What is the highest damage you've seen your bow do? Currently my bow is doing around 7K on weak spots, and 10k on crits.
I just feel like I can squeeze more damage in there somehow, considering the fact that I've been away for a while and I have an old build!
I (26M) have been with my wife (29F) for about 5 years total, married for 2.
Some context so the situation makes sense:
I work full time and I’m a top performer at my job. My performance there is solid and I don’t have issues with reliability or meeting expectations.
At home, I’m also heavily involved. My wife is a stay-at-home wife, but I still end up doing most of the housework, cooking, cleaning, laundry, errands, and general upkeep. So my days are usually pretty full from morning until night.
On top of that, I’m very intentional about my marriage. I spend quality time with my wife, I take her on dates, and I plan things for us to do together. I enjoy that part of the relationship and I put effort into making sure she feels valued and included in my time.
Before marriage, I lived on my own, and gaming was a major hobby for me. I would honestly describe myself as a hardcore gamer back then. Once we got married and moved in together, I cut it down a lot—probably around 90% less than before—because my life structure changed and I naturally shifted priorities.
Now, gaming is something I use to unwind in the small amount of free time I have. Usually it’s around 30 minutes to an hour, and if I’m lucky maybe an hour and a half.
What’s been bothering me is the reaction depending on what I choose to do with that downtime.
If I say I’m going to read a fantasy book for a while, everything is normal. If I say I’m going to play video games, the tone shifts and I’ll hear comments about doing “better habits,” or there’s a visible sense of disapproval even if nothing is said directly.
She’ll say she doesn’t have an issue with it, but the reaction in the moment doesn’t really match that.
I don’t really apply that kind of judgment in reverse. If she’s on her phone scrolling or relaxing, I don’t question it or comment on it. I just treat it as her way of unwinding.
So what ends up happening is that one form of downtime seems to be accepted without question, while another gets treated differently, even though I’m still meeting responsibilities at work, at home, and in the relationship.
I enjoy being present with my wife and spending intentional time together, but I also rely on gaming as a way to decompress.
Has anyone dealt with a situation where a partner tends to view gaming as a “less valid” hobby compared to other forms of relaxation, even when responsibilities are consistently handled?
I (26M) have been with my wife (29F) for about 5 years total, married for 2.
Some context so the situation makes sense:
I work full time and I’m a top performer at my job. My performance there is solid and I don’t have issues with reliability or meeting expectations.
At home, I’m also heavily involved. My wife is a stay-at-home wife, but I still end up doing most of the housework, cooking, cleaning, laundry, errands, and general upkeep. So my days are usually pretty full from morning until night.
On top of that, I’m very intentional about my marriage. I spend quality time with my wife, I take her on dates, and I plan things for us to do together. I enjoy that part of the relationship and I put effort into making sure she feels valued and included in my time.
Before marriage, I lived on my own, and gaming was a major hobby for me. I would honestly describe myself as a hardcore gamer back then. Once we got married and moved in together, I cut it down a lot—probably around 90% less than before—because my life structure changed and I naturally shifted priorities.
Now, gaming is something I use to unwind in the small amount of free time I have. Usually it’s around 30 minutes to an hour, and if I’m lucky maybe an hour and a half.
What’s been bothering me is the reaction depending on what I choose to do with that downtime.
If I say I’m going to read a fantasy book for a while, everything is normal. If I say I’m going to play video games, the tone shifts and I’ll hear comments about doing “better habits,” or there’s a visible sense of disapproval even if nothing is said directly.
She’ll say she doesn’t have an issue with it, but the reaction in the moment doesn’t really match that.
I don’t really apply that kind of judgment in reverse. If she’s on her phone scrolling or relaxing, I don’t question it or comment on it. I just treat it as her way of unwinding.
So what ends up happening is that one form of downtime seems to be accepted without question, while another gets treated differently, even though I’m still meeting responsibilities at work, at home, and in the relationship.
I enjoy being present with my wife and spending intentional time together, but I also rely on gaming as a way to decompress.
Has anyone dealt with a situation where a partner tends to view gaming as a “less valid” hobby compared to other forms of relaxation, even when responsibilities are consistently handled?