u/Upbeat_Cost_3246

In my experience, it is a lot easier to tell an INFJ from an ISFJ than it is to tell an INFP from an ISFP.

I just realized all of my best/close friends since childhood have been either enfp or enfj.

Enfj are usually the longer lasting friendships, very close, mostly the kind of friendship where you don’t need to do anything and can talk for hours. Though these are usually the friends who say they want to do lots of things with you but never get around to it or hang with their other friends more.

Enfp are usually the friendships when we instantly become friends due to doing spontaneous/goofy things together, making random plans and committing, and laughing about everything. Though, these friendships have never lasted long, not due to conflict, just due to our lives no longer intersecting or getting busy or them making more friends and forgetting me lol.

Why am I constantly reminding people to pay me?

Often i have to remind parents to pay for their kids’ private coaching after the lesson is already complete or hours later when I realize they didn’t send it. (Usually they forget to pay if one day a nanny or a different family member brings the kids. But sometimes parents sit and watch the whole lesson and somehow still forget to pay?)

Or emailing my boss because I have been employed for a few weeks and he still hasn’t asked for my payment info.

I hate asking for money. I hate being annoying.

People should be able to keep up with what they owe.

Recently I did this project where everyone writes their character a monologue and performs it. Obviously, what you choose to write about reflects your inner world/emotional landscape. But I could tell that their emotions were 100% real, not acted, simply by the tone/pain of their voice. It’s not just that they’re good actors. I’ve seen them act in other ways, and the acting is still great/realistic but doesn’t feel lived in.

And I know it’s real because some of them I’ve talked to afterwards. And their monologue was basically a metaphor for something they went through. For example, specific things they said about loneliness, longing, insecurities were fully true, although the character/story/circumstances were fictional. Specific as in things like “everyone always expected me to be…”

I’ve also thought this about movies. I’m not just talking about method acting feeling authentic. I’m talking about an actor saying something like “don’t leave me again” and knowing that the actor is speaking from personal experience.

So basically my brain loves to pick apart what parts of a story/character are fake and what parts are real.

This is kind of overanalyzing maybe an obvious thing but i just really like psychology.