u/ThrowRA_deenn221

i’m not sure if the 2 are related as i know most likely more people than not with endometriosis obviously still have to shave. but since endometriosis is (i think?) related to high estrogen levels could this be maybe why? its definitely not genetic nobody has that and i have a big family.

i hit puberty at 11 yet didn't get underarm hair till i was 17 and i'm now almost 21. underarm hair is still practically nothing, like i shave maybe twice a month there and i’m good.

i’ve never shaved my legs. just peach fuzz i’ve had my whole life lol. i’m white , italian

pubic hair i have. it’s not a lack 100% just strange i wonder why. if i got underarm at 17 i do wonder if one day i will also have to shave my legs though.

so i got hired at this restaurant, don’t get me wrong it’s fancy has tons of workers at all positions but there’s only one level and i would not say it’s that big of a place. i’m not familiar with the restaurant business but i was expecting to go in as maybe the only host or someone to train me and that’s that. not typically 3 hosts on weekdays and 4 people hosting from open to close. all same hours (we open at 4 pm) on weekends?

i was super stressed and worried i would be pushed into the ipad doing the reservations etc… alone but if there is gonna be 3/4 people at all times seems we must rotate out of doing things?

i have it in my right shoulder so it honestly hasn’t affected me as much, (left handed) i mean i’ve learned to compensate. at this point i just subconsciously do what i need to do to make sure it doesn’t hurt.

anything overhead and pulling big no no. feels like my shoulder is gonna rip out of its socket when pulling and just painful/stinging overhead. sometimes if i sleep wrong it‘d hurt all day but i do that rarely.

my doctor says i need to do 6 weeks of therapy first before they will consider surgery but its been 10 years… i exercise and stretch everyday. i’m 4’10 90lbs, i’m a healthy girl. the odds of physical therapy at this point just “getting rid of it” is mathematically impossible. even if i thought otherwise i love working out and ive dealt with it for 10 year so whats more.

just found out today. but i remember the exact moment when this happened (jumped off a trampoline with my arms still behind me and so. me on floor. arms yanked behind me still on the trampoline. no no. my shoulder problems since that day have been the exact same amount of “pain” level/causes. crazy. thought ill share!

I just got hired at a new job as a host for a fancy restaurant. I’m starting in a few days and i thought it wouldn’t be so bad to send a quick introduction message. the messages in the group chat though are just like can anyone take my shift and work hours etc. so i’m not sure if like “reading the room” that’s appropriate or not to do or just some might find weird? or not even reply…

there’s 40+ people who work there and in the group chat. no rule that you can’t obviously but if you were in my position would you do that or should i just wait for my first day?

edit: im probably just overthinking things but its my first job!!

it’s a pretty fancy except i have literally no experience in the restaurant industry and haven't worked in so long. i’m worried im going to be a nervous reck.

interview tomorrow.. also is there tipping with hosting?

i’m not very uneducated, so sorry if i come across as insensitive or what i’m saying doesn’t fit the “asexual” spectrum just questioning!

20F and it never occurred to me i could be asexual or even somewhere on the spectrum. i’ve dated plenty of men, some for years and kissed many people, for one kissing especially always felt like i was making out with a wall. there were (very little) “moments“ where i felt turned on or enjoyed but i believe it was more about validation and simply being a young teen doing something new. i don’t like anything done to me in a sexual way, to be honest it makes me uncomfortable, now i don’t think that is a core part of being asexual, thats just an anyone thing but it has a lot to do with my lack of desire all around.

from 12-16 i was always pretty horny and wanting sx. (when alone by myself) when alone and watching porn, having a lot of desire of sexual intimacy/imagining it but in person it never connected. sometimes before it happens ill get excited but it always just made me uncomfortable/didn’t want to do it in reality when it finally came to doing it. this is majority of the reason my 2 1/2 year long relationship ended. my lack of interest.

it’s super weird because i am highly influenced by my environment, the friends i have, the shows i watch, etc. if the friends i have are very sexual i somehow “turn” very sexual. i was very obsessed with football and every football man was super hot to me and i would get very turned on and want to indulge in a sexual way with them. but in normal circumstances with no influence of anything i just have pretty much no attraction of any sorts to anyone, i would say the romantic side is there but almost pretty much gone too. seems to get more like this as i age, as i stop and realize do i truly want/like this or am i getting confused because i do like the validation?

i actually found out i liked girls and had a crazy sex drive for them because once again, was super obsessed with a female celebrity but then it faded. it’s just so weird how my “sex drive” and any type of desire for intimacy is strictly influenced by my environment, if i’m not around it , it doesn’t come naturally and practically gone.

now i mentioned watching porn and on my own i can get turned on and want sex. nowadays it doesn’t come naturally but if im bored ill put something on, sometimes it makes me uncomfortable but sometimes it doesn’t and i can enjoy it. but once again i dont get urges and if the same thing im watching online was in real life i 9/10 times wouldn't want to indulge.