u/Trick-Albatross5878

I posted in a community about having an ed/struggling with depression. I have no photos on my profile, just my cartoon avatar that barely looks like me. The only thing people know is that I'm a 19yo woman because I mentioned it in the post.

I still ended up with multiple men in my DMs hitting on me.

Seeing someone clearly struggling and thinking it's a good time to flirt just feels so predatory and weird to me. I'm also mad because I posted in an effort to hear about other people's similar experiences instead I got that. honestly disappointing.

private chats are gonna be off for a while for sure.

stay safe out there baddies

Hey gals,

This is kind of a weird one, but I had an abortion when I was 18. Around this time last year is when I found out I was pregnant.

The guy and I were never really compatible and we were never properly together. Looking back, I know it was the right decision for me. I've never really felt sadness, regret, or grief about it, and honestly I rarely think about it at all.

The thing is, when I do think about it, I almost feel guilty that I don't feel guilty. Like I see so many stories from people who struggle emotionally afterward, and meanwhile I'm just... okay? I don't miss being pregnant, I don't wish I'd made a different choice, and I don't feel like I lost something.

Part of me wonders if I'm weird for that. I've realized over the past year that I'm a huge people pleaser with rejection issues and I tend to overanalyze whether my feelings are "correct," so now I'm sitting here wondering if there's something wrong with me for not caring more.

I'm very pro-choice and think abortion should be accessible to every woman/person who wants one. For me, it was simply the right decision at the right time.

Has anyone else had an abortion and just felt... fine? Not relieved 24/7, not devastated, just okay? Is it normal to feel guilty about not feeling guilty?

plz help me guys

I'm 19F and I've struggled with depression for as long as I can remember. Today is one of those days where everything just feels really heavy and I feel completely alone.

Lately I've realized I'm a massive people pleaser. I base way too much of my self-worth on whether people like me, want me around, text me back, choose me, etc. I have pretty intense rejection issues and once I started noticing them, I realized how much they affect literally every part of my life.

I graduated high school, tried university, and never really made friends. I've always felt like everyone else somehow got a handbook on how to connect with people and I missed the lesson. I had a boyfriend, and when he broke up with me it hit me a lot harder than I expected because it felt like I lost the one person who actually chose me.

I also struggle with body image and body dysmorphia. My weight is something I think about constantly, and honestly I'm tired of being at war with myself all the time. Sometimes I look in the mirror and feel okay, and other days I genuinely don't know what I look like anymore.

The worst part is that I've done all the things you're supposed to do. I've been in therapy for years. I've tried different medications. I've worked on myself. I've gone to the gym. I've pushed myself to keep going even when I didn't want to. And yet I still end up having days where I feel unbearably sad and wonder if anything is actually helping.

I feel like I'm watching everyone my age build friendships, relationships, and lives while I'm stuck trying to convince myself to keep hoping things will get better.

I don't really know what I'm looking for by posting this. Maybe I just want to know if anyone else has felt this way and eventually came out the other side. Right now I just feel really sad, really lonely, and really tired.

thanks for listening Reddit 🩷