u/Unusual_Peach_6373

Looking at honeymoon accommodation for next year in May - June.

Best recommendations to stay?
villa/ pool.

Restaurants that you love?

Best areas to visit?

Advice in general?

We are open to staying in Malta for a few nights (1 week) and Gozo for another few days.

Not party crazy.

I prefer a good red wine and local delicacies.

My other half is of direct Maltese heritage, near kalkata (apologies for the butchering of the place name) Unfortunately, due to deaths he has only visited once or twice as a child and does not know his family history. I, on the other hand, want to know the Maltese history if I’m changing my surname to a Maltese one. Is there a library with family history? We have grandparents names, his dad was born outside Malta and that’s about it. Could try visit while there.

SW 119kg 8th of December
CW 105kg
No movement since 21st of February.
On 7.5mg.

Workout x2 a week (group class)
Eat three meals a day (for example chicken salad no dressing tonight)
3 L of water a day
Will have a small snack of penguin bar or herseys small bar

Others have commented that I look smaller even though nothing has changed, actually it’s gone up 2 kg but I’m ignoring that rn.

What to do? Just keep at it with 7.5mg or move up? Sleep is fine.

I’m trying to organise my hen party and could really use advice from people who’ve managed complicated group dynamics.

My friends and family are spread across different countries, and I’m very conscious that travel and accommodation costs add up quickly. I personally don’t feel comfortable expecting people to spend huge amounts of money for one event, so my idea was to split things into a few smaller celebrations depending on location/group.

The complication is that my future mother-in-law wants to attend everything and is very keen on a big drinking-focused weekend. That’s totally fine for people who enjoy that, but it honestly isn’t very “me.” I don’t drink much at all, and I’m more into things like yoga, wellness/spa days, walks, good food, reading, relaxed activities, etc. the “boring one” really!
I don’t want anyone to feel excluded, but I also don’t want to spend my own hen weekend pretending to enjoy something that doesn’t reflect me just to keep everyone else happy.

Has anyone dealt with this kind of split expectation before?
How did you balance:
different budgets
different countries/logistics
family expectations
and very different ideas of what’s “fun”?
Would especially appreciate ideas for hen activities that work for both drinkers and non-drinkers without turning into a messy nightclub weekend.

Hello,

My in laws are unfortunately a broken family with history of alcohol addiction and have the emotional intelligence of a walnut. My other half and I are good, we (he implements it) have good boundaries with them.

I struggle with them not being nice. I know this is so basic compared with other stories here. Maybe I’m looking for advice from others who have more experience with this.

Family means the world to me: treat each other well, mind each other and don’t hold grudges. I know I sound like I’m winging and moaning myrtle.

The best way to describe it is

Let’s say it’s run up to Mother’s Day…
My other half has never done Mother’s Day.
In my opinion, that’s on the mother and father to show the kids how to be a nice kid. Give a card, buy flowers etc. I’ve never seen anyone in his family do anything for Mother’s Day in the in laws house.
I start getting abusive phone calls from her (other half did not receive one)…
And then his mother demands we both go on the phone so we’re like yeah no problem. Next part of the conversation takes the biscuit, so what are your plans for my Mother’s Day….
Proceeds to cry, moan, bitch.

Do these 60 year old women genuinely not understand how to identify their emotions, feelings, emotional regulation and know what therapy is.

Roll on a few weeks, I achieved something that less than 1% of the world has done. It’s so impressive that it feels frustrating that it’s not understood within his family.

Not one person from that family has said well done or congratulated me or mentioned it to my other half.

I always let go.

We have unwritten agreement that we don’t answer the phone after 4pm to avoid conflict. We do not drink around her.

We’re getting married. Someone told me after they asked her are you looking forward to their wedding. She responded with I can’t wait for the hen party….insinuating she’s there to get on the drink, get hammered etc. I have one stress about the wedding and it’s her drinking too much, shouting insanity at me.

She has a history of verbal abuse to all previous girlfriends. Until I came, I received verbal abuse one random night and I squashed it asap. I came across very difficult and a right meany. I did it to protect my future self. She did apologise at the time. Since then, my other half has become the barrier to protect me.

I want to maintain somewhat of a relationship with her. I feel I grieve a relationship that never existed and never will.

I’ve had other older women who are her age, say to me I wish you were my daughter in law. They’re just so kind, sweet and caring. Similar to my mother. Will it ever change? I don’t want to be asking for the basics.

Currently 105. 5ft. 43 kg seems ridiculously small. It’s 3kg heavier than my dog. What’s your weight for 5ft? Do you feel healthy/suit at that weight?

Brooklyn city hall on 12th of May! Anyone available for a
Photography?

Always see people having bad side effects. I’m the opposite and not many people speak about it. I had extreme pain, pcos related issues. IBS - same issues with belly problems. For the past 6-8 years.

5.5 months on MJ:

14kg down
No pain on/before or after periods
Period cycle now normal range
No IBS symptoms at all
Scans—> no cysts
Bloods—> normal

If you have pcos or IBS, how have found MJ for your symptoms?