u/UniqueBowler2887

This is a bit of a vent btw. So I play cymbals, and I have been told by all of the band managers, one of the drum captains, the danceline captain, the center snare, and a few random people that I'm good at it but I really worried that they're lying. So the song our school plays when the team scores or when we win isn't super difficult, but cymbals crash every beat for the entire song. And I play it right since it's musically easy, but during our parade yesterday(hoco) we played it like 5 times and genuinely felt like my arms were going to fall off. And the cymbal aren't super heavy compared to snare or bass or quads and I'm worried that I just suck. Plus two of the cymbals really struggle to count in time and our entire line gets shit for it since you can't tell super easy if we aren't all together. Plus our school doesn't do cymbal tricks and I feel like I'm just doing the easiest thing possible (even though I can do tricks and for the songs that the cymbals don't play I kinda adapted the danceline/silk line apart so I have something to do, our drum majors and directors love it) I kind of want to switch to snare or bass next year but I really enjoy cymbals. What do I do?

Update to my previous post, so I talked to my director, and she's letting me sing tenor! I'm a trans guy, so singing alto made me super dysphoric, and I'm so happy!!! She also said that my speaking voice is pretty low so yayayayay!!!

So school is a week done and I'm a trans guy in choir. I have been absolutely miserable singing alto and being lumped on with the girls, and my voice may be a little high for tenor, but I can pretty comfortably reach all the notes in the tenor range as long as I'm making sure I don't go too high. I really really want to sing tenor. I know that parts aren't tied to gender but in my school all the girls are alto/soprano, and all the guys are tenor/bass, and it makes choir so miserable if I feel dysphoric the entire time.

So I'm a transmasc wolf therian(sorry that it's so stereotypical) and wish I didn't have to hide. My parents openly hate therians and keep telling me I can be anything but an animal and it feels absolutely terrible. They don't want any part in helping me transition at school, my mom says using it/it's is like calling myself a slur(I use he/it/work but only told her he/it) and that it makes her want to die. I feel absolutely miserable. I've tried to talk about this is r/mental health and other similar subs but either got hate or was ignored, so maybe I'm going to post it here. I just genuinely need someone to talk to.

So I loved artfight and am so grateful for every single attack I received, is there anything similar to artfight I might be able to do?

I need a code! Thanks!

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I will attack anyone who answers the form by the end of the month. I'm a (mostly) traditional artist btw.

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(Repost, even though I'm still going through it, I just wanted some more)

The links weren't working, it's fixed now

So I use he/it pronouns, and honestly, I'm scared I'm asking too much. Both make me extremely euphoric, but people refuse to use it/it's at all, including other trans people. I am not using it in a reclining or self depricating way, it simply feels right. I didn't choose my pronouns, like most trans people, and it feels really terrible to constantly be told it's dehumanizing other trans people so people are allowed to use they instead of it and misgender me(I have been told this by both parents and my younger brother) Am I asling to much by wanting people to use it as well as he?

I'm transmasc and use he/it pronouns, and my mom just threatened to kill herself over it. For context I keep asking her to use my pronouns and she absolutely refuses to use it/it's. I told her it's my identity and she can't shame me into not being queer, but she said saying it makes her want to kill herself. She also said I am not allowed to ask my brother or dad to use it/it's either.

Edit: I am not forcing her to use it, she just keeps having tantrums. She refuses to use he as well but isn't as bitchy about it.

Edit 2: She has my dad on her side now.