u/Unhappy_Soil_7599

I keep hearing that your thoughts and beliefs shape your reality, and lately I’ve been wondering about this a lot.

Deep down, I sometimes feel like marriage and kids just aren’t in the cards for me, even though part of me wants that life someday.

Has anyone else ever felt this way for years and still ended up finding a healthy relationship, marriage, or family? What changed for you? Your mindset? Timing? Healing? Pure luck?

I’d honestly just love to hear real stories from people who once felt hopeless or disconnected from that future but ended up surprised by life.

I’m a 33-year-old female who has been living alone in the same apartment for about a decade now. I’ve never had a roommate. I had two friends crash for a short while, and I genuinely enjoyed their company, but I couldn’t wait for them to leave so I could be alone again. I’m single and ready to enter a serious relationship that will eventually lead to marriage. I’m done settling for anything less. I’m also open to the possibility of having children. However, I’ve been alone for so long that I’m afraid I might end up staying that way forever.