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There is a Serial Killer Expo located in NYC where people can walk through exhibits in a haunted house type ambiance. Each exhibit is a ghoulish reconstruction of various crime scenes featuring things like severed head props - and is advertised as an immersive experience to "get inside the mind of a serial killer" They sell food and drink while you walk through other people's real life hell and demise!

Of course the vast majority of exhibits are male serial killers hunting down female victims. For example David Parker Ray was a serial killer with an estimated 40 women victims - his MO was drugging women - kidnapping them to his torture chamber where he would strap them to a gynecologic exam table. When the women woke up they would be surrounded by torture devices and an audio recording playing where he would detail how he was going to rape and torture them to death and taunt them as psychological torture prior to their actual physical abuse and murder. Some of these women endured this FOR MONTHS.

Now men can pay 30 bucks a pop to see an eerie recreation of the torture room and torture devices and read excerpts of his taunts to victims. When on tour, this exhibit had such high demand that they extended showing dates.

Can you imagine an exhibit where white people could walk through a sensationalized immersive experience of lynching and slavery? Can you imagine the Holocaust museum turned from a somber remembrance of Jewish genocide - that focused on the humanity of its victims...into a spectacle for people to "get inside the mind" of a Nazi as they reenact the atrocities from the perpetrators perspective???

This is the world women have live in - where this level of hatred toward women is accepted and celebrated as a good time on a Friday night.

I hear a lot of implying that feminism is the cause of falling birth rates and the Nuclear family/infringing on women's rights is the solution.

Maybe we need to lean harder into feminism and normalize polyandry instead?

We have women who want to live a liberated lifestyle

We have men who are struggling to get someone to birth them a family

We have society needing higher fertility rates

Can we provide a solution to all without violating human rights?

I'd happily pop out a few kids if 3-4 men funded my lifestyle and delegated household duties amongst themselves. These kids would have 4 adults providing and parenting for them! I prefer this to the handmaidens tale.

Ex Catholic here - I left the religion because it didn't make any logical sense, the bible has some clearly immoral verses (especially in the old testament), and the catholic church is filled with misogyny and homophobia and is harmful to society.

However, Jesus as an example of a great person still holds up in my opinion. He stopped the stoning of an adulteress and told everyone to not be judgmental. He made friends with prostitutes and lepers. His parables preached radically progressive versions of virtues like forgiveness and mercy and love. None of his direct guidelines sound immoral to modern ears (IMO). And his biggest "sin" was violently expelling people turning the temple into a money-making business.

I am aware that Mohammad was a pedophile. A war criminal. A pervert. A rapist of a sex slave. A dog hater. etc.

I am aware he advocated for nicer treatment of slaves (lol). And stopped the murdering of female babies. And I am sure there are other generic guidelines to be a good person from his revelations.

But I am wondering are there any stories of his exceptional bravery, kindness, or mercy? How does he stand out as a "perfect" example to true believers?

As a single, childfree, educated and financially secure woman living in the West

10. Concrete economic structures to alleviate the financial burden of parenthood = free higher education, daycare stipends, free healthcare, tax breaks, maybe even food stamps and housing benefits for parents. Affordable food and housing in general. A living wage for ALL employees to have a family if they desire. Significant free support for special needs children.

11. Parent-friendly workplace environment - on site daycare or flexible remote work. Generous sick leave/vacation leave. Work schedules flexible around school schedules. In general work-life balance focus rather than grind and hustle culture. A 4 day work week.

12. Affordable medical interventions for delayed family planning - free egg freezing and storage at any age, free IVF, funding for advancing research to improve fertility rates at increasing maternal ages.

13. A culture that improves health outcomes at all ages - reduce prices for whole foods, better regulations on food additives, mental health services incorporated into standard care, etc - decrease obesity, depression, and extends life expectancy and quality of life in old age

14. Incorporate education on child psychology and childrearing best practices and marriage/family theories in high school education. (So that people feel prepared).

15. Significantly decrease domestic violence and gendered abuse. For many women, marriage or even just dating feels like Russian Roulette into a lethal trap - the system (courts, society, therapy, etc) tend to be stacked against the victim.

16. A societal shift to encourage peer connection rather than isolation. Aka a significant reduction in social media and online dating and increase in "third spaces" to make real and repeated connections with others. Isolation in your 20s will obviously lead to less procreation.

17. Treat pregnancy and birth as a major life event that needs a ton of support - significant leave time, regular massage and other "pampering" should be expected, make policing pain medication and c-sections taboo, take preventative measures for postpartum depression. Make "mommy make overs" like tummy tucks and spider vein removal a part of the health care package for moms.

18. Create a culture that focuses on family - not individualism. Grandparents, parents and grandchildren living together is normal - not a sign of being a loser. Children flying on planes or participating in public spaces is their right - not an annoyance for childless people to regulate. Especially for special needs kids.

19. End misogyny. True egalitarian parental roles. Stop blaming and judging mothers for every goddamn tiny mistake while also giving them the majority of the responsibility down to the tiniest detail. IME even "good fathers" are LIGHTYEARS away from performing the same constant and thankless labor of their spouses. This is a massive reason why I have no interest in having kids as a woman....I wouldn't mind being a dad though lol. Make the objectifying of women's bodies taboo. The witch-hunting and Karen-dismissing of women with real complaints. Solve the fucking sexual violence epidemic. (to name a few)

And for more progressive Muslim-majority countries - do you see them becoming more progressive or are they trending towards being more conservative?