u/United_Advisor1821

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Like 18+ text etc or they don't usually see any point in this

How to approach this convo in case someone is into entp like it might end up horrible

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I grew up in joint family so I shared home with my intj uncle for years

He was my fav uncle and it took me 26? Years to understand he will never like me as much as I like him

He isn't bad but I had a strong place in my heart for him for a long time

Now he lives in a different place

The problem is that when we call on phone, he would start enthusiastically and maybe sometimes even call or ask about me but in 2-5 mins or maybe ten, he goes to "hmm. Hmm. Hmm. " Basically he doesn't wanna talk anymore and doesn't say much.

I feel I didn't give good enough conversation or reply and he loses interest always. Still weird to me.

I talk to a lot of people online and it can easily go for hours so I don't think I'm that bad of a conversationalist. I'm infp.

I just don't understand him, how can stop having this drop of interest every time we call.

And yes I can't ask him this directly.

Person I'm talking to flirts with anyone tbh even any gender, they they critic and flirt again

I think it's all just a joke and sarcasm or fun to them

How to know if flirt is sincere?

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I'm recently talking to an entp online who either flirts (50%), shades (45%), general talk (5%) in the convo

He has told me few times it doesn't come from his heart if he is being shady or he doesn't mean bad but what he says is certainly associated with "bad people behavior" In my head

I told him gazillion times things I dont like, and he sometimes says sorry or tones it done but we have very different capacity in this

It seems he find it hard to be serious or have serious convo

Idk why he flirt so much, I'm much older than him, we're just platonic but seems like he just enjoys being extra nice or extra mean with words

He can either build you up or burn you down kinda vibe and both happens frequently

Is this normal for entp to flirt with anyone even if they have no romantic interest?

How can I know his true values when he makes offensive jokes 80% of the time?

Tbh I thought of telling him I might be on spectrum and have been sexually abused before but that seems too much to share idk

Probably his brain will freeze for a second as he isn't good at being serious and supportive

He is in early 20s I'm in late 20s

I feel weird about typing this here too, and not even sure if I should, it's weird to talk about these things as lines become blurry of - when I'm trying to tell because it impacts vs feeling it's emotional manipulation or sympathy seeking

I'm big believer that we shouldn't need to justify ourselves if we communicate boundaries but I'm yet unsure how serious he is in terms of actually being bad it is

Sometimes it happened before that he didn't realize how cringe something sounded until I said it myself to him

So not sure if his main priority is fun which comes from new topic and reaction at any cost

Or there's more to it

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I talk to so many people online, a lot of guy

Though recently I met someone and we're talking casually in group voice calls together

And god it three random people ask him his height in three different convo

I feel bad for him, as I feel it might feel insecure tho I think it doesn't happen in my opinion where I had this many height convos

Seems like he is insecure about it and is it a sign of attracting it?