u/The_Lucid_Writer

I moved to base for my husband who’s been here for four years. We have on base housing, and it’s been almost three months. Soon he’ll leave for a couple months, and I’m gonna be home alone. The last time I was home alone, it was only a week but it made me feel like I was insane. I am struggling to make friends, go out, and do things because we share a vehicle. I’m extremely lonely. I’ve been wanting a dog to have a companion, routine, and have a reason to get out more. He said that even though he wants one, we’re not getting one right now. He’s had dogs pass away and other awful things happen during deployment, and he doesn’t know if having a dog while active duty will work for us. I’m devastated. We both love dogs, it works for our budget. I’d only want one. I’ve seen so many at the shelter that are adorable, good canidates, but I just can’t bring myself to explain to him the why. Why I’m so goddamn lonely. I get out of the house everyday, I work on my goals, try to find work, and I have plenty of time to do hobbies, but even when I am able to get out to socialize, it’s not enough. I’m extremely lonely, and a part of me is afraid to vocalize it. I had dogs when living with family, and he has too, but I struggle to explain why I want one so badly. It makes me feel awful. We started setting up a small aquarium as I also wanted fish. I’m crying now and I feel like I can’t tell him why, because I feel like it’s a stupid reason to cry.

This girl I met yesterday was younger than me but insisted that her house was bigger, her husband was higher rank and how my shit ain’t good.. like I’m seven years older than her and I do not give a fuck because I’m happy where I am and love my husband and the life we’ve built together.

Why are some wives like this?

We just moved and got settled into our new home and we’ve been here for over a month. My husband has lived in the area for five years but now we finally have a place together. We both love animals, and we’ve both had dogs before, but never “ours”. I saw the cutest dog for adoption, and I just feel like he’s the one. He’s a 4month old lab, and he’s cute, fluffy, and sits pretty for the camera. Last week, we had a small discussion about getting a dog, and he said he would love to, but he’s not ready. With him being in the military, he feels like between deployments, he’s practically abandoning them and they don’t understand why their person is gone. He’s also been away for training or had to leave when some of his dogs were sick/put down, when he desperately wanted to be there for them. One of them was a pup that was fine one day, and literally not walking the next. I completely understand where he’s coming from, but a dog means a lot to me.

I don’t have any friends here. We have one vehicle, so I haven’t been able to go out unless I actually plan/ pay someone to drive me when he’s at work. I think a dog would make me get out of the house everyday, help me meet my step goals, and maybe meet people at the dog park nearby. I’ve also just missed having a fluffy dramatic friend with me all day (somehow every pet I get has a crazy personality).

He really wanted to go to an adoption event last week, but just didn’t feel ready and I respected that, and obviously I’d never go without him.

We also have a small camping trip coming up in a few weeks, and he really wants to go, and while I do too, I’d be fine putting it on the back burner for a pup. We would also travel back home for the holidays (a few states away), and that would be another challenge if we for a dog. But he only gets so much time off. He’ll actually be leaving for training for a whole month and maybe two in a while, and I’ll be at the house alone, so having something to keep me company would be nice (I’ll also have our vehicle then).

We also have dogs in our neighborhood and our neighbors also just keep theirs out most of the day, so they’re barking a lot. We also have a small yard, with mulch, so walks are definitely going to be a daily occurrence.

I feel like maybe he’s worried about getting one then something would happen, or when he deploys again, he’ll feel guilty about it. On one hand, I completely understand, but on the other, he’s such a cute little guy and I really want to meet him.

We also have an aquarium we’ve been planning to set up together. It would be an easier thing to manage, but man, I can’t cuddle fish, unfortunately.

So we’ve been on base for a month. We only got paid once last month, and it was half of what we were supposed to be receiving. Haven’t seen BAH hit out account, just regular salary, and it was surprising to see it hit like that at the end of the month. Waiting for June’s first payment, but they haven’t given him time off to go to IPAC about it, it really effects our budget, and I feel like as a wife there’s nothing I can do?

I’m considering a few different career options. I have a BA in English, a masters is expensive, and I kinda want to try something different.

I’m looking at a couple scholarship based cert programs. One is just the comptia A+ (computer technician) which seems kinda underwhelming to me. Another is A+ and Network+ (Support Specialist), and another is Network+ and Security+ (Security Technician). I haven’t worked in IT, but it seems the trifecta is the base most go for, but these programs are about $2K, and have a practicum/ externship option. I can do one this year, and if I’m allowed, I might be able to do another next year. They’re also supposed to help with your resume and possibly job placement.

I’m really interested in giving it an honest try, but I’m also really worried about the tech industry and the rise of AI as it has also impacted my field. On one hand, I’m looking into several different career paths and I feel like it’s a whole beast lol

I’m considering a paralegal program (scholarship) that would prepare me for the NALA. I enjoy true crime and I have a strong background in documentation with my English degree. I did take one business law course in my associate’s and had to drop it because I would’ve failed it from boredom, but it was like HR to the max. I am incredibly interested in the security and mobility aspect of the profession, and if it means I can help people by using my skills, I thought maybe it would be worth a try.

However, I’m not entirely sure. If I use this scholarship, I lose it, so I’m trying to be 100% certain before I start. I also strongly value my work/life balance and possible remote/ hybrid work.

I have a bachelors in English. I have worked as a substitute teacher and Paraeducator sub for almost two years. I just moved and I heard about the scholarship, but I am unsure of how to use it (2K per year, or 4K total). There’s a lot of programs online and asynchronous, and while I have enjoyed education, I feel like I’ve been spinning my wheels. Most programs can be done in 4-6 months, some are longer, but I don’t know what to choose. I’d like the flexibility of working remote, and I strongly value my work/life balance.

Here’s some of the program options through LSU, Texas A&M and Auburn:

Assisted Living Technician
• Associate Professional in Human Resources
• Clinical Medical Assistant
• Clinical Medical Assistant OBGYN Specialist
• Clinical Medical Assistant Pediatrics Specialist
• Clinical Medical Assistant with RMA
• Clinical Nurse Aide
• Computer Security Technician (CompTIA Security+ and Network+)
• Computer Support Specialist (CompTIA A+ and Network+)
• Computer Technician (CompTIA A+)
• Dental Assistant
• EKG Technician
• Electronic Health Record (HER) Management
• LEED Green Associate
• Medical Administrative Assistant
• Medical Billing and Coding
• Medical Billing and Coding with Medical Administrative Assistant
• Network Technician (CompTIA Network+)
• Nursing Assistant Specialist
• Paralegal Professional
• Patient Advocate Specialist
• Personal Care Assistant
• Physician's Office Assistant w/ EHRM
• Phlebotomy Technician
• Project Management
Sterile Processing with Surgical Technologist
• Sterile Processing Technician
• Surgical Technologist

It’s kinda overwhelming, but I feel like the HR, Teacher’s Aide, Assisted Living, and Nurse aide aren’t in the cards for me as they dont seem practical for my education and background. I come from an education background and fellow educators told me to not do teachers aide since i already clear those requirements double. I am kinda interested in Paralegal, but i heard AI is drafting some legal documents now. I thought about starting CompTIA A+, but im afraid only one cert gets covered, unless maybe i can do network+ next year, but IDK. Not interested in being a nurse because even though the pay is good, the work is never over. So I really dont know what to choose/ look into. I originally wanted to specialize and do a master’s degree, but it’s extremely expensive and i already have a little debt I want to get rid of

Currently on select. In a new area. I’m already nervous about driving in the city to the clinics and appointments, but this is stressing me out. It’s really hard to find the specialty care that I need that isn’t all the way in a major city near me that’s like an hour of traffic on a good day. Husband and I share a vehicle, and while we could make it work for me to go to appointments, over the last few years I’ve come to really enjoy telehealth.

I’ve been trying for a few weeks, just searching in a 25 mile radius and most doctors are out until next year or are in subspecialty. I’m almost to the point where I want to switch to Prime to get a PCM to coordinate that shit for me because the driving is going to be awful regardless at this point and I just need to get my new meds set up prior to October. If it was yall, what would you do?

Hey everyone, I’ve worked as a para sub and substitute teacher for almost two years now. Moved to a new state, and considering different careers. For background, I have an English degree, but was originally doing secondary education (ELA). I did student teaching but amongst medical issues, realized the traditional teaching path and demand wasn’t for me. I’ve really enjoyed supporting students and working with small groups and individuals. I have taken classes such as classroom management, teaching portfolio, students with disabilities, education law, and many others. I also did a practicum. I also passed my content area NES exam for my state, but the score isn’t valid anymore to my current knowledge.

I’m currently considering either specializing, which would require a long and expensive masters program, or maybe pivoting out of education into something else. But I do find it fulfilling on the rare occasions when it feels like I make a difference and have a positive impact on students. I’ve enjoyed working in SPED as a para sub, and as a substitute teacher, but I also don’t know if it’s worth getting a parapro certification if I have the experience (and education). What do you think?

I’m really out of shape and super embarrassed. I literally don’t have stamina past 5 mins on the stair master, and I feel like a loser. How do I keep going? How do I make progress? I feel like I’m stuck at the beginning

My husband is out for the week and he really wants these when he comes home. I plan to do mashed potatoes and grilled asparagus, but if I’m honest I have never done boneless country style ribs before. I mentioned poss uh my throwing them in the crockpot to slow cook, and he said something about them being done in a pan. I’ve never cooked them before and atm I have limited spices/ and like no bbq sauce or anything (have to go to the store or amazon). What’s your favorite or best way to prepare them? He’s been working so hard and he’s going to need a good comforting meal when he’s home

I’ve been here two weeks with him on base in our new home. I haven’t driven in almost a month and I’ve never driven his truck before. I had an accident a while ago that’s made me very nervous about driving. He’s been supportive and has driven me around base/ around town when we wanted to go out. I haven’t had any things to do besides settling in, but now that he may be gone for a week, I’m anxious. I don’t know why. It’s like I’m in a new place and don’t know anyone, and I haven’t made any friends yet. I haven’t even gone to the commissary or the PX by myself even once since we live far enough that I can’t walk it. I don’t want to subject him to me driving him early in the morning for drop off, I mean, what am I gonna do with his truck anyway? Too nervous to drive in heavy traffic anyway… I need someone to give me a reality check and a chill pill, stat