r/November25babybump

I’m a FTM and 6 month old baby has been in daycare full time since 3 months. Our daycare is one of those chain centers so not someone’s home or anything. Recently, I can’t shake the feeling that daycare dislikes my baby and finds them difficult.

It took a bit for baby to adjust but for the past few weeks, baby has been only doing 3-4 30 min naps at home and 1-2 30 min naps at daycare. Because of this, they’ve been extra fussy and they are already a high sleep needs baby (They sleep through the night (12 hours) thankfully though).

When I ask about how baby is doing, they sigh and say fine or “oh you know, acting like (baby’s nickname)” which I take to mean something negative by their tone. And I swear they have a look of dread when I walk in.

My husband thinks I’m reading too much into it and I know I have my own issues/anxieties with being a burden to others. But how do you deal with the guilt that 1) baby doesn’t sleep at daycare and 2) the teachers may dread taking care of your child?

Everyone is super nice and amazing teachers though and I have no concerns about them caring for our baby.

Two were women who were kind about it and one was a man who was direct/rude about it. It upset me so much I went a and bought a beanie. It was cold but in general we were in a rush to leave so we just forgot, is it really that important?

Im slightly freaking out because i feel like late on introducing solids. My baby ( exactly six months old, no teeth yet) is still on 6-7 bottles of formula a day and once or twice a day eats baby porrige and sometimes different fruit purees here and there, all from spoon and on the adults lap as he doesnt sit on his own yet. Purees make him poop really fast though

I see babies of 7 months old having steaks, pancakes, pieces of fruits, all by their own hands and like, definitely feel not ready for this so soon

Is here anybody that slow as we are on foods 😅

Hi, sorry for the weird title 😅

My boy is 6 months, he doesn't roll, he doesn't crawl, he doesn't sit and he hates tummy time and being on his back. I understand that - his mind tells him to move around, but his body says no. He is a major talker though.

I am seriously running out of ideas of what to do when he's awake.

I force him to roll and do tummy time about 4 times a day. We go for walks with him in the pram. We play in front of the mirror (him sitting on my lap). He has some fun activities while in his high chair. We attend baby swimming class every Friday and we go for drives. But when we are home - what can I do with him? Some days we just end up sitting, staring at the wall because I am so exhausted.

He doesn't want me to put him on the floor so he can just be, eat toes and try to roll. He will scream his lungs out.

He has a bouncer, and he does like that a bit. But because of his (now fixed) torticollis he developed a flat spot that still hasn't resolved, so I panic when he's been on his back for long. Can he even be in his bouncer for a few minutes while I clean?

I'm exhausted, running out of ideas and would to hear what you do 😅

my baby is 27 weeks old and ever since he was born, i have HATED getting him to sleep. i hate having to wake up, i hate have to get him back to sleep, i hate it so so much

i am a single mom. so 99.9% of his naps and 100% throughout the night, i am getting him to sleep. i have always dreaded it. i have always looked at the clock and hated seeing how close his nap/bed time was

i was very delirious and sleep deprived whenever he was born because i had only gotten 2 hours of sleep before i went into labor at 3 am. and then could barely sleep at the hospital from anxiety

the part that i have hated the most, is bouncing him to sleep. that has honestly where most of my postpartum rage has come from. obviously not directly at him. but ill be tired and just want to lay down and relax, i look down, and he is still wide awake

it has gotten better since he is older now and not a newborn. sorta. more so because i have been using the yoga ball to bounce him to sleep so it’s much easier that way

but now it’s worse because if im already overwhelmed, him doing that whiny hum is soooo much more overstimulating it’s crazy. and he will even do things like stretch out his body, either a tiny bit or all the way

it’s currently almost 1 am here and he did not was to go right back to sleep after eating, so i had to bounce him, which frustrated me already. but the fact that i have to be up early because his 6 month appointment is at 11 am 🫠

and the annoying thing is, his appointment was SUPPOSED to be tuesday at 2:30 pm, but his pediatrician got a different job so they had to reschedule and squeeze us in at 11…

me and my son are typically just getting up for the day at 10:30…

im just frustrated, i wanted to relax some more but now i have to bounce him and pray that he doesn’t shoot awake when i set him down

i just want sleep that i don’t have to work for

My hair is falling like craaazy. I can’t hold my baby against me without a strand ending up somewhere on her face or clothing. Are we doing something about this? are we riding this out to baldness?

Have we taken any road trips with our babies yet? We’re driving through the night tomorrow from NC to FL and I’m terrified, to put it lightly. She tends to sleep long 7-9 hour stretches but she doesn’t love her car seat and won’t take a bottle or pacifier (please note the thread is not about getting her to take those things. We’ve seen all the specialists. We’ve had some ugly comments about it on here before). I’m afraid she will wake up screaming every 40 minutes instead of bridging sleep cycles and we’ll be pulling over constantly to comfort her since traditional stationary self soothing techniques are limited.

Tell me your secrets, mom tribe. Or…just tell me it’ll be ok. 😮‍💨

He just won’t stop 😂

He’s always on the move. Yesterday at 6 months 4 days he crawled, and today he army crawled from the bed into his crib and pulled himself up to stand ????

Last week he learnt to go from army crawling to sitting up. He sleeps in all crazy positions because he’s always moving.

OH and how could I forget to mention he almost has 6 teeth? SIXXXX !! His bottom teeth came in together, then the lateral incisors at the top came in together and now he’s his central ones at the top are coming in together.

I feel like everything is happening at once and I can’t keep up.

I have 20,000 pictures that go back all the way to 2016 but I’ve taken like 2500 of those since my baby was born. At this rate my phone is going to explode.

How is everyone’s baby sleeping?

mine sleeps about 12 hours at night with one wake up. my husband seems to think we’re doing something wrong cause she still wakes up. is anyone else still have a wake up?

Our baby will be 6 months Monday and I still cannot get her wake windows to hit 2 hours. The only time she hits it is when she’s in daycare (she’s so over stimulated she can stay up). When I have her for the full day, her morning wake window ranges from 1-1.5 hours. The majority of her wake windows are 1.5 and sometimes 2 in the afternoon or her last wake windows.

I see all these posts and schedules online of 2-2.5 hour wake windows for her age. I feel like I’ve tried everything (switch environments, music, games, run errands, go for a walk) but it always ends up with both her and I miserable.

My husband suggests we just keep following her lead and she’s just catching up from a lack of naps throughout the week but I’m not too sure. Her naps are 20-30 minutes and she sleeps 11-12 hours overnight with 1 wake up.

Is anyone else in this same boat??

Hope everyone is hanging in there! Can’t believe our babies are 6 months already 😭😭😭😭

Netflix!! And to think I watched 6 eps while pregnant... Now I actually understand it. Every bit

Maybe I just need to rant. I’ve been feeling so helpless lately…

My husband and I are foreigners living abroad, and we both work full time. I went back to work after 3 months of maternity leave.

A week after my baby was born, my mother came to stay with us and helped take care of him until he was 3 months old. Everything went really well. It was honestly such a relief having somebody around who understood me and could help with the newborn stage. After her visa expired, my MIL and FIL came for another 3 months. My MIL doesn’t speak English, but somehow we still understood each other just fine. They both did their best taking care of the baby and playing with him while I was back at work. Everything felt like sunshine and butterflies. Baby was thriving.

They went back home 8 days ago.

Five days ago, when baby was 6 months and 10 days old, my mother came back to help again. I thought it would be easy this time since she already took care of him during the hardest newborn stage, and I was hoping he would still remember her.

But wow, I was so wrong.

My baby, who used to be all smiles and laughter, suddenly became extremely clingy to me. He won’t let my mother put him to sleep or even hold him for long. He’ll tolerate it for a bit, but the moment he realizes I’m still in the house, he cries for me so hard — limbs flailing and everything.

I already took 3 days off work for the gap between grandparents being here, plus 2 WFH days. I even asked my boss for more time to work from home because my mother and baby are still adjusting to each other, and thankfully my boss was really understanding and approved it.

But it’s been 5 days now, and baby still hasn’t warmed up to my mother.

I’m working from home, but I still need to actually work. I can’t constantly be there for him, but during the day he keeps crying for me. We’ve already tried having my mother hold him more and feed him solids. But whenever she tries to put him to sleep, he cries hysterically for me.

And honestly, even for me it’s already a challenge to get him to sleep. He constantly plays with his pacifier, so I have to put it back in over and over while trying to find that exact sweet spot of rocking him until he finally falls asleep. My mother doesn’t know this trick. My MIL does.

I told my husband we need my MIL back here, and thankfully they agreed, but it won’t happen anytime soon.

Anybody having a similar situation? I'm all ears for suggestions.

This will probably turn into a rant. So HFM is going around our daycare, with the last diagnosis being the 13th of May. My husband and I have travel planned for the last few days of May where my 7m old will be staying with my parents. In my mind, I should keep her out of daycare. We also have his family coming to town this week where she’d be out for some of the week anyways. And the following week of our trip she’ll be out too. I won’t be risking any pay, so what’s the harm. But my husband’s friends thinks we’re wrong. They were supposed to watch our daughter this week, but we said it probably wasn’t a good idea since their son had HFM on Monday, and her older daughter might have it now. The parents don’t have any sickness, but adults can be asymptomatic and I think they’re hurt we don’t want them to watch our kid. But why run the risk or is there no point in keeping her out for 2 weeks??
At the same time, I’m ranting because (I’m a FTM, so STM feel free to chime in), they boast about not caring about precautions for their second kid. They glorify the fact that they were giving food at 3 months because since it was their second they were less stressed, after I expressed worry about people giving my daughter food she’d never had before. Am I crazy for thinking certain things shouldn’t matter whether it’s your first or tenth??

Whelp, the day I’ve been dreading for months now has been fully realized. My period came back today after 6.5 months PP (son was due in November but born a few days before Halloween). I’m so sad! I thought I would have more time, especially since he’s been EBF up until staying solids, but here we are 🙃. My son started solids on his 6 months birthday and he’s been dropping the final nighttime feed recently, so I guess that did me in. Anyone else in the club?

I’m trying to connect with other parents whose babies aren’t hitting all their milestones and trying to navigate the medical system and make decisions. Everything online just defaults to “talk to your pediatrician” but of course your pediatrician isn’t able to answer every little question that comes up each day! My baby has been assessed by PT as having gross motor delays, and apps like solid starts say she isn’t ready for solids yet but her daycare teachers say she’ll be more behind if she doesn’t start them now… it’s hard to figure out what to do! Anyone else in this boat?

Edited to add the that she has been assessed by PT as having low muscle tone and significant gross motor delays (head lag, not rolling, not sitting).

Started at 5 mos postpartum now i am 6 months. Still experiencing vertigo episodes and i’m not sure what’s causing them? will this go away? or should i go to the doctor for this?

Anyone else’s baby rolling onto their stomachs all night long and immediately screaming? It’s a constant battle of wake ups. Wake up to her on her stomach upset- flip her. She rolls immediately back onto her belly and starts crying again. I know she’s just frustrated but my postpartum rage is flaring up. 🫠

Edit to add. Whenever she finally does get content with her belly, she will sleep face down. Add that to another reason I can’t sleep. Tell me I’m not alone 🥲

I hope everyone has the most wonderful Mothers Day! ❤️❤️❤️