusively. We have honestly gotten really close especially the past 2 months and i’ve grown to really like this girls. It’s been about 3 years since my last relationship but i’ve never really had a “bachelor phase” since that’s not really my thing. she has told me she has her secrets that she hasn’t been fully revealing to me since she doesn’t want me to see her differently, but sometimes still drops stories/bombs on me from her past seggual experiences that honestly doesn’t have me feeling super comfortable.

2 nights ago i found her old OF content that she had done many years ago. the time she had created OF content was during the period she was highly addicted to drugs and mentally unstable. I can see that she has grown significantly since then. I still do value the time spent together but Idk how to approach this fully. I know this will likely be in the back of my mind for a little bit since it’s constantly been on my find since i’ve discovered it. I know it’s not a big deal for some people but this hurts a bit for me. i don’t want to come off as judgemental and make her feel worse about her past but right now i don’t feel to well about it either

Should i end things? Should i have been told this instead of stumbling across it on the internet? Am i the asshole since finding something about her past is really affecting me this hard?

I really don’t know anymore but I will talk to her about it tonight

Me (25M) has been exclusively talking to a girl (27 F) for about 5 months now. i’ve grown to actually love the girl and develop true feeling for her (first time feeling this way for a girl in a long time). my last relationship was 3 years ago and i honestly don’t have much sexual experience and haven’t really done any one night stand (as that’s not rlly my vibe). But one thing i felt unsure about since the starting to talk to her was her phase of life (won’t address do to privacy) and was insecure/afraid that she might have had an extreme hoe phase (i honestly haven’t had the courage to discuss with her). Tonight i found out that used to have an onlyfans about X years ago and her nudes are out online. idk what to do, i’m sad, i feel like i actually love her but at the same time this is quite a large deal for me. Sorry about the poor grammar. i never have posted on reddit before but tonight i’m devastated. i feel lost and i just want to hear advice on what you guys would do in this situation. should i end things with her?