u/TooTiredForHope

Hello! How r u guys doing? So, I read a post about "being good looking and having ASD" and it motivated me to ask if something that happens to me is common to other individuals with ASD or i am just a statistic anomaly.

Almost 90% of my friendships are with the opposite sex, idk why, but they're more welcoming and "open". I know that having male friendships are very important for ur social development, but I just don't know why I just don't connect?

Is not something related to special interests, as i like a lot of manly stuff (football and working out for example, ik that they're not 100% manly, but r more associated to male behavior). I rly don't know, a more welcoming appearance perhaps (but it should reflect also a proximity with the same sex, right?, idk).

I am posting it to see if it resonates with someone, is it common or not and if anyone have an explanation for why it happens?

Hi everyone, how’s it going? I am facing a problem right now and could really use some advice.

So, I have this friend I met a few years ago in the US. She’s a foreigner just like me, and we share similar struggles. We’ve opened up about our insecurities and some deeply personal issues, always helping each other out as much as we can with absolutely no hidden motives neither from my side nor hers. We r always pretty straightforward.

This year, I’m coming back to study, and we agreed to split rent. After all, it makes things easier for both of us, she is currently paying a high price for just a single room, and I get to share a place with someone I already know and whose quirks I already understand.

We’ve already locked in a modest apartment, one bedroom for each of us, which will be okay for us to finish our studies, and for a really good price. Everything is totally fine between us, but because I sometimes lack "social savvy," I’m having doubts about whether this is "normal" or if there’s something else going on under my radar.

People around me keep saying that everyone is basically pushing us to get together (mutual friends and so on). The ones saying this are mostly the older and more traditional members of my family, who find the whole setup strange (maybe because back in the day, it was almost impossible for a man and a woman to live together without being a couple?). On the other hand, younger people see this as totally normal.

The older folks keep telling me to be careful, warning me that the moment we feel "lonely" and vulnerable, something is gonna happen, or that she might trap me with a baby, pull some kind of scam... honestly, a bunch of crazy stuff. But my mindset is: "it takes two to tango," simple as that. If one person doesn't want it, it won't happen.

Based on your experiences, are these older relatives making a huge fuss over nothing, or is it obvious that people are trying to push us together? I ask because some mutual friends have mentioned that after she met me, she completely changed, going from a depressed state to being much more active and cheerful.

Have a nice day!

Hello guys, hope this message finds u in a good mood tday!

So i am gonna straight to the point, a lot of guys seem to think that i am flirting, just because i am being "too nice to them", what do u guys do to avoid this kind of misunderstanding?

Hey folks,

I've been wondering, why everyone that I've ever met have the same opinion about me, even if is just meeting through internet, they always have the same reaction: "u r very inteligent", but when i ask why they think I am inteligent, they just say "I don't know, is just ur way of texting/talking".

It is weird as fuck, because I don't want to impress anyone, I am just being myself (and masking sometimes just to be fun), totally normal, nothing is deviating from the norm but, I am totally deviating from the norm in their eyes.

So, I wanna know, is it normal for u guys? Or is there anything in my writing showing it?

Have a great day!

Hey pessoal, tudo azul?

Bem, tenho 2 mulheres na minha vida que tenho uma relaçao que eu diria atipica ao comparar com as minhas amigas, vou denominar como mulher x e y

Em relação a mulher x nos nos conhecemos na faculdade, ela se sentou do meu lado no primeiro dia e desde entao a gente se entendeu muito bem, conversarmos muito sobre as materias e ate sobre problemas pessoais de ambos, indo da morte de um parente proximo ate problemas que nos temos e ate ai, parecia uma amizade normal, mas teve um dia que ela me convidou para ficar uma noite na casa dela depois de uma festa, dai ela foi e falou pode trocar de roupa aqui, afinal nos vamos trabalhar na area da saude, dai eu neguei e falei q nao, por conta de tal coisa, mas ai dormi no quarto dela (embora em camas diferentes) e conheci o namorado dela, gente boa ele.

Mas a relaçao foi avançando com a mulher x, ao ponto que a gente começou a compartilhar comidas, que ela tinha falado que so fazia com o namorado, nem com familiares fazia, porque tinha nojo e me falou ja que eu sou o melhor amigo que ela ja teve, que esta muito triste que estou longe agora, fala que mesmo quando esta em um ambiente cheio de pessoas, se eu nao estou parece que esta vazio e se eu estiver com ela, mesmo sem ninguem alem de nos 2, ela se sente "preenchida" e disse novamente que sente isso so comigo e o namorado porem, vi que tem varias coisas que o namorado simplesmente nao conversa sobre ou tem um conhecimento muito basico e nao acompanha o raciocinio dela, ja eu consigo e ate "puxo ela".

Ja com a mulher Y è outra situaçao, mas è mais simples, a gente conversa bastante, compartilhamos detalhes bem intimos, ela chora vatias vezes cm saudes de mim porque sai do pais por um tempo, diz que sente muito minha falta, quando eu falei que talvez voltaria mais cedo, comemorou e talz, normal de amizade ate ai, mas tem um fato que colocou uma pulga atras da minha orelha. Quando eu falei que quando voltar iria dividir um apartamento, ela ja postulou a gente rachar o aluguel de um apt, coisa que a propria familia dela ja aprovou (sim, ja conheci os pais dela) dormindo no mesmo quarto.

Resumindo, acho que os 2 sao amizades que eu construi recentemente (2 anos de amizade) mas to na duvida, sera que alguma delas tambem estao em duvida assim como eu?

Abraços