u/The_empty_cookie_jar

my brother is 11, and I have no clue how to deal with him, in my country, schools do admission tests, till now he has done multiple tests, for multiple schools, and even retook some, and failed all of them, I have helped him with studying before, he isn't dumb, he can pass these tests, but it's like he simply doesn't care.

Gonna sound old as hell, but all he wants to do is play video games, watch YouTube shorts, and eat like shit. He has a very stubborn attitude, can't take criticism, can't take advice, it's so bad that when a teacher tries to guide him in exams and get him to correct a mistake, instead of taking advantage of that like any other normal kid and try to get the correct answer, he instead would get angry at the fact she is even correcting him, he is unmotivated, doesn't seem to have any aspirations or dreams, he doesn't have a single hobby, no sports, no reading, (sometimes art but it looks like he given up on that too)

I don't like how things are going with my brother, sure his and my generation definitely have problems with social media, doomscrolling, junk food etc. but I feel like most kids aren't as lazy or helpless as him.

I don't know, I am frustrated with him, frustrated by my parents because they have practically given up on him, to some extent I kind of understand why he is like that, our household is always filled with a comment, a critique, it's exhausting.

But it's genuinely insane to me, because his attitude isn't helping him, and i don't think he is unaware of that fact yet he keeps doing it.

Yes I tried to get My parents to get him to a psychiatrist, yes I tried to convince them to put him in a sport, yes I try to encourage some of his positive interests like art. But it's not working.

I know this post doesn't sound the best, but I love my brother I want what's best for him, but if he continues like this.. fuck his life will be actual hell, and in this world no one will come to save him.

I am a busy college student, I don't have the luxury of re-parenting him, but fuck man no one seems to be willing to do anything here, help. Me.

السلام عليكم

Not sure if I will regret posting this but I hope not,

I am a 20 year who is embarrassingly very much incapable of writing in Arabic properly, even though I speak in Arabic and read it just fine (though a bit slow), and have lived in an Arab country all my life.

Background: my early education was shit, in both languages really, and yet people who grew up in the same school don't seem to struggle as much as me in Arabic, I think it's due to being isolated and not having the the regular online chatting other kids had with each other, I replaced normal friendships with forgein media, and ended up getting better at English, combine that with an evil ass Arabic teacher, my unconfidence in the language was solidified.

My parents tried, they placed me in Quran classes hoping it would improve my Arabic, I "studied" the Quran (more like memorization with zero understanding) for around 3 years.

Anyways it didn't work, I was able to read the Quran, recite it properly, but not write in Arabic.

I took olevel Arabic Cambridge exam and got an A, (if you don't know, Cambridge olevel Arabic is considered to be quite easy, I had scored full marks in all my other o levels so I wasn't the type of student to slack off, In normal circumstances any other student would have scored full marks)

I think my main problem is that I don't feel comfortable expressing myself in Arabic, all the journalling, storytelling and studing I have done was always in English.

I simply want to fix this problem, it's humiliating and embarrassing to be this bad at my own native language.

I don't hate Arabic, I have tried reading Arabic literature, and I found a liking in poetry, but the insecurity runs deep, I can't enjoy it fully, because in the back of my mind I know that I am not understanding the material fully, and that there is a layer of complexity that I am missing from it. I know it sounds stupid, and I know the solution is probably to keep trying, but I am stuck.

If someone was in the similar circumstance like me, and was able to improve I would really appreciate some advice.