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I just got into a relationship with an amazing girl about a month ago and I already feel I’m in love with her. She’s kind, thoughtful, beautiful, fun, etc. I really have no complaints about her or the relationship.

The one part that’s hard is that I feel like a loser when I really think about it. She works a blue collar job, is nonchalant, handy, likes country music, drives a beat up car, likes big trucks, drinks beer, and all her clothes are stained with grout or some other material from work. She’s honestly probably stronger than me too lol.

I’m a somewhat skinny, white collar, nerdy guy who drives a little sedan, watches anime, and doesn’t do much. I like computers and gaming. I’m not handy (although I’m trying to learn how to be), I don’t drink unless I’m with her, and to top it all off, I’m an anxious over-thinker if you couldn’t already tell.

How can I feel like I’m the “man” when it comes to the relationship? Not in a toxic or dominant way, but in a way where I feel like I’m contributing to the relationship like a man would? Am I a being too wimpy or a pushover if I’m always rubbing her back at the end of the day, or folding all her clothes after washing them? I want to love and care for her without feeling embarrassed about not being a macho type guy.

Any advice?

Hello everyone,

A little background, I grew up in a charismatic, evangelical Christian home and went to a Christian private school. We believed in a very spirit-focused, “name it and claim it” type of system. We went to church almost every Sunday, I was going to youth groups, I was meeting with leaders from my church regularly for mentoring, I was journaling prayers, I was listening to sermons in my free time. I was very very passionate about my faith, I even wanted to be a pastor someday.

When I was 18 my parents got divorced and that kinda shook my world. Some other factors were involved, but I started to question my beliefs very heavily. I asked God over and over for months to help me know for sure that He was there, but I never felt or saw anything to encourage me. It was very hard and I felt abandoned.

Fast forward 2 years, I’m 20 and come to the conclusion that I don’t believe in God, Jesus, the Bible, or any of it. I started consuming atheist content to feel some kind of reassurance in my new worldview. I became fully convinced that Christianity was so obviously untrue and that being agnostic was far more logical. That’s where I settled and was completely fine with it.

Today, I’m 25 and something changed. I met a girl. We’ve been talking for a bit and things are going really well. There’s really only one major hang up, she is a strong Christian and wants me to be as well. We’ve talked about it extensively and she was gracious enough to meet me where I’m at. She said as long as I’m okay with her faith and her teaching her kids about Jesus, then she’s okay if I’m not fully convinced on Christianity.

This leads me to my dilemma today. I like this girl a lot. I want to be able to give her more than just “okay”. I don’t want to just throw away the great potential I see in her, so I’m willing to open my heart again to God and see if there’s any way I can find my faith once more. Some of you may be concerned that I’m only doing this for her. While it’s true that she is the reason I am searching again, I truly want to know if I can make my faith my own once more. Despite if it works out with her or not.

So I ask all of you, what can I do to work this out? How do I search for God again? How do I listen to see if He is really there? How do I get past some of my difficulties with some of the Bible’s teachings?

Thank you for your time in this. If you need more info or history on my past beliefs, let me know!

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