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my 9 month old typically has a 3/3/3 or 3.5/3.5/3.5 and naps for roughly 1.5 hours each time

a few days ago, my son didn’t want to go to bed and was up for 5 hours (bedtime was 8, didn’t go to sleep till 10)

since then, yesterday, he completely skipped his 2nd nap. i tried to get him to sleep for an hour, and he wasn’t having it. so he had a 7 hour wake window

now today, i tried to get him down, but as soon as i went to move my right arm from under his legs, he woke up crying. so i tried again. he has now been awake for 4.5 hours

i held him extra long. for around 20 minutes, and he jolted awake right as he touched the crib

he was an excellent sleeper beforehand. i only had to bounce him for a few minutes. what do i do? i’m so distraught and i want to give up :/

i semi sleep trained him using the PU-PD method. but slowly have stopped doing that. should i try doing so again? or is it pointless if he is having a sleep regression?

edit: im honestly thinking of doing CIO. i know it’s frowned upon and i was a huge hater of it. but the more he gets older, the more i understand it. me struggling to get him to sleep really brings out a huge level of PPR and i absolutely hate it. i just know it’s going to be hard to hear him cry :(

my baby will be 9 months old the 15th. normally, getting him to sleep is very easy. i slightly sleep trained him at around 7-8 months old. really it just made it so i had to rock him to a light sleep and then i could set him down. and then typically at night, i just feed him to sleep and can immediately set him down

last night, this was not the case. bedtime was 8:30, he didn’t end up going to sleep until 10. i was trying for that whole 1.5 hours and it was awful

just got him down for his first nap of the day 30 minutes ago, and it took 40 to do so. he just keeps waking up every time i go to set him down. or when i think he is down, he will roll over and sit up (he has been sitting for about 3 months now and pulling to stand for 1-2 months)

what do i do? i saw a thread of people saying they had to implement the CIO method. is this when people use this method? or do i just stick it out?

please, what is everyone else doing because i hate sleep regressions 😭🙏🏻

my son will be 9 months on the 15th. he is a pro at basically everything and it is a STRUGGLE. he can roll, crawl, sit, pull up to stand, and is even occasionally climb onto things

he has even figured out how to open cabinets 🫠

with this, i know he is very capable to stand up on his own, without support. but he just won’t do it. he just uses things to balance himself, not to pull himself up. and he will even just hold onto the table with one hand, or hold himself up with his chest 😭

my issue is, i don’t know how to practice standing on his own. is it going to be the same at practicing balancing while sitting on his own?? i dont even know if he should be standing on his own at this age

my apologies if this is the wrong place to ask this. but i am a single mother to an 8 month old. i have been looking for a full-time job for the past 3.5 months since i had to leave my previous job

i need to work full time so i can send my son to daycare and afford to rent an apartment alone.

on my application, i made sure to mention that i can only work morning/afternoon on weekdays.

i have a daycare i want to send my son to, but still need to apply for it. which i am pretty sure they have an opening for his age range.

at my interview tomorrow, what do i do if the hiring manager mentions a start date? i dont want to give him one and not have a daycare set up in time.

ofc im sure they wont give me a start date or anything but i really dont know

this is my first time trying to navigate daycare and work. beforehand, my parents watched my son but now they cant.

hello, so over the past month or so, i decided to start sleep training my baby and adjusting his schedule. beforehand, his naps would be 15-30 minutes, 3-4 naps a day

he stopped caring for me bouncing him to sleep so i started to slightly sleep train him. now, his naps are typically on the higher end. ranging from 40m-2hrs.

most of the time, we wake up around 7:30-8:30. we had a weird night last night and i ended up having to wake him up at 8:45 am. that being said, he got tired early for his first nap

he went down for his first nap at 10:56-11:32, then for his 2nd at 2:26-4:54. so he has napped a total of 3 hr and 4 min

is it okay if i don’t give him a bridge nap and just put him to bed at around 8 or so?

for his age, he honestly has wws on the shorter range. they usually maybe go to 3 hrs, but typically 2.5 hour wws

typically every night, he needs a bridge nap to get to his usual bedtime. i just worry because i assume that he is used to having 3 naps, so he registers his bedtime as a 3rd nap when it’s a 2 nap day

any advice on this? would doing a bridge nap and late bedtime work better for tonight? if i did so, i’d wake him up at our normal time tmr

first off, i just wanted to preface, my son is advanced for being 7 months old (11/15), so please, do NOT compare your child. every child reaches each milestone at different stages. i just don’t want to accidentally offend anyone. so please don’t read this if it’s going to affect you or make you worried. i am just proud of my son!!

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so i don’t know the exact timeline of everything, but i believe we started to practice rolling around 4-4.5 months old, which he got in a few days. he still struggled sometimes and he only really got it FULLY down by like, 5-5.5 months old

i think when he reached around 6 months, he started seesawing back and forth on his hands and knees..so we were like, “oh my gosh??” and then i think like literally next day to a few days after, he started army crawling. he still doesn’t properly crawl like you typically see expert babies do, but oh boy he still gets around. and QUICK. you cannot sit on the floor with him and have any food or drinks. he will creepily run to you

now, a few weeks ago, probably 2 tbh, i started actually practicing sitting up with him. and that took a lot less time than i thought.. he got it by 2 tries..in 2 day. granted, he was falling over after a few minutes and didn’t understand how to catch himself, but now he has got it!!

and then, the next day, i practiced having him transition from being on his stomach to sitting up. that, he got in 2 tries 🫠 i literally looked away one second, and he was just sitting up on his own. very scary

and yesterday, we were eating dinner and my son very much watches us intensely eat and knows what our drinks are. i had a sprite and he was GOING for it. it was on the table, he would go up on his knees, hands on the edge of the coffee table , and try to reach for it. so i pushed it more back on the table.. what did he do?? ofc he pulled himself to stand 😃 he fell a couple of times, but eventually did it twice

wdym my 7 month old is PULLING TO STAND?? im genuinely so proud of him, but boy i have not even had time to process the chaotic-ness of everything else 🙃

im just in shock that in a month, he has went from only rolling, to crawling, sitting up, transitioning from tummy to sitting position, and now standing up (with support) on his own

i fully believe this child is going to be walking in the near future. i guess it makes sense because we have been practicing standing for a long longgg time

edit: something else i forgot, is he is actually sleeping now!! not sleeping through the night, he still wakes up 2-4 times. buttt last week, he literally did not care for me rocking him to sleep anymore. he would wake up as soon as i set him down. so i literally had a breaking point and decided to “sleep train” him. i just started bouncing, patting, and shushing until he would close his eyes, but not fully asleep, and then set him down, while continuing the patting and shushing. now he falls asleep within 5 minutes and sleeps around 1.5 hrs each time. sometimes he will wake up at the 45 minute mark. the longest nap he has had now was last night..i had to cap it at 2.5 hrs

this to me is a huge mom win. i NEED my online time to relax and i was not able to beforehand. i am a single mom too, so things were awful for me. now things are genuinely looking up

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anyways, again, please do not compare your child to mine if they are not doing the same thing. remember, each child is different!! it is okay for your baby to go at the pace they want to and there is nothing wrong with that :)

i currently feed my 7 month old (11/15) to sleep every night. i did it when he was in the bassinet. i would feed him laying down and he would go right back to sleep. 80% of the time. sometimes i’ll have to soothe him. but yk?

i still currently feed him to sleep. since he has been transitioned to the crib. i’ll either feed him while he is in the crib, hold him, or just cave and bring him to bed with me

idk why but i feel so bad for feeding him to sleep. especially since i started sleep training him (PUPD method). he has got his daytime naps perfect. it takes maybe 5 minutes to get him to sleep

but at night, i always feed to sleep. is this bad? does anyone else do this? if i need to change his diaper, ill just have him hold his bottle and eat while i do so

baby just turned 7 months old (11/15) so i just started sleep training a few nights ago. with this, im trying to actually get him to have a schedule

i have been really bad about just having go to bed at the time i want. when he was younger (newborn - 3 months), he’d be going to bed at like..11 pm. before i started sleep training, he’d go to bed at around 8-9, and wake up between 10-11 for the day. i do think this was because he was sleeping like.. an average of 20 minute naps. so an hour a day of naps

anyways, after researching, i see that it’s recommended for a 7 month old to go to bed around 7-8 and wake up between 6-7:30?

what is yalls baby’s schedules like? or what have yall been taught/recommended?

i’m also thinking, is he only having 2 hr wake windows because he is going to bed and waking up too late?? i’m concerned that he isn’t having 2.5-3.5 hr wws. i mean, lately he has been having 2.25 hr wws, but only since starting to sleep train

my baby will be 7 months on monday, and i have decided that i can no longer handle bouncing him to sleep and feeding to sleep. it’s taken a huge mental toll on me, especially as a single mom so i get him to sleep 99% of the time

i decided to finally start implementing the pick up, put down method and so far, it is a success!! i know there will be ups and downs. but i just REALLY hope this works out because i genuinely am at my end with it all

lately, over the past 1-2 weeks, he has not wanted to be set down in his crib. i’ll bounce him to sleep, and he immediately wakes up. if i do the usual feed to sleep at night, he now wakes up 30 minutes later instead of 3 hours later

it probably took 25 minutes to officially get him down an asleep. i turned the lights off, sound machine on, put him in his sleep sack and put the pacifier in his mouth. if he got fussy, i would wait a little, maybe a minute, then i would intervene and shush him, pat his stomach, reassure him. if he wasn’t responding to that, then id pick him up, bounce, pat his butt, and shush

i continued that, which is probably took a total of 4 pick ups. after the 4th one, i set him down, he rolled onto this side, so i started shushing and patting his butt. i noticed his eyes were closed but he was still slightly fussy. so i stopped shushing and just let my hand rest on his butt. once he stopped whining, i took my hand off. he has now been asleep for 15 minutes!!

i am so so happy you have no idea 😭 typically i would have to bounce him for forever, like 30-45 minutes, and then carefullyyy place him down and that just made my anxiety so high

the biggest mom win i have ever had!!

edit: i just wanted to give an update!! i ended up having to wake him up for that nap because it was running too long. typically i wouldn’t do that, but he normally goes to bed at 8, and it was already a little after 7.

i just now got him to sleep for bed, and it took 5 minutes!! and technically no pick ups. i bounced him for a second, and then set him down. i did have to calm him down maybe 2 times because he was getting fussy, but he is officially down and has now been asleep for 5 minutes!! i call this an extreme success

i knew it was going to be easy to sleep train him (ofc i don’t think he is trained rn, i expect him to fight it sometimes). when teaching him how to roll, it took a few days, then it took 2 days of teaching him to sit on his own, and 2 TRIES in one day of helping him transition from tummy time to sitting and now he sits up on his own

maybe it’s because my baby is sick, but i am slowly losing hope of any alone and quiet time. definitely really trying to not have another mental breakdown

yesterday, he did NOT take any naps is his crib. he slept for maybe 5 minutes and that was it. every time i set him down, he immediately woke up.

i don’t understand what i am doing wrong but this is really making me HATE getting him to sleep even more. i am a single mom so i am really really struggling out here and trying not to just completely give up.

some words of encouragement would really be great. i’m struggling

i have an 11/15 baby, so he is almost 7 months old. i start my period yesterday, but have been feeling extra moody since friday

i have also come to realization that my son has been EXTRA cranky too. like way more than normal. while it could be a sleep regression, i do also feel like it could be because my hormones are affecting his

he hasn’t been sleeping that much, super cranky and fussy, especially when i hold him. it’s just been all around crazy. and he even is breaking out in baby acne today?? which he hasn’t since birth

this could still be from many things, like potential teething, sleep regression, or constipation/gas. but i really do feel like it’s because of my period

TL;DR

I am a young single mom and have a second interview for the only part-time job I applied for. During the slow months, I will work less hours, meaning I won’t be able to afford all of my expenses during that time period. However, while I live in a temporary, rent free, place right now, and when I work more hours, I can save for those slow months.

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First off, I do apologize if this is the wrong place to ask this, but I genuinely need help with it.

Second off, please no judgement on my life. If I didn’t have to include these details, I wouldn’t, but it is important for this decision. Or maybe I am thinking about it too hard.

I am a young, single mom. I have been since I was pregnant. I had a job, but I unfortunately was not able to work there anymore due to graduating. It was a student worker position, meaning I got paid from work-study. In April, I started the hunt for another job that is still at the college I went to. The hunt really has not been too successful.

My ultimate goal has been to get a good paying, full-time job. However, one of the jobs I applied for was part-time. There are 2 reasons why I applied for this job knowing it was part-time:

1. It is in the same exact department, so I am already knowledgeable in the area. So I knew that would boost me to the front of the line.

2. When I was still working there, I asked the big boss about jobs, and she told me about this one. When she told me about the pay, she said it is pays $35k-$40k.

After my first interview, I have found out that it is less than $30k, which I don’t know if it’s doable.

Also, since this job is at a college, when it’s not a busy time of the year, I’ll be working less hours, and then once it gets busy, I will get the max hours I can get (for part-time). With this, the pay is also really good, most than what is around for part-time jobs.

So basically, the rundown is, when I am getting paid the lower amount due to it not being busy, I will not be able to afford my apartment off of that. HOWEVER, I currently am living is a temporary situation where I do not contribute to rent, so during that time period where I am saving up, I could set that money aside to make sure I have enough for rent and childcare during the slow months.

When it is these slow months, I am making roughly $150 less than what I need for all of these expenses. So I feel like that’s manageable?

Again, please no judgment. I just need advice to see if this is a good idea

i am a single mom and moved in with my sister so i can have help during the first little bit of postpartum. i am moving out soon thankfully. but things are REALLY getting old

what i did not expect to happen, would be my sister doing 0.01% of any house work. so i am left doing the cleaning, the vacuuming, the dishes, the sweeping and mopping. of course my brother in law helps out a TONE. even with the baby

but my point is, my son woke up, my sister heard him and then said, “i’ll do it.” so i got my hopes up and thought she was going to feed him and get back to sleep. then it clicked and she realized and said, “ohh.. nevermind”

i do EVERYTHING. i know he is my baby. but we have talked about them both helping me out so much and she just does not. it was just really frustrating to see her realize the amount of effort she would have to put in..and then said nevermind

she has a choice if she wants to or not. so she doesn’t care. i don’t have a choice

has anyone done the pick up, put down sleep method?

i typically feed my baby to sleep and i no longer want him to associate feeding at night to sleeping. i am a single mom and need to get a full night of sleep for once... so im trying to put in the effort.

has anyone been successful with this? how do you not just cry and get frustrated?

i have tried, but i end up giving up because he gets too fussy. i just want you hear people’s experiences with this

my baby is 27 weeks old and ever since he was born, i have HATED getting him to sleep. i hate having to wake up, i hate have to get him back to sleep, i hate it so so much

i am a single mom. so 99.9% of his naps and 100% throughout the night, i am getting him to sleep. i have always dreaded it. i have always looked at the clock and hated seeing how close his nap/bed time was

i was very delirious and sleep deprived whenever he was born because i had only gotten 2 hours of sleep before i went into labor at 3 am. and then could barely sleep at the hospital from anxiety

the part that i have hated the most, is bouncing him to sleep. that has honestly where most of my postpartum rage has come from. obviously not directly at him. but ill be tired and just want to lay down and relax, i look down, and he is still wide awake

it has gotten better since he is older now and not a newborn. sorta. more so because i have been using the yoga ball to bounce him to sleep so it’s much easier that way

but now it’s worse because if im already overwhelmed, him doing that whiny hum is soooo much more overstimulating it’s crazy. and he will even do things like stretch out his body, either a tiny bit or all the way

it’s currently almost 1 am here and he did not was to go right back to sleep after eating, so i had to bounce him, which frustrated me already. but the fact that i have to be up early because his 6 month appointment is at 11 am 🫠

and the annoying thing is, his appointment was SUPPOSED to be tuesday at 2:30 pm, but his pediatrician got a different job so they had to reschedule and squeeze us in at 11…

me and my son are typically just getting up for the day at 10:30…

im just frustrated, i wanted to relax some more but now i have to bounce him and pray that he doesn’t shoot awake when i set him down

i just want sleep that i don’t have to work for

i am a (20F) single mom to a 6 month old as of today (yay!!). i have been broken up with my child’s father since before i even found out i was pregnant. he has only seen my son a total of 3 times. twice at the hospital (day of and day after i gave birth) and one time when he was 2 months old

i am completely over that man and i have absolutely zero interest in him. the only reason he isnt blocked is because of my son. that’s it

of course i still do expect him to acknowledge my existence and be like, “hey, thanks for literally doing all the work. happy mother’s day.” especially if im soloing and doing it ALL on my own?

i dont know, it really just irritates me at the fact that he can’t even do a simple act and wish me well and thank me..

he never checks up on us, never messages or anything

the only reason we have communication recently is because i TOLD him to contribute financially. i didn’t ask, i told him he needs to contribute an agreed amount of money. thankfully he obliged. but the last message he sent me was a month ago and he was asking for $40 back from my sons money..

of course i told him no. i told him that money is for my son and we made an agreement on the amount

i really dont know. i feel like im being foolish. but it’s my first mother’s day, why can’t his father just send me a simple text to thank me? i feel extremely under appreciated by him