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35M, married, and my wife is pregnant with our first on the way. Over the last 18 months I’ve essentially lost patience with a lot of “friends” I’ve had since high school and college.

After a ton of reflection I’ve come to the conclusion that I haven’t been treated well for what’s probably been a long time. Behaviors and actions I’ve historically brushed off are all now coming to a head with the realization that maybe these people never really should have been my friends in the first place. Did I ignore warning signs for years out of fear of losing friend groups due to potential fallouts?

It’s been on my mind a lot lately and I’m starting to feel like the values I am now seeking (and should have always sought) aren’t going to come from the people I currently think of as my friends.

It’s been sort of depressing coming to this realization but through some therapy I’ve been advised that it’s a form of healing and resetting which I’m about to embrace. I can’t help but feel a little bit sad though that I need to start over and that I could have enjoyed more meaningful friendships had I made changes earlier. It is what it is though.

Can anyone else relate? How did it go for you?

35M, married, and my wife is pregnant with our first on the way. Over the last 18 months I’ve essentially lost patience with a lot of “friends” I’ve had since high school and college.

After a ton of reflection I’ve come to the conclusion that I haven’t been treated well for what’s probably been a long time. Behaviors and actions I’ve historically brushed off are all now coming to a head with the realization that maybe these people never really should have been my friends in the first place. Did I ignore warning signs for years out of fear of losing friend groups due to potential fallouts?

It’s been on my mind a lot lately and I’m starting to feel like the values I am now seeking (and should have always sought) aren’t going to come from the people I currently think of as my friends.

It’s been sort of depressing coming to this realization but through some therapy I’ve been advised that it’s a form of healing and resetting which I’m about to embrace. I can’t help but feel a little bit sad though that I need to start over and that I could have enjoyed more meaningful friendships had I made changes earlier. It is what it is though.

Can anyone else relate? How did it go for you?

35M married and wife is pregnant with our first kid.

My wife and I love hanging out with each other but lately we can’t help but also feel lonely in that our social lives have dwindled down to almost nothing.

Since I graduated college I’ve been working with my immediate family. We run a large company together and over the past 13 years, although financially successfully, have all grown to nearly resent each other from the stress.

Family and Work are usually touted as two of the main channels from which one can maintain a social circle and I can’t help but think both are forever eviscerated for me. This leaves my remaining social circle from growing up and college. The growing up friends and college friends buckets have both almost entirely blown up over the last 18 months. Falling outs, acknowledging people have completely changed, and other life circumstances have left me with just a couple people I could contact on a whim. Without having people at a job or even my family to socialize with or confide in (outside of my wife) I feel very uneasy.

My wife on the other hand is from another country and moved here about ten years ago. We started dating a couple years after she arrived. She’s in the same situation in that she has literally zero family here in the US in addition to working for herself. She has very few friends remaining as well, just a few old roommates and people she studied with many years ago.

Lastly, while my wife and I do get along great, my wife inherently does have cultural differences from people who grew up here and it’s not terribly easy for her to relate with people on a very close level.

We plan to work together to make friends with other parents as we welcome the next phase of our lives as parents.

I’m hoping to just hear from others about if you found yourself in a similar situation and what you did to improve your social life (successfully) and any tips that worked for you.

Thank you.

35M married and wife is pregnant with our first kid.

My wife and I love hanging out with each other but lately we can’t help but also feel lonely in that our social lives have dwindled down to almost nothing.

Since I graduated college I’ve been working with my immediate family. We run a large company together and over the past 13 years, although financially successfully, have all grown to nearly resent each other from the stress.

Family and Work are usually touted as two of the main channels from which one can maintain a social circle and I can’t help but think both are forever eviscerated for me. This leaves my remaining social circle from growing up and college. The growing up friends and college friends buckets have both almost entirely blown up over the last 18 months. Falling outs, acknowledging people have completely changed, and other life circumstances have left me with just a couple people I could contact on a whim. Without having people at a job or even my family to socialize with or confide in (outside of my wife) I feel very uneasy.

My wife on the other hand is from another country and moved here about ten years ago. We started dating a couple years after she arrived. She’s in the same situation in that she has literally zero family here in the US in addition to working for herself. She has very few friends remaining as well, just a few old roommates and people she studied with many years ago.

Lastly, while my wife and I do get along great, my wife inherently does have cultural differences from people who grew up here and it’s not terribly easy for her to relate with people on a very close level.

We plan to work together to make friends with other parents as we welcome the next phase of our lives as parents.

I’m hoping to just hear from others about if you found yourself in a similar situation and what you did to improve your social life (successfully) and any tips that worked for you. Part of me is also just wanting to vent.

Thank you.

Hopped on the Bitwarden bandwagon (first time ever using a password manager) about a year ago and have been trying to manage my security setup/workflow. I essentially started out by memorizing my vault master passphrase but then I added MFA and also fell into the rabbit hole of how to handle certain situations while traveling.

I’m getting hung up on a scenario whereby I lose my phone or it’s stolen while traveling and if it’s stolen there is an attempt to gain access to my iCloud. I do have the 1 hour time delay enabled for iCloud and in this scenario my plan would be to access my laptop (stored in a hotel room), access my Bitwarden vault to get my iCloud password, log into iCloud and mark the device as lost/stolen.

For this process flow I’ve committed to memory both my Bitwarden vault passphrase and a passphrase for my laptop. I have the MFA app installed on both my phone and the laptop. I remember zero other passwords as they’re all stored in Bitwarden.

Here’s the question- I’m envisioning a scenario whereby I don’t have my laptop with me and I lose my phone. I still want to get into iCloud quickly but both devices that have access to my MFA are not around and I don’t have the MFA account master password memorized because I just can’t get myself to have three long paraphrases memorized at all times. I used a web-based MFA so technically if I memorized that passphrase too I could get onto the MFA through any web browser.

Is this just an edge case scenario whereby the only solution would be to also have a physical MFA with me at all times? I feel like I would only find myself in this situation for local trips or weekend trips a couple hours away or so which put me longer than an hour away from my laptop and for which I just wouldn’t have brought my laptop.

Appreciate any feedback or advice.

Thank you.