u/Time-Turnip-2961

So far the enneagram I’ve connected the most to is 9w1s (as a 4w5). But I don’t think they are ultimately the best fit as the same issues always show up between us. They are passive and want to check out and keep numb peacefully, and can’t handle occasional conflict/fighting or intense emotions well long-term as it hurts them too much in the end. Then they detach and leave. 4s need acceptance as well as passion but also someone who is able to handle them when they are intense or emotional if you know what I mean (I don’t mean it in an unhealthy way).

Which enneagram would actually be able to handle a 4 and be satisfied in the dynamic long-term?

My boyfriend (Libra) just broke up with me, we would’ve been a month in our relationship this Friday. We didn’t even make it a month. He kept hurting my feelings and I kept feeling triggered, and it seems he felt the same on his side. Even though we still have feelings for each other. It really sucks and I’m trying not to feel like I have nothing to live for because I’m totally alone and have nothing else going for me: My cat died, I lost my job, no friends.

And every guy I’ve ever had feelings for has either ghosted or broken up with me. I feel like shit and it sucks how no-one ever sticks around, the problem must be me.

I don’t actually think I’m dysfunctional enough to deserve this, I’m not perfect but I’m pretty decent, I’m kind, intelligent, beautiful (I’m told). I do get triggered/upset because of past trauma sometimes but I still don’t see why I can’t find someone I’m mutually attracted to and stay in a relationship. Why do other people put up with all kinds of shit but won’t put up with me having little issues??

Specifically, F sp/sx 4w5 and M sx/so 9w1. Will the sp and so blindspot drive the other crazy, or can it be compensated/complimentary? Who would be more obsessed with the other?

I went through the intensive outpatient program while I was going through burnout, and it didn’t even help honestly. I paid upfront for the whole program even though I ended up only attending half of the sessions.

Now months later they are billing my group therapy sessions as intensive INPATIENT therapy which makes my copay for them $100 per session which is insane. I asked for a coding review and spoke with my insurance but it seems like Charlie Health doesn’t want to change the code, claiming it’s “more intensive” than the individual therapy. Can I refuse to pay or push back on them? They’re stealing my money basically and I no longer have a job. The sessions should have been $15 per session if they were coded as outpatient therapy as they should be.

I went through the intensive outpatient program while I was going through burnout, and it didn’t even help honestly. I paid upfront for the whole program even though I ended up only attending half of the sessions.

Now months later they are billing my group therapy sessions as intensive INPATIENT therapy which makes my copay for them $100 per session which is insane. I asked for a coding review and spoke with my insurance but it seems like Charlie Health doesn’t want to change the code, claiming it’s “more intensive” than the individual therapy. Can I refuse to pay or push back on them? They’re stealing my money basically and I no longer have a job. The sessions should have been $15 per session if they were coded as outpatient therapy as they should be.