Moving in with us?
For backstory: My dad lives about 700 miles away from us, and up until last year was able to mask his dementia symptoms in a way that we didn’t realize how bad he was. Since then we’ve managed him remotely with the help of his neighbor. He’s only 73, and still totally physically healthy but his drs have put him somewhere around level 4-5 so we need to do something. He doesn’t have enough funds to cover 24hr home health care for very long (maybe a year depending on which company) but has too much money to get any assistance from the VA aid&attendance. Thinking of him in a nursing home is awful just based on age and abilities of the other residents in any of the ones around him or us. Considering having him pay to add a room and a bathroom onto our house and moving in there where we can support day to day and then have an aid come in for extra help. Renting out his house would help cover the cost of his care and we would just add his food/transportation costs into our budget and he gets his medical care from the VA. Bad idea? Extra context if it matters is we’re in our mid 30s with 2 teens in a double blended family situation so us moving to him is not an option as I can’t even imagine how to make that work