Is there any way to make things better with the other parent?
I met a guy who had 50/50 and no financial payments of any kind. The mother of his kid just split but they split amicably and they both remarried.
Is there a way to go from a contentious situation to something more amicable?
Title. This is kind of a break the glass moment. Need help. Been depressed and reclusive since the divorce.
Men who are happily married 10+ years: how much reassurance is normal in a healthy marriage?
One of my biggest fears about marriage is ending up in a relationship where I constantly feel monitored, distrusted, or responsible for managing my wife’s emotions.
I’ve dated women where I felt like I was frequently reassuring, defending my intentions, explaining myself, or trying to prevent misunderstandings. Over time I became resentful and felt trapped.
Part of me worries that this is just what relationships are, and that every marriage eventually turns into that.
Another part of me wonders whether I’ve simply chosen poorly or ignored red flags.
For those in healthy marriages:
• What does trust actually look like?
• How much reassurance is normal?
• What are signs of an emotionally stable woman while dating?
• What are signs of chronic insecurity?
• Did any of you have these fears before marriage and discover they were wrong?
I’m especially interested in hearing from men married 10+ years, what healthy trust between husband and wife actually looks like in real life.
My lawyer pushed me to give her more money than I needed to.
The mediator was biased against me.
Best case scenario the kids’ mom somehow chills out. But in the meantime I have to fight.
And I don’t have enough money for endless legal battles so I have to fight pro se.
My ex and I have been talking and she seems like she’s going off the deep end
I’ve been lonely lately and it’s nice to talk to someone, and we are able to connect on a deeper level. We’ve talked about why things didn’t work out and how it feels like we have some different values. She makes fun of me wanting a bunch of kids and wanting a wife who dresses modestly. She says I didn’t choose her. I see it differently, I consider that I was going through a lot and felt like life was more stressful with her than without her. She says she just wants to be chosen. She has been asking me if I would care if she dyed her hair and has stopped going to church and straight up asked me to hook up with her. I feel like just cutting her off would push her further into the deep end but also talking to her doesn’t feel right either. I don’t think there’s a problem with having a female friend, but I am not ok with inviting temptation or anything into my life.
My ex and I have been talking and she seems like she’s going off the deep end
I’ve been lonely lately and it’s nice to talk to someone, and we are able to connect on a deeper level. We’ve talked about why things didn’t work out and how it feels like we have some different values. She makes fun of me wanting a bunch of kids and wanting a wife who dresses modestly. She says I didn’t choose her. I see it differently, I consider that I was going through a lot and felt like life was more stressful with her than without her. She says she just wants to be chosen. She has been asking me if I would care if she dyed her hair and has stopped going to church and straight up asked me to hook up with her. I feel like just cutting her off would push her further into the deep end but also talking to her doesn’t feel right either. I don’t think there’s a problem with having a female friend, but I am not ok with inviting temptation or anything into my life.
My ex and I have been talking and she seems like she’s going off the deep end
I’ve been lonely lately and it’s nice to talk to someone, and we are able to connect on a deeper level. We’ve talked about why things didn’t work out and how it feels like we have some different values. She makes fun of me wanting a bunch of kids and wanting a wife who dresses modestly. She says I didn’t choose her. I see it differently, I consider that I was going through a lot and felt like life was more stressful with her than without her. She says she just wants to be chosen. She has been asking me if I would care if she dyed her hair and has stopped going to church and straight up asked me to hook up with her. I feel like just cutting her off would push her further into the deep end but also talking to her doesn’t feel right either. I don’t think there’s a problem with having a female friend, but I am not ok with inviting temptation or anything into my life.