u/TheVetheron

As a trans woman with a wife, I want to call myself a lesbian more than anything. I know in my heart of hearts that I was meant to be a gay woman. I don't know why I was born the way I was, but I know it was wrong. I've been transitioning for close to 3 years, and my wife is much happier with me as her wife. I am a different person now, and I really like her.

Is it ok to call myself a lesbian though? I really feel like one, and I always have.

When my egg cracked I literally looked at her and said"I think I am trans" She just said that she wasn't surprised, and asked me if I had I name I liked. I didn't even have to think about it. Kimberly came to me, and I have been her for well over 2 years. I am her Kimmy, and Kimberly to everyone else. It's even legal! I am Kimberly! The best part? She still loves me! I am a transbian with a wife! I think that means I win!

Heat up a pan with a few good splashes of olive oil. Throw in some chopped garlic (2 or 3 cloves) and shallots for a minute or so. Then just throw in a bunch of cherry tomatoes. Keep them to a single layer though. Sautee them while stirring them up until they start to look blistered and a bit wrinkly. At this point you can do a few different things. I have put them in zucchini and sausage soup. I've used them in a sauted shrimp and summer squash dish that was amazing! The best way though is just put a few in a small bowl, and cover them in Feta. They add both a brightness and a salty umami kick.

I sleep so well now, and I enjoy food again. I swear my breasts are even changing already. They have definitely started changing shape and volume. My bras even fit differently. I'm also a lot calmer over all.

I have been a bit more emotional though. I was already really emotional, and I don't need to be more emotional.

I was hesitant to start progesterone, but I am really glad I did.

I honestly did not expect to see any changes for weeks or a couple months. Progesterone has hit hard really quickly though. I'm not complaining. Looking back though, estrogen hit me pretty hard and quickly too.

She didn't tell anyone. She just walked out at 3am. The doors were left open, and she just walked away. The morning cook came into cops in the lot and store. The trash was half done, and there was spilled coffee by the register.

They called in a wellfare check, and she was fine. She had just had enough and left.

This happened a couple of days after I quit. Thank god! It wasn't my problem.

I want to say that this is very bad and irresponsible, but I must say that the store we worked at really sucked. I won't say names, but they were horrible. I did laugh!

I deleted the original post because I can not stand a misspelling in the the title.

I've spent the last few years with little appetite. A lot of days I had to make myself eat.

The last two days? I just want to eat. I really crave sandwiches. Today alone I have eaten a gyro, and a really nice and large turkey sandwich. I've even had a bologna sandwich with potato chips on it topped with horseradish mustard. Now I really want something sweet, but we don't have anything sweet. I ate all of the ice cream this morning.

I need to learn some self control.

I post a lot about my journey, and some of it is a bit intimate. Am I oversharing? I just want to be honest about my journey in the hope that it helps others. I also worry a lot about being annoying. I am autistic, so I don't always know if I am being a bit too much.

I couldn't wait until tonight. If I get sleepy at 1 or 2pm I don't care. I've been wanting for this for so long. My sleep schedule was so weird before anyway.

I've been on HRT for a bit over 2.5 years. Now it's time for the next stage. I hope it helps my boobs! I'm also looking forward to sleeping well finally!

Edit: I had to tell someone, and no one in my life really gets it. They are great supporters, don't get me wrong. They just don't have a reference point for how big of a deal this is to me. The only who does one is my wife, and she already knew I was going to pick it up.

When I decided to transition, I knew I would never pass. I have a very deep voice. I have always had long hair, but it has receded a bit. I get a 5 o'clock shadow at 10 am.

My features have softened, and I have boobs. No one is going to see me as a cis woman though. I know this, and I feel like I have made peace with it. I know who I am, and my wife does too. It's made me really think about why I am doing this.

The bottom line seems to be that I am doing it for me. I just don't really care how other people see me. What matters is how I see me, and to a slightly smaller degree I care about how my wife sees me. When either one of us looks at me we see Kimberly 100%

I have lived on testosterone, and I have lived on estrogen. I can not express how much more I like estrogen! Hands down, this is the best thing ever. I felt so at odds with myself on testosterone. Estrogen just felt like coming home to a place I should have always been at. I actually felt comfortable enough with myself to stop caring what other people thought about me. I can not tell you how freeing that is. I felt like I could finally be myself. Then, I finally did become myself.

Sure, I worry about safety as all trans women and trans men should, but I am actually me! I can't and won't give that up ever!

I've posted about this before, but I was hit by some serious cries today. I cried because I recently quit my job. I cried because my cats are far to cute. I cried because my wife was so supportive of me quitting my toxic job. I cried for no reason out of the blue while watching dumb You Tube videos. Sometimes I guess I just need to cry. Before I would have felt like it was a weakness. Now? I embrace it, and just go with it. I never expected to be ok with being so emotional. I spent so much of my life trying to stuff all feelings down deep inside. It's a relief to be ok with feeling them now. I don't know if estrogen brought them out more, or if it just allowed me to finally feel them without the baggage of trying to be the man I never was. Either way I am 52 and trying to manage these emotions in a way that doesn't overwhelm me. Some days I am more succesful than others. Today was a crying day I guess. They aren't bad days though. It is very theraputic to just let yourself go and have a good cry or five.

I was working third shift at a Speedway in Northern Kentucky. It wasn't transphobic rednecks that made me quit. In fact my customers were surprisingly chill and accepting. It's Door Dash that did it. I work alone, and we are pretty busy all night because we have several warehouses near us that operate 24/7. I'll have a line of 15 to 20 people, and then Door Dash starts popping off. I'm now expected to deal with my line of people, make food and find 15 different snack items in my store. I woke up this evening, and realized that I just couldn't do it again. I could not imagine myself going in, and putting up with that BS again.

I never felt unsafe as a trans woman working there, and my customers were surprisingly chill and even sweet. I'll miss them, but I will not miss that place. I hate Door Dash so much right now!

It was Door Dash that made me quit. I can handle a long line of people. That's fine. What isn't fine is having a line, and then Door Dash starts popping off. I'm only one person. Yet, I am supposed to deal with a line of 15 people, make chicken wings and get 8 different snacks for someone who isn't even in my store. Then the Dasher comes up, and shoves their phone in my face without saying a single word. I honestly thought my biggest challenge would be being openly queer in a conservative area working alone at 3am. No! It's f*cking Door Dash! My customers were very accepting of me, and I genuinely like most of them. Door Dash is that one thing too many. It was the straw that broke my back. I spent the last few nights training a new girl, and she's about to quit too. She thinks she can get me hired on as a server at the sports bar she also works at. So, I guess I will become a server now. I'm looking forward to the tips.

Goodbye nightshift. I won't miss you, but I'll miss my regulars. This shift as a trans woman in Kentucky taught me a lot. Some of the most redneck looking people were very accepting and supportive. They actually liked me, and did not react the way I was afraid they would. I ended up liking them too.

She didn't hesitate when I came out. She just asked me if I had a name I preferred. Ever since I have been her Kimmy. Since coming out Kimberly is my legal name. I went to the court house and the SSI office, I am Kimberly now, but I am and always will be her Kimmy!

I'm such a huge fan. My wife and I were married in concert t's from shows back in the 90's. I am a trans women who is gay. I'm married to a bisexual woman who has been my wife for almost 28 years. We have seen the Girls so many times. We always made it a point to see them if they were in a 3 or 4 hour drive. I used to be someone who saw all of the gay women around me, and I was jealous. Now I am one of the gay women, and our last show we saw last summer was the best one ever! I was fully me there with my adult children, and my wife. It was the Girls and Melissa Etheridge! OMG! OMG! OMG! It was an amaxzng show! I will never forget it!

I can bond with other women, but when they find out I'm gay and have a wife I feel things change. They still seem to see me as safer than a cis man, but they are still a bit standoffish because I'm gay? I have told them that I am in a 28 year marriage, and I have no sex drive at all in conversations we have had about our home life and life in general.

I don't just say "Hey, I'm Kimberly. I am a gay trans woman with a wife." It justs comes up in talks we have about life and our families. Cis women are usually fine until they hear "lesbian." Then it's like I am reduced to guy status in ways. I get less gossip, I no longer hear about their boyfriends or husbands screwing up. I'm cut out of the girl talk as soon as they realise that I still like girls. WTF? I love the girl talk! Please don't cut me out of it! I'm not some dude who is an absolute dog. I'm just a woman who likes women. I'm married and happy. I'm not looking to sleep with you Brenda! I just want to chat, and make the work day go faster.

I'm worried about her. She is smart and competent, but it's her first night. So far she has only called me once to ask where something was. She sent a text about an a**hole customer, but she was just venting a bit while joking about him.

I'm sure she can handle it, but like a mother hen, I worry. I really like her, and she's a good fit for the store. I want her to hang around for a while.

To the girl who just had one I want to say congrats! You look so happy! I am jealous, but happy for you.

I want to know what the recovery is like. I've heard that it can feel like you have been kicked in the groin for a few days. Is this true? How long was the recovery? I'd ask in the original post, but I want to hear from more people who have had it done.

How much did it cost? My Endo told me a couple years ago that it would probably be around $6k US dollars. Is that right, or is it much more now? Was it difficult to find someone to perform it?

I really want one. I don't plan on SRS surgery. I am older, and have no real libido. I want to cut out my T blocker though. I'm in my 50's and take several meds each day. One less would be great. The fact that my body could never betray me and make T again is also a wonderful thought.

My wife also wants me to have one. She is so much happier with me now than she ever was before. She wants to make sure that I never have to worry about dealing with testosterone ever again as well.

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Edit: I agree with her! I was an a$$hole. I am so much more pleasant now as her.

Y'all do not get enough representation here. I want you to know that you are loved, and appreciated. We are all siblings in this. I love and appreciate you.