First time visiting relatives in China (they are ages 18-50), what are easy souvenirs from the US I can bring them? So far from my research, I only have Trader Joe's bags and snacks. I'm from the Bay Area if there are any other specific souvenirs.
I have no issue not having a bridal shower, but I hate that my mom doesn't want to plan one for her own selfish reasons. At first she wanted one and kept asking me if I was going to have one, but when she found out that traditionally the bride's mom (aka her) plans it, she ran away SO fast. I mean she literally, physically removed herself from the room at the idea of taking responsibility. Her lame excuse was that we don't have enough family that would come. This is entire incorrect, we do have enough females + on the groom's side to attend. She simply doesn't want to put in effort, time or money. She's the laziest person I know. I asked her a third and final time because my future MIL and SIL were asking if they need to block off their calendar and my mom literally ran out of the room avoiding it. I'm her only daughter. This is typical narc behaviour from her, thinks everything is about her. She's sad I'm getting married as she will be alone, can't even be happy for me.
Again, I don't care about the event itself, but she never asked what I want. She never even celebrated my engagement, ever since I got engaged she's been anxious about me leaving her. I hate that she always thinks about what's in it for her.
Anything I should change? I’m not sure what looks good on me. Are the lashes too heavy?
For hair, I also tried a half up look but wasn’t sure if the low bun was better. Included a pic of the low bun from the back. I’m wearing a strapless satin ball gown. My curtain bangs have grown out but the way she did them wasn’t exactly what I wanted. She said I should get a haircut for the bangs.
I am getting married soon and I'd like to confront my parents about some things they did to me and my partner growing up. I understand they won't take it well, but it's closure for me. I don't plan on keeping in contact with them afterwards. If you confronted your parents, how did you do it? I have been making notes of all the things they've done but don't know how to deliver it. Do I sit them down? Send them an email? I'm planning to focus only on things pertaining to my partner and I, rather than my entire traumatic childhood. With my wedding coming up, my AM is acting like she has always been supportive of my relationship and loves my partner when that is far from the truth. I flinch everytime she acts like this amazing MIL to my partner and we both know it's fake. For context, my partner and I have been together for 10 years and my APs have only started to accept him 1-2 years ago. For 8+ years, they would call him names, kick him out of the house, not allow him anywhere near our house, trash talk his entire family. Complete 180 since we got engaged.
Just need to rant. Everything is on our website with an FAQ section. It's like every guest wants us to help them with something. All adults over the age of 25 btw. Some highlights:
One guest is complaining how far the drive is (2 hours), sorry my bad, let me change the venue just for you.
Edit: This particular guest spent a whole dinner in person complaining about how inconvenient it is. And no it is not 2 hours away for most guests. Some guests are flying in from a different county and aren't complaining! Oh and this guest said he 'expects' the evening to end at 9:30pm othewise it's too late for him.
Another guest doesn't have a car and is asking me to ask ALL the other guests if someone can carpool. Not all my guests have cars including some who are flying in, no one else is asking me to find them a ride and she follows up daily if I found her a ride! Girl, go rent a car or ask around yourself.
Edit: I’m not asking 150 guests if anyone is available to carpool. I also don't know where every single guest is coming from. Just remebered, this same guest after I sent the STD a year in advance, every month she would ask when the invite was coming.
Another one is asking me what 'formal dress code' means. Sir, it's in the FAQ section and you can look it up. No, don't send us photos of your suits, we have a million things to manage I don't want to help you pick your outfit.
Edit: This is not a tech issue, guest is 26 y.o. Again inspo is in our FAQ or look it up. He's also part of a friend group that is coming, why not ask the others what they're wearing?
I love my guests but when I have a million things on my mind I cannot answer every trivial question when it’s on the website or can be searched up.
Edit: Thank you for the helpful comments! I agree with the foundation being too light, I brough it up and she said she'll use the correct shade the day of. And the look I showed her was this: https://ca.pinterest.com/pin/755619643769876851/
Did a makeup trial today but hate it :( Wedding is in 3 months, I can’t figure out why I don’t like the makeup. I spent so long finding an Asian MUA that is familiar with my East Asian features.
Something about the eyes is too heavy? Or all of it was too heavy?
I know it’ll photograph differently but I was so thrown off. Blush isn’t where I’d normally place it, eyeliner as well. Normally I use pink blush but she went for a peachy tone.
Is there a different look I should go for? Maybe do my own makeup? If you have an inspo pic that might suit my feature please drop it below!
I say I have no choice because I want my grandma to come and she and I both live with my narc parents. She's too old to come by herself. I really don't want to invite my parents but I'll have to tough it out. Is it a bad idea that when I invite them I let them know they weren't invited at first?
Another issue is that I don't want my dad to walk me down as he is very sexist and would thrive at the idea of 'handing me off'. I would prefer my grandma or brother to walk me down. Anyone not want to invite their parents but still did?
I will be at an Airbnb 15 minutes from the venue with my bridal party (hair/makeup will happen there), do I change into my dress at the Airbnb or bring it to the venue and change there? There's no changeroom at the venue but no guests will be there yet as we are going early to do 'first look' photos.