I need help. I 18M and 17F aren't doing great and I try to help I make it worse. What can I do?
So for context we've been dating for about 4 years and it's been rocky but great at the same time and she my everything to me.
Me: 18M, undiagnosed ADHD and probably more but all undiagnosed( because I recently got kicked out of a abuse household who wouldn't take or left me.)
Her: 17F, diagnosed autism, diabetes, and OCD
Story: As our most recent in person argument was on the 4th of july but it wasn't really an argument but I know i messed up due to not telling her where my family was taking us to go see the fireworks and also forget her medicine(I thought she had a insulin pump in she did but it was low) but after she told me she was getting high I started panicking internally and start overthinking and blamed myself for forgetting her medicine before we left. But she blames me not for forgetting it but not telling her where we were going but honestly all I knew is what time we were leaving and that we were getting food before we got to the spot and I told her that but she her blood sugar started getting high and I started getting worked up and destroyed my drink and stormed off because I was over think and blaming myself but while I was gone my adoptive mom started talking/yelling at her but because her blood sugar was high she asked her not to because it would have made it worse. So she called her dad to pick her up and they though she was talking to me on the phone because she was being rude to him because of her high blood sugar. So I found out she left, relaxed, then tried contacting her to try and help but she blocked me on discord so i kept calling her because i was worried for her safely but she never answered soI left her be, till later that night were I tried to call her to tell her good night and she hung up and I said "I just wanted to say goodnight" and she responded with "text it then" so I did and she reciprocated and I went to bed. But once I woke up I wanted to check on her because my family told me she was being rude before she left and she not being taken out anymore, so I called and texted her to see her side and she got mad and blocked me on there too. So I left her alone for a while till I remembered I could message her on roblox but she was hostile towards me so I ended up telling I was gonna go see her in person to talk it out in a couple days and head to bed but discover my room had been entered and my nintendo switch had been taken so I asked around and told her with her laughing at me being stressed out losing it so I stopped and earlier today she unblocked me on discord and messaged me and we talked which devolved back into an argument about how I don't listen or change and she doesn't see my effort or communicate clearly. And now I feel this relationship turned abusive and I feel like I'm being used for money which I don't work because horrible market and current family believes I should live my teen years and not work but do get payments from the school due to being kicked out from my previous "home". Know I'm unsure on what to do, I'm gonna try to do more research but I feel like if I do she's just not gonna see me trying to change and I don't know what to do. I looking for advice on just anything to save this relationship. (And yes I've told her I don't feel seen and it made it worse.)