u/UkuleleSugar

This sucks so much. I swear every guy I talk to eventually goes, "You have the same eyes as this girl I knew" or "Your voice reminds me of someone" or "You look exactly like this other girl"

Why does this keep happening to me? Am I secretly generated from the same character preset as every other brunette on Earth? And why do men think this is an okay thing to say? I'm trying to feel like a unique cool human, not NPC #37 from their memory bank.

A few months ago this random girl (who barely shows up to class) came up to us after a lecture. Me and the hottest guy in our class were just walking and talking, we used to hang out in the same friend group (nothing more of course lol). He was joking with her like "you don’t even know anyone here since you never come to class" and then asked what my name was. Without hesitation she goes: "idk but I know she is your girlfriend."

I mumbled something awkward like "we’re not together" but inside I was floating. He just laughed it off and we kept talking like nothing happened. Still rotting in bed replaying that tiny moment like a delulu loser. I left class feeling like Spider Man when he gets the Venom symbiote and suddenly turns super confident, strutting down the street like he owns everything

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How do you handle legitimate anger without becoming bitter or hardened? How do you stay feminine while standing up for yourself and dealing with unfair situations?

I'd appreciate any advice.

My parents used to block me from going to any event I seemed too excited about. For example: "Oh, you really want to go to the museum with the girls? Such a shame you are not going". Thats just one example out of many.

Ive always wondered how different I would be if I'd grown up with gentle, supportive parents instead. Sometimes I think I might have turned out relatively normal even if I were still unattractive because I would have had the chance to develop confidence and a healthier view of myself.