First relationship. 25f 26m, need opinions and advice
I just need some opinions on if this is okay to be upset over.
So me and my boyfriend see each other 3 days a week (his plan). The days together are every 3 days I stay at his family home for 3 nights a week. Most of the time they land on evenings and we both work full time so we don't really do much apart from cook dinner and go to bed. But when the days we are together land on a Weekend I feel like im not important.
For context I have never once told him not to see him friends, he goes out with them most weekends which is fine, but im left in his bedroom on my own as it is a boys only thing. This has been like this for years now and even after work too when we are together so hes late picking me up etc.
I said to him the other week let's make a plan to do stuff together which is going out and doing things, he agreed. We both had a day off work which was rare for a weekday and I asked if we could go shopping together for his friends bbq the day after, he said yes. 10 mins later He got called into work for an hour and called me and said that the boys was going to golf and he would really like to go, I said that we had our plans but if he'd rather go do golf thats fine but he could tell I was bummed. He kept saying 'id like to go I haven't been in 3 weeks', so I said well you've already made the choice of what you'd rather do otherwise you wouldn't be calling, so I said he can go if he wanted. he went to golf and I went and did our plans alone. He took me shopping the next day instead and then we went to his friends bbq in the afternoon. Ive made plans the next week again, I said let's go to breakfast. He agreed, then 2 days before he tells me that breakfast will have to be pushed back to the afternoon because hes going out with his friends fir his friends bday the night before and he will be hungover and will need more sleep. I got a bit upset and said I didn't mind the first time but I feel like im not a priority. He told me to fuck off and that I need to be more understanding and he said 'and you wonder why I don't want to do things with you'. I felt awful I didn't want him to feel like I was trying to control him. So this week ive said to him that maybe it will be a good idea if we had a planned day together a week. where its written off for other plans and its only a day for us, I said Friday and Saturday can do what he wants and that he doesn't have to see me, even if im at his im happy for him to go out and ill just chill in his room, as long as the Sunday we make a plan. He said to me 'but some of my mates want to go golf on Saturday and I have others who like to go on sundays and id go to both days'.
Am I being too much? im really trying to explain how I feel without coming across as controlling or being hard work.