u/UnderstandingTop6847

I was in a relationship with a girl for around 1–1.5 years. In the beginning, I told her clearly that I would not be able to marry her because my family does not allow love marriages. She continued to propose to me, and although she accepted that we might not be able to get married, she said that we could stay together for as long as we could. So the relationship continued.

During the relationship, I gradually realized that she was not someone with whom I could spend my entire life happily. There were several incidents, including cheating, compatibility issues between us, and behavior from her side that was quite abusive. I told her again later that I would not be able to marry her and that we should end the relationship there. However, because of our emotional attachment, she was unable to let go of me.

Around 2–3 weeks ago, my family found out about our relationship. They clearly told me that they would not be able to support or arrange my marriage with her. I explained this to her and told her that, given the circumstances, we needed to end the relationship and move on with our lives. After that, I blocked her everywhere.

However, after I blocked her, she continued trying to contact me through different phone numbers. She also somehow contacted my sister and started blackmailing her, saying that I needed to talk to her. I eventually unblocked her and tried to talk to her calmly, but she told me that she could not live without me and that I had to marry her, otherwise she would do something to herself.

I tried very hard to explain to her that marriage was not possible and that we both needed to move forward with our lives. She then started manipulating me in different ways, saying that she would run away from home and kill herself. She also made several attempts to harm herself. At some points, she also cut her own hand with blades and stuff.

I informed her family about what was happening, and her family also tried to explain to her that she should stop contacting me. However, after about two weeks, she has started trying to contact me again through different numbers. I have kept her blocked and I do not want to talk to her anymore because whenever I communicate with her, she starts threatening to harm herself.

Her mother has also threatened me, saying that if her daughter does anything to herself, I will be held responsible.

She is still calling me from different numbers, even though I am not answering any of the calls. But seeing all of this is seriously affecting my mental health, and I am constantly stressed and anxious about what might happen.

What should I do , I am getting mentally disturbed because all of this

would you marry a girl , who once cheated , saying she didn't know if I was loyal to her , just because she had a bad past and she considered I will cheat on her just like her ex did and she cheated on me , i somehow still stayed. She has been disrespectful , abusive , immature and unaccountable for her mistakes , and it's only been 1 year since we were in a relationship. in the beginning i told her that It might not be possible for me to marry, she accepted . but now she wants me to marry her , she has changed and has been better after that incident but her family knows about me and she thinks she will loose all her respect in the family if I leave her or if I don't marry her. Her family taunts her on her past relationship and she says that I don't want to give them another chance to say anything like that . She seriously now wants commitment for marriage but I don't know if I should marry her. I still have not said yess . Now what should I do ?